Anonymous
06/18/2016 22:33
Subject: gift cards- How Much?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Agree. If you want to do more add it into the class teacher's gift. This is what I do so there is not an air of impropriety.
Why is it "proper" to give more as part of a group gift, but not as an individual gift?
The implication is what somehow if a gift is attributed, a teacher would do something different for the child. That's not possible when the gift occurs at the end of the year. And, most teachers are perfectly capable of accepting a gift without it affecting the way the treat children in the classroom.
I give generously to my kids' teachers, and save the most generous gifts for the end of the year precisely so teachers don't feel like I'm trying to influence how they treat my kids. It's a pure gesture of appreciation.
Of course I'm not going to treat a child differently because of a gift. But an extravagant gift (and yes, for a teacher $200 is an extravagant gift) feels like a tip you give to your hired help. It feels icky.
If it feels icky, feel free to return it. Sad that you see it this way rather than assuming the person who is giving is just generous and appreciative. $200 is not extravagant to us. We spend $200-$300 on close friends' birthday presents.
We deeply appreciate the role our kids' teachers play in their lives and are grateful that we've been blessed with some lovely, extraordinary people. If we were "tipping" them based on how we value their "service," the tip would be in the tens of thousands.
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Anonymous
06/18/2016 22:21
Subject: gift cards- How Much?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Agree. If you want to do more add it into the class teacher's gift. This is what I do so there is not an air of impropriety.
Why is it "proper" to give more as part of a group gift, but not as an individual gift?
The implication is what somehow if a gift is attributed, a teacher would do something different for the child. That's not possible when the gift occurs at the end of the year. And, most teachers are perfectly capable of accepting a gift without it affecting the way the treat children in the classroom.
I give generously to my kids' teachers, and save the most generous gifts for the end of the year precisely so teachers don't feel like I'm trying to influence how they treat my kids. It's a pure gesture of appreciation.
Yet you have kids -- plural. Ever had the same teacher twice? Do you think teachers talk and know who is extravagant with gifts?
Nope, haven't had the same teacher twice. No, Indon't think teachers are tacky enough to talk about which parents give more than others. What a crass thing to impute to them. It sounds like you have issues with generosity to teachers because you assume the worst about their character and motivation,
Anonymous
06/18/2016 21:18
Subject: gift cards- How Much?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Agree. If you want to do more add it into the class teacher's gift. This is what I do so there is not an air of impropriety.
Why is it "proper" to give more as part of a group gift, but not as an individual gift?
The implication is what somehow if a gift is attributed, a teacher would do something different for the child. That's not possible when the gift occurs at the end of the year. And, most teachers are perfectly capable of accepting a gift without it affecting the way the treat children in the classroom.
I give generously to my kids' teachers, and save the most generous gifts for the end of the year precisely so teachers don't feel like I'm trying to influence how they treat my kids. It's a pure gesture of appreciation.
Of course I'm not going to treat a child differently because of a gift. But an extravagant gift (and yes, for a teacher $200 is an extravagant gift) feels like a tip you give to your hired help. It feels icky.
Anonymous
06/18/2016 19:45
Subject: gift cards- How Much?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Agree. If you want to do more add it into the class teacher's gift. This is what I do so there is not an air of impropriety.
Why is it "proper" to give more as part of a group gift, but not as an individual gift?
The implication is what somehow if a gift is attributed, a teacher would do something different for the child. That's not possible when the gift occurs at the end of the year. And, most teachers are perfectly capable of accepting a gift without it affecting the way the treat children in the classroom.
I give generously to my kids' teachers, and save the most generous gifts for the end of the year precisely so teachers don't feel like I'm trying to influence how they treat my kids. It's a pure gesture of appreciation.
Yet you have kids -- plural. Ever had the same teacher twice? Do you think teachers talk and know who is extravagant with gifts?
Anonymous
06/18/2016 18:47
Subject: Re:gift cards- How Much?
I'm a teacher.
I get individual gift cards/cash anywhere between $15 - 300 at end of year.
I don't find any of them inappropriate, and I am grateful for each and every gift.
I get individual gift cards/cash anywhere between $15 - 300 at end of year.
I don't find any of them inappropriate, and I am grateful for each and every gift.
Anonymous
06/18/2016 18:28
Subject: gift cards- How Much?
Anonymous wrote:Agree. If you want to do more add it into the class teacher's gift. This is what I do so there is not an air of impropriety.
Why is it "proper" to give more as part of a group gift, but not as an individual gift?
The implication is what somehow if a gift is attributed, a teacher would do something different for the child. That's not possible when the gift occurs at the end of the year. And, most teachers are perfectly capable of accepting a gift without it affecting the way the treat children in the classroom.
I give generously to my kids' teachers, and save the most generous gifts for the end of the year precisely so teachers don't feel like I'm trying to influence how they treat my kids. It's a pure gesture of appreciation.
Anonymous
06/18/2016 16:12
Subject: gift cards- How Much?
Agree. If you want to do more add it into the class teacher's gift. This is what I do so there is not an air of impropriety.
Anonymous
06/18/2016 13:56
Subject: gift cards- How Much?
I'm a private school teacher and at the end of the year I get a group gift from parents. I'm pretty sure this comes from the class fund that is collected at the beginning of the year.
I'm sure the person who is giving a $200 gift has good intentions, but it is extremely inappropriate.
I'm sure the person who is giving a $200 gift has good intentions, but it is extremely inappropriate.
Anonymous
06/16/2016 18:35
Subject: gift cards- How Much?
Anonymous wrote:St Patrick's does. You are told to donate to room parent who then gives a group gift.
Bully for St. Patrick's. It's not a common practice among private schools to limit parents' gifts to teachers. I think it's strange that a school feels it has to "intervene" in how parents express thanks.
Anonymous
06/15/2016 21:12
Subject: gift cards- How Much?
St Patrick's does. You are told to donate to room parent who then gives a group gift.
Anonymous
06/15/2016 20:08
Subject: Re:gift cards- How Much?
anywhere between $25- $250 per family
Anonymous
06/14/2016 20:31
Subject: gift cards- How Much?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:no one is giving 200 that is a troll. This kind of gift the teacher's would get in trouble.
That's just plain stupid. WHy would the teachers get in trouble for the generosity of parents?
Our DCs' teachers had no issues with thr gifts. Sounds like you're petty and jealous that some parents can afford to give more generously.
No most schools do not allow expensive gifts as there can be the optics that teachers will treat said child differently. Same thing in the government.
Not true that "most schools do not allow expensive gifts." Three children, six different private schools through the years. Not one limited teachers' gifts. Nice try.
Anonymous
06/14/2016 17:00
Subject: gift cards- How Much?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:no one is giving 200 that is a troll. This kind of gift the teacher's would get in trouble.
That's just plain stupid. WHy would the teachers get in trouble for the generosity of parents?
Our DCs' teachers had no issues with thr gifts. Sounds like you're petty and jealous that some parents can afford to give more generously.
No most schools do not allow expensive gifts as there can be the optics that teachers will treat said child differently. Same thing in the government.
Anonymous
06/13/2016 20:58
Subject: gift cards- How Much?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:no one is giving 200 that is a troll. This kind of gift the teacher's would get in trouble.
That's just plain stupid. WHy would the teachers get in trouble for the generosity of parents?
Our DCs' teachers had no issues with thr gifts. Sounds like you're petty and jealous that some parents can afford to give more generously.
Gauche.
No, dear. Gauche is poor people pretending that being stingy is really a virtue.
Anonymous
06/11/2016 06:35
Subject: gift cards- How Much?
$20 Starbucks card