Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's all I can say right now. Ruined the 4th.

Bummer, OP. Sorry to hear it. Thankfully, it's just one day.

I hope you two find your way back to each other.

Thank you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:SBU = sperm build up

It's the male version of PMS. It's easy to address: empty the pipes.

I'm totally serious. My DH has SBU after 48 hours. Keep them serviced every 24 hours and you won't have a cranky DH.

#menareeasy

OP here. Not it. We fooled around yesterday. He's freaked out about $$$ and the messy house.

Can you do anything about the $$$ and messy house? I mean, I know women are always given a pass to "just vent" about their husbands, but if I (a woman) were "freaked out" about money and clutter, having my anxiety labeled "freaking out" and summarily dismissed would make me feel pretty screamy, too.

You don't sound like the most compassionate person about this. Maybe that's because you're stressed about the same issues? Or your own stuff? It's so easy to paint a certain picture on the internet, but these things do have a cause. And since they're happening repeatedly, part of the situation is you. You can claim victim status, and attempt to duck responsibility for your own involvement by blaming him, but think long and hard about whether or not he truly just "snaps" or if there's repeated behaviors that trigger it.

Of course, you may decide you don't care about what you're doing to contribute. That's also your right.

Good luck.

Anonymous wrote:That's all I can say right now. Ruined the 4th.

Bummer, OP. Sorry to hear it. Thankfully, it's just one day.

I hope you two find your way back to each other.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:SBU = sperm build up

It's the male version of PMS. It's easy to address: empty the pipes.

I'm totally serious. My DH has SBU after 48 hours. Keep them serviced every 24 hours and you won't have a cranky DH.

#menareeasy

#menarepathtic #youhaveturnedyourselfintoaprostitute

Hardly.

First, I actually enjoy sex (and I'm truly sorry if you don't...your life must be dreadful).

I noticed rather early on that regular sex has an impact on both of us...but it's more dramatic for him. A friend happened to raise this issue one time, and she called it SBU. The name stuck. Most of my peers can relate.

So, OP: when was the last time your DH had sex?

You really are trivializing OP's problem. You're offensive.

Boy, you are quite the drama queen!

So the op's husband lost his shit? And? It happens to the best of us.

No, it doesn't. Not everyone loses their shit, and not everyone screams and yells, and these things are not things normal adults do.

Yes, actually, they are. They aren't mandatory, but they are perfectly normal. And yes, everyone does lose their stuff. Some people yell, some people drink, some people cork it until it festers and comes out as a midlife crisis, etc. Not being in total control 24/7 is perfectly normal and human.

You may need to figure out why you don't understand that about yourself, PP.

Anonymous wrote:News flash: thinking of having sex with a mean, yelling man is disgusting to many women. Seriously - no bigger turnoff....

OP again. Exactly. I'm sleeping on the couch tonight. This is a repetitive pattern. He will blow a gasket, then pretend nothing happened. I'll say we need to go to counseling, and then he'll "behave" for a while. Repeat cycle. His father was a bastard too - I should have picked up on the signs when we were dating.

And to pp, no, he didn't need to watch the kids. They're older kids.

Anonymous wrote:SBU = sperm build up

It's the male version of PMS. It's easy to address: empty the pipes.

I'm totally serious. My DH has SBU after 48 hours. Keep them serviced every 24 hours and you won't have a cranky DH.

#menareeasy

OP here. Not it. We fooled around yesterday. He's freaked out about $$$ and the messy house.

News flash: thinking of having sex with a mean, yelling man is disgusting to many women. Seriously - no bigger turnoff....

Anonymous wrote:SBU = sperm build up

It's the male version of PMS. It's easy to address: empty the pipes.

I'm totally serious. My DH has SBU after 48 hours. Keep them serviced every 24 hours and you won't have a cranky DH.

#menareeasy

that makes you enable the bad behavior and you are blaming the victim. Also it makes you a prostitute

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:SBU = sperm build up

It's the male version of PMS. It's easy to address: empty the pipes.

I'm totally serious. My DH has SBU after 48 hours. Keep them serviced every 24 hours and you won't have a cranky DH.

#menareeasy

#menarepathtic #youhaveturnedyourselfintoaprostitute

Hardly.

First, I actually enjoy sex (and I'm truly sorry if you don't...your life must be dreadful).

I noticed rather early on that regular sex has an impact on both of us...but it's more dramatic for him. A friend happened to raise this issue one time, and she called it SBU. The name stuck. Most of my peers can relate.

So, OP: when was the last time your DH had sex?

You really are trivializing OP's problem. You're offensive.

Boy, you are quite the drama queen!

So the op's husband lost his shit? And? It happens to the best of us.

No, it doesn't. Not everyone loses their shit, and not everyone screams and yells, and these things are not things normal adults do.

