Anonymous wrote:She is 16. Let her do what she wants with her hair. There are far too many crazy crunchy types on this forum who are freaks about chemicals and even just washing and then heating hair daily through blow drying and irons.

I have super straight thick blonde hair. I am in my late 40s. My hair is incredibly healthy. I never have split ends or have to cut my hair (only cut it because I want to). I wash and blow dry it every single day and use a curling iron most days. I permed the heck out if my hair in the 80s. Now I lighten and color it. I have the healthiest hair you have ever ever seen. I use great shampoos and conditioners and products to keep it that way. You can do chemical processes on your hair and still keep it healthy by taking care of it. So many stupid, uninformed women on these threads it is ridiculous.

Let your daughter do what she wants to her hair. It is HER hair and hair grows out and is always changeable. Don't listen to the crazies on this site. They are wrong. Be kind to your daughter and let her do what she needs to feel good about herself.

You have super straight hair. You have no business giving advice on curly hair care. Curly hair is more dry than straight hair. Continual heat and straightening can mess up the natural curl pattern, and lead to frizziness. Just keep your straight hair habits out of this discussion. They are irrelevant. Also, are you saying that this girl needs to have straight hair to feel good about herself? Really?

Anonymous wrote:She is 16. Let her do what she wants with her hair. There are far too many crazy crunchy types on this forum who are freaks about chemicals and even just washing and then heating hair daily through blow drying and irons.

I have super straight thick blonde hair. I am in my late 40s. My hair is incredibly healthy. I never have split ends or have to cut my hair (only cut it because I want to). I wash and blow dry it every single day and use a curling iron most days. I permed the heck out if my hair in the 80s. Now I lighten and color it. I have the healthiest hair you have ever ever seen. I use great shampoos and conditioners and products to keep it that way. You can do chemical processes on your hair and still keep it healthy by taking care of it. So many stupid, uninformed women on these threads it is ridiculous.

Let your daughter do what she wants to her hair. It is HER hair and hair grows out and is always changeable. Don't listen to the crazies on this site. They are wrong. Be kind to your daughter and let her do what she needs to feel good about herself.

This. My mom meant well and was a wonderful mother. However, she micromanaged my hair and hair removal. She pretty much traumatized me as a young girl making me have long hair. Then she regulated me shaving my legs. Then gave me hell over plucking my eyebrows. It was ridiculous and so unnecessary. I wish she had just supported me and how I wanted to look. Unless got daughter wants to do something that isn't socially acceptable I would just let her do it. There are way more important things to voice your opinion about.

She is 16. Let her do what she wants with her hair. There are far too many crazy crunchy types on this forum who are freaks about chemicals and even just washing and then heating hair daily through blow drying and irons.

I have super straight thick blonde hair. I am in my late 40s. My hair is incredibly healthy. I never have split ends or have to cut my hair (only cut it because I want to). I wash and blow dry it every single day and use a curling iron most days. I permed the heck out if my hair in the 80s. Now I lighten and color it. I have the healthiest hair you have ever ever seen. I use great shampoos and conditioners and products to keep it that way. You can do chemical processes on your hair and still keep it healthy by taking care of it. So many stupid, uninformed women on these threads it is ridiculous.

Let your daughter do what she wants to her hair. It is HER hair and hair grows out and is always changeable. Don't listen to the crazies on this site. They are wrong. Be kind to your daughter and let her do what she needs to feel good about herself.

Nope - sorry but it also makes your hair look weird - like a fake straight because thats what it is. Buy her a straighter and get her a few trips to the dry bar when she wants it done. Not to mention its toxic!

PP here - has she learned how to straighten it herself? That will be much better for her hair than any chemical treatment.

+1 on the Japanese hair straightening instead. I wouldn't let my daughter do keratin because of the health risks, but did let her do the Japanese.

Anonymous wrote:This is exactly why I'm asking. I had my hair permed when I was her age because it was the thing that people did. Kids are able to have beauty treatments at this age so I was on the fence more because the treatment is supposedly so bad for you. On the other hand, I think they have changed them a bit to be less toxic. She doesn't drink, smoke, etc and is healthy. Is it so different then me perming my hair back in the day?

I'm not worried about her not liking it. She has tight, unmanageable curly hair. I take her for blow outs on very special occasions and her hair is gorgeous. Otherwise, she wears it pulled back every day and really doesn't like it and is self conscious. (Not just about her hair.) I'm leaning towards it because it might make her feel prettier and give her more confidence about how she looks.

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Anonymous wrote:This is exactly why I'm asking. I had my hair permed when I was her age because it was the thing that people did. Kids are able to have beauty treatments at this age so I was on the fence more because the treatment is supposedly so bad for you. On the other hand, I think they have changed them a bit to be less toxic. She doesn't drink, smoke, etc and is healthy. Is it so different then me perming my hair back in the day?

I'm not worried about her not liking it. She has tight, unmanageable curly hair. I take her for blow outs on very special occasions and her hair is gorgeous. Otherwise, she wears it pulled back every day and really doesn't like it and is self conscious. (Not just about her hair.) I'm leaning towards it because it might make her feel prettier and give her more confidence about how she looks.

Yes, it is different because we are better informed and
oncology has progressed.

+1

Anonymous wrote:This is exactly why I'm asking. I had my hair permed when I was her age because it was the thing that people did. Kids are able to have beauty treatments at this age so I was on the fence more because the treatment is supposedly so bad for you. On the other hand, I think they have changed them a bit to be less toxic. She doesn't drink, smoke, etc and is healthy. Is it so different then me perming my hair back in the day?

I'm not worried about her not liking it. She has tight, unmanageable curly hair. I take her for blow outs on very special occasions and her hair is gorgeous. Otherwise, she wears it pulled back every day and really doesn't like it and is self conscious. (Not just about her hair.) I'm leaning towards it because it might make her feel prettier and give her more confidence about how she looks.

Yes, it is different because we are better informed and
oncology has progressed.

Anonymous wrote:This is exactly why I'm asking. I had my hair permed when I was her age because it was the thing that people did. Kids are able to have beauty treatments at this age so I was on the fence more because the treatment is supposedly so bad for you. On the other hand, I think they have changed them a bit to be less toxic. She doesn't drink, smoke, etc and is healthy. Is it so different then me perming my hair back in the day?

I'm not worried about her not liking it. She has tight, unmanageable curly hair. I take her for blow outs on very special occasions and her hair is gorgeous. Otherwise, she wears it pulled back every day and really doesn't like it and is self conscious. (Not just about her hair.) I'm leaning towards it because it might make her feel prettier and give her more confidence about how she looks.

I have corkscrew curls, and I get a blow out maybe twice a year. The stylists invariably comment about how beautiful and healthy my hair is, how it isn't damaged, etc. Right - because I don't use toxic chemicals, and don't use heat on it more than a few times a year. Your daughter's hair probably looks gorgeous precisely because she has not been messing with it so far. Take