Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can dislocate someone's shoulder by dragging them by the arm. Part of me thinks OP is a troll, being so concerned that H slapped her wrist but is ok with her child being dragged.

OP intervened because she was NOT ok w/ the dragging

OP did not intervene. The story is bogus.

First of all, your remarks are not allowed on this site. If you believe someone is a troll, the protocol that Jeff Steele has established is that you go to Website Feedback or Report the post. You do not badger the OP or announce "Troll."

Second, you are completely out of line.

Unfortunately, I think it's time for him to move out. No more setting ultimatums, at least for now. Like PP said, if he proves himself in the future after therapy, you can cross that bridge when it comes.

There is a chance that he'll hit rock bottom, realize what he's done, and seek help. But it's not safe or healthy for you and your child to be in the house with him until that times comes. Please either make him leave or take your child and leave. What he did was physical abuse. I am one that believes in forgiveness and I believe that may come in your relationship, in the future, but for now you should not be together. He needs to understand how serious you are and staying with him will not get that message across. You also owe it to your child to protect them and show them that their mental and physical safety is most important. I wish I knew you IRL so that I could be a support. Do you have anyone near by?

You know, op, this is your line in the sand. He went over it. You need to ask him to move out. If he does anger management classes and PROVES himself, you might reconcile. But not a given .

I've got the same line in the same. Violence only escalates. Don't let this go there.

You married this man knowing he had these violent tendencies why? Why do couples always ignore warning signs earlier on in relationships. When someone shows you who they are always believe them. You have no control over his behavior only yours. You have 1 of 2 choices, correct the situation now and walk away from your abusive marriage with your child or stay and deal with it. Choose wisely the clock is ticking.

Your husband is out of control. This is a frightening story and I think you want confirmation that you need to leave. I'm giving it to you.

So what happened, OP?

Your child is growing up in a frightening, volatile household. You owe it to your kid to take some major action that demonstrates you are the protectors And willing to take a stand to make your home safe and peaceful.

Op here: I raise my voice too. But he yells in a way that's plain scary with crazy eyes threatening body language etc. We have spoken about this many times and he always promises to stop. He said that he will go to anger management classes which I want him to do for our kids' sake but he crossed a line with me today where I just can't imagine staying married to him. When I intervened today all I did is shout out DH's name, that little set him off. And what the 7 year old did was very minor too, he did not deserve to be yelled at.