Anonymous
Post 06/15/2016 16:29     Subject: Re:What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
There's nothing wrong with it. Men want you to think there is because it's something that is harder for them to do (marry up).
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2016 16:28     Subject: What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Notice that when a man marries a young hot 20 something, he never gets vilified. It's always the girl who is the vicious, scheming gold digger!


It's the same concept when a guy wants to marry a hot/attractive woman. No one thinks there's anything wrong with that. What's the difference?


The difference is the appreciation of beauty is seen as human nature whereas the worship of material wealth is seen as a less than admirable trait.


There is a beauty and appreciation of not having to be stressed out all the time about money, too.
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2016 16:26     Subject: What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Notice that when a man marries a young hot 20 something, he never gets vilified. It's always the girl who is the vicious, scheming gold digger!


It's the same concept when a guy wants to marry a hot/attractive woman. No one thinks there's anything wrong with that. What's the difference?

+1

I recall a long time ago, pre Trump presidential run, when Billy Bush from some entertainment show asked Melania if she would've married Trump if he didn't have money. Her response: "would he have married me if I weren't beautiful"? Has anyone asking Trump if he would've married Melania if she wasn't beautiful? I'd be interested in the response...no, not really.

Anonymous
Post 06/15/2016 16:15     Subject: What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:Why is there so much hostility towards a woman who expresses an interest in marrying well? Just because someone falls in love with someone who happens to be rich doesn't mean that woman is a gold digger. Neither does dating only the men who are financially stable make her one. Gold-digging is marrying someone for the express purpose of his wealth.In my experience, no one really does this. I do know women who actively filter men and date wealthy guys but marry them only if they love them. Why so much hate?



Works the other way too. I am dating guy who makes way under what I do. He is wonderful to me and loves me dearly. When or if we get married I would gladly hand over the check book to him.
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2016 15:17     Subject: What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
Money and property. I thought those were the reasons that marriage was invented in the first place. People were having sex long before the institution was invented they continue today without the holy bonds of matrimony.

Of course, if others see the marriage as a transaction - youth and beauty for wealth - in can be unbecoming. Don't worry about what they think. Enjoy

Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 23:58     Subject: What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Notice that when a man marries a young hot 20 something, he never gets vilified. It's always the girl who is the vicious, scheming gold digger!

There is sooooooo much misogyny threaded through our culture. Good for you OP, for starting to notice and question.


Yeah they do. If the man is significantly older, I figure he's too immature to be with someone closer to his age. He's only acceptable to someone young and less worldly.


I so agree. I am a young woman who gets hit on by a lot of older men and not only are they gross looking but I always figure they must be seriously intimidated by and rejected by older women if they have to try to get some less knowledgable 20 something to date them. That's the vibe I get, at least
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 23:55     Subject: What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:
Yeah they do. If the man is significantly older, I figure he's too immature to be with someone closer to his age. He's only acceptable to someone young and less worldly.


Yeah, you keep telling yourself that.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 23:45     Subject: What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Notice that when a man marries a young hot 20 something, he never gets vilified. It's always the girl who is the vicious, scheming gold digger!


It's the same concept when a guy wants to marry a hot/attractive woman. No one thinks there's anything wrong with that. What's the difference?


The difference is the appreciation of beauty is seen as human nature whereas the worship of material wealth is seen as a less than admirable trait.


See, this would work if women who married younger men weren't routinely vilified too. Either way you slice it, the woman is the awful one
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 23:44     Subject: What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Notice that when a man marries a young hot 20 something, he never gets vilified. It's always the girl who is the vicious, scheming gold digger!


It's the same concept when a guy wants to marry a hot/attractive woman. No one thinks there's anything wrong with that. What's the difference?


Exactly. There is none. But of course the woman is the one who is a terrible mean evil person
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 23:43     Subject: What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
What about a women marrying an older guy who has neither family wealth nor a good job, nor any real prospects, and who was previously divorced. Bizarre.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 21:51     Subject: What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Because it just acknowledges the economics of the marriage transaction while we're supposed to carry on with the fiction that you should marry for love.


but you can fall in love with a rich guy just as easily as with a poor guy, no?


Sure, and that rich guy should have a prenup that someone who falls in love should have no problem signing, because it's forever, right?
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 21:47     Subject: What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Notice that when a man marries a young hot 20 something, he never gets vilified. It's always the girl who is the vicious, scheming gold digger!


It's the same concept when a guy wants to marry a hot/attractive woman. No one thinks there's anything wrong with that. What's the difference?


The difference is the appreciation of beauty is seen as human nature whereas the worship of material wealth is seen as a less than admirable trait.


If you want it, earn it.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 21:44     Subject: Re:What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
And if either the man or the woman are complaining about not being able to obtain their rare required supermodel or prince, they do not deserve a pat on the back. You want a prince, figure out how to make it happen.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 21:26     Subject: What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Notice that when a man marries a young hot 20 something, he never gets vilified. It's always the girl who is the vicious, scheming gold digger!


It's the same concept when a guy wants to marry a hot/attractive woman. No one thinks there's anything wrong with that. What's the difference?


The difference is the appreciation of beauty is seen as human nature whereas the worship of material wealth is seen as a less than admirable trait.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 21:26     Subject: What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:Notice that when a man marries a young hot 20 something, he never gets vilified. It's always the girl who is the vicious, scheming gold digger!

There is sooooooo much misogyny threaded through our culture. Good for you OP, for starting to notice and question.


Yeah they do. If the man is significantly older, I figure he's too immature to be with someone closer to his age. He's only acceptable to someone young and less worldly.