Anonymous
Post 05/29/2016 22:21     Subject: Re:Dealing with a child's disappointment with college admissions process
She doesn't have to go to community college!

http://www.nacacnet.org/research/research-data/College-Openings/Pages/College-Openings-Results.aspx

Anonymous
Post 05/29/2016 20:34     Subject: Dealing with a child's disappointment with college admissions process
All this coddling and excuse-making didn't get OP's daughter very far, did it? You and your sycophants here are rationalizing how your daughter will turn out better than the gorgeous bitch-face babe.

Let's face facts: the gorgeous girl is FAR ahead of your daughter. She's only going to keep leaving your daughter in the dust UNLESS you all stop making excuses for her.

Grow up. All of you.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2016 08:20     Subject: Dealing with a child's disappointment with college admissions process
Anonymous wrote:There is one truth regarding education in this country: It does not matter where you start, it matters where you finish.


Winner, winner, chicken dinner!
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2016 07:26     Subject: Dealing with a child's disappointment with college admissions process
Anonymous wrote:There is one truth regarding education in this country: It does not matter where you start, it matters where you finish.


Yes.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2016 07:25     Subject: Re:Dealing with a child's disappointment with college admissions process
If you are in VA, yes, NVCC has an amazing guaranteed transfer program to, among other places, UVa. It's really not that hard to achieve.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2016 07:15     Subject: Dealing with a child's disappointment with college admissions process
There is one truth regarding education in this country: It does not matter where you start, it matters where you finish.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2016 21:46     Subject: Dealing with a child's disappointment with college admissions process

Well, financially you're making the right decision, OP!
And I'm sure your daughter can work hard, get stellar grades and recommendations and enter a very good university.

I know it's hard right now, but tell your daughter that life is long, and decades from now, she might live a dream life (interesting job and kind husband and cute kids)... and Miss Charm might not!

Anonymous
Post 05/28/2016 20:36     Subject: Re:Dealing with a child's disappointment with college admissions process
Agree with a minority of the other posters here. What went wrong that she couldn't even get into Longwood or Frostburg State or something? Finances, LD, mental health issues, what? That is key missing information that will govern your response to her disappointment.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2016 19:27     Subject: Re:Dealing with a child's disappointment with college admissions process
If you are in Maryland, she could do one to two years at MC and then move on to UMD or other in-state schools as long as she gets good grades; Likewise, 1 to 2 years at NOVA can lead to some great in-state options in Virginia. Ignore the queen bees of the world; she should focus on herself and not let the mean girls dictate her feelings. As long as she focuses on doing well academically in community college, she can eventually reach her goals.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2016 17:42     Subject: Dealing with a child's disappointment with college admissions process
Maybe this is the motivation she needs. Love her unconditionally and let her have her feelings. Perhaps now she will do what she needs to get where she wants.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2016 17:34     Subject: Re:Dealing with a child's disappointment with college admissions process
And it's a reasonable thing to be sad about. She didn't get her crap together and now her outcome isn't what she prefers. Lesson learned.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2016 15:52     Subject: Dealing with a child's disappointment with college admissions process
Anonymous wrote:OP - here's a suggestion that might be helpful. If you live in VA, your DD can transfer to UVA providing she takes the right courses at NOVA and gets the right grades. It's an often unused approach and VERY VERY smart. Please educate her about it. With soaring university prices, the community college approach makes a lot of sense. Md. may have the same - I don't know - but show her how smart that move can be. My cousin did it in the California system and moved from community college to UCLA after two years.


My brother did a guaranteed admissions program at CC to a 4 year school in WA state. It's a great way to save money.

Also, let her be sad. She's sad, and that's OK. She's allowed to have her feelings, as long as she's not taking them out on other people in negative ways, and that can help her figure out what to do next.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2016 15:27     Subject: Dealing with a child's disappointment with college admissions process
OP - here's a suggestion that might be helpful. If you live in VA, your DD can transfer to UVA providing she takes the right courses at NOVA and gets the right grades. It's an often unused approach and VERY VERY smart. Please educate her about it. With soaring university prices, the community college approach makes a lot of sense. Md. may have the same - I don't know - but show her how smart that move can be. My cousin did it in the California system and moved from community college to UCLA after two years.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2016 13:20     Subject: Re:Dealing with a child's disappointment with college admissions process
Op why are you in such a rush to fix your dd's feelings about this? Why are you so afraid for her to be sad? You know the truth about how this will most likely play out in the long run because you have life perspective. She doesn't yet. You can't solve that for her.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2016 12:53     Subject: Re:Dealing with a child's disappointment with college admissions process
Two words - "Glory Days"