Anonymous
Post 05/26/2016 12:05     Subject: Attending wedding is too expensive

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I just got an invitation to a wedding, when I specifically told my friend I couldn't attend 6 months ago. No, I am not sending a gift. I only send gifts when I attend weddings. I'm declining another wedding actually because the groom sent me a text (after I received the save the date but begore I got the wedding invite) telling me where they are registered but that they also wanted cash in addition to the registry. Yeah no, I'm not participating in tacky gift grabs!


I wouldn't assume the first invitation is a gift grab. Your friend likely sent it just in case you end up being available.


Agreed. I would never not send a friend or family member a wedding invitation, even if I knew they couldn't come and the invite was just a formality. It would seem so rude not to invite them. I wouldn't expect a gift, so don't think you need to send one, but just wanted to give a different perspective so you don't wrongly judge your friend!
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2016 10:52     Subject: Attending wedding is too expensive

I would just decline and if you think it will cause hurt feelings send a gift. I also agree with pp that a gift is NOT required, gifts are never required for these types of things but sometimes they can help keep the peace. Also your cousin may not care at all. I wasn't able to attend my cousins destination wedding and this is someone I'm very close too but I simply couldn't afford it. They weren't upset at all and never questioned it. Hopefully your cousin will feel the same way.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2016 10:42     Subject: Attending wedding is too expensive

Anonymous wrote:RSVP "not attending". Send a card and maybe a gift that fits in with what you can afford.


Posted too soon. Our gifts are always in line with our budget.. not whatever someone thinks we "should" spend.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2016 10:42     Subject: Attending wedding is too expensive

RSVP "not attending". Send a card and maybe a gift that fits in with what you can afford.