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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would message him from your fake profile. See if he answers.

That's what I would do now, after having been cheated on. Get as much knowledge as you can. Arrange a meeting with him from your profile, see what kind of excuse he uses if/when he leaves for the meeting. That kind of thing.

What I might do, is arrange a meeting. Then when he should be meeting with you, send him a text telling him you need him to come home ASAP. That's when you confront him. Where did he go? Then show him printouts of the messages and tell him that profile is yours, setting him up.

From what I can tell he's had a bunch of messages over the last 3 days since he joined but he hasn't actually read any of them or gone on the site again since the day he set it up.

Good god - what would burn me up is why does he have do much time and energy for that crap with 3 little kids?!
What a jerk.

Anonymous wrote:I didn't think about my lady, I know that sounds kind of mean
But me and my old lady had fallen into the same old dull routine
So I wrote to the paper, took out a personal ad
And though I'm nobody's poet, I thought it wasn't half bad

Yes, I like piña coladas and getting caught in the rain
I'm not much into health food, I am into champagne
I've got to meet you by tomorrow noon and cut through all this red tape
At a bar called O'Malley's where we'll plan our escape

So I waited with high hopes and she walked in the place
I knew her smile in an instant, I knew the curve of her face
It was my own lovely lady and she said, "oh, it's you."
Then we laughed for a moment and I said, "I never knew."

Anonymous wrote:You should plan to meet him as somebody from the site.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would message him from your fake profile. See if he answers.

That's what I would do now, after having been cheated on. Get as much knowledge as you can. Arrange a meeting with him from your profile, see what kind of excuse he uses if/when he leaves for the meeting. That kind of thing.

What I might do, is arrange a meeting. Then when he should be meeting with you, send him a text telling him you need him to come home ASAP. That's when you confront him. Where did he go? Then show him printouts of the messages and tell him that profile is yours, setting him up.

From what I can tell he's had a bunch of messages over the last 3 days since he joined but he hasn't actually read any of them or gone on the site again since the day he set it up.

Anonymous wrote:I'd give him enough time to hang himself. Confront him now and he'll say he was just curious and never intended to meet anyone or he was looking for friend. I think you'll have a much better chance of getting him to work on the marriage and address the core issues if he can't deny because he knows he's caught.

Anonymous wrote:Then take this as a gift. Instead of using this to attack and alienate your husband, you could use this as a springboard to investigate how each of you see your marriage. No marriage is perfect nor is it likely doomed. You could reach a far more secure relationship if you can work together on improving your communication and trust issues.

Anonymous wrote:First, I'm sorry.
Second, I had a similar situation (profile but not yet anything else) with my DH. I confronted and sadly he gas-lighted me for a long time and made up a bunch of lies. I should have printed out a copy of the stuff before I confronted. I also wish I hadn't confronted when we had our daughter in the house since the explosive fight we had was heard by her.

But I demanded we go to counseling (which is something I had never done before) and we went. And a year later, we were better than ever.

best of luck to you.

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Anonymous wrote:You are reacting to very little knowledge and mostly suspicion. There is no rush to confront. You will not change anything that has happened. Step back and examine your marriage. What is wrong in your marriage? The profile is a symptom.

Obviously something is very wrong in my marriage but I have no idea what. We argue sometimes but not often and I thought we were both happy. I won't know what's "wrong" until I talk to him.