Some people yell. That alone doesn't make them abusive.

I know a few women who divorced their nice, sweet, quiet husbands after two decades of boredom. "Yes dear" gets old quickly...especially after you've devolved to sexless roommates.

BS. The middle-aged women don't divorce their husbands. It's the middle-aged husbands who trade in their middle-aged wives for a younger, more exciting model.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:SBU = sperm build up

It's the male version of PMS. It's easy to address: empty the pipes.

I'm totally serious. My DH has SBU after 48 hours. Keep them serviced every 24 hours and you won't have a cranky DH.

#menareeasy

#menarepathtic #youhaveturnedyourselfintoaprostitute

Hardly.

First, I actually enjoy sex (and I'm truly sorry if you don't...your life must be dreadful).

I noticed rather early on that regular sex has an impact on both of us...but it's more dramatic for him. A friend happened to raise this issue one time, and she called it SBU. The name stuck. Most of my peers can relate.

So, OP: when was the last time your DH had sex?

You really are trivializing OP's problem. You're offensive.

Boy, you are quite the drama queen!

So the op's husband lost his shit? And? It happens to the best of us.

No, it doesn't. Not everyone loses their shit, and not everyone screams and yells, and these things are not things normal adults do.

Some people yell. That alone doesn't make them abusive.

I know a few women who divorced their nice, sweet, quiet husbands after two decades of boredom. "Yes dear" gets old quickly...especially after you've devolved to sexless roommates.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:SBU = sperm build up

It's the male version of PMS. It's easy to address: empty the pipes.

I'm totally serious. My DH has SBU after 48 hours. Keep them serviced every 24 hours and you won't have a cranky DH.

#menareeasy

#menarepathtic #youhaveturnedyourselfintoaprostitute

Hardly.

First, I actually enjoy sex (and I'm truly sorry if you don't...your life must be dreadful).

I noticed rather early on that regular sex has an impact on both of us...but it's more dramatic for him. A friend happened to raise this issue one time, and she called it SBU. The name stuck. Most of my peers can relate.

So, OP: when was the last time your DH had sex?

You really are trivializing OP's problem. You're offensive.

Boy, you are quite the drama queen!

So the op's husband lost his shit? And? It happens to the best of us.

No, it doesn't. Not everyone loses their shit, and not everyone screams and yells, and these things are not things normal adults do.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:SBU = sperm build up

It's the male version of PMS. It's easy to address: empty the pipes.

I'm totally serious. My DH has SBU after 48 hours. Keep them serviced every 24 hours and you won't have a cranky DH.

#menareeasy

#menarepathtic #youhaveturnedyourselfintoaprostitute

Hardly.

First, I actually enjoy sex (and I'm truly sorry if you don't...your life must be dreadful).

I noticed rather early on that regular sex has an impact on both of us...but it's more dramatic for him. A friend happened to raise this issue one time, and she called it SBU. The name stuck. Most of my peers can relate.

So, OP: when was the last time your DH had sex?

Have sex because you enjoy it= normal

Having sex because you are afraid your pathetic husband will lose his temper if he does not get any after 48 hours = protitution... It's not money but it is the same.... I suspect you were raise in an abusive family and don't even know it.

There are actually women in relationships get have sex out of pure enjoyment not under fear of reprisal. To you this is probably a foreign concept and you don't even know you are the one with the dreadful life.

Stop playing on dcum, and go focus on your family.

Nobody likes to be cooped up on a rainy holiday. Your day might have been better had you created a diversion for your family. I'm guessing your husband had to watch the kids while you cleaned? I can understand why he might have lost it.

Newsflash: just because a person screams on occasion doesn't mean he's abusive. If he is sbusive, then the OP would know that (and we wouldn't since you can't label any guy who yells as abusive). And if the OP is tolerating an abusive situation, then she should figure out why that is and take action.

My two cents: OP is merely venting.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:SBU = sperm build up

It's the male version of PMS. It's easy to address: empty the pipes.

I'm totally serious. My DH has SBU after 48 hours. Keep them serviced every 24 hours and you won't have a cranky DH.

#menareeasy

#menarepathtic #youhaveturnedyourselfintoaprostitute

Hardly.

First, I actually enjoy sex (and I'm truly sorry if you don't...your life must be dreadful).

I noticed rather early on that regular sex has an impact on both of us...but it's more dramatic for him. A friend happened to raise this issue one time, and she called it SBU. The name stuck. Most of my peers can relate.

So, OP: when was the last time your DH had sex?

You really are trivializing OP's problem. You're offensive.

Boy, you are quite the drama queen!

So the op's husband lost his shit? And? It happens to the best of us.

Any rational person reading this thread could easily point out which poster is the drama queen...honey.

Kids don't deserve to "be used" to yelling and screaming, stupid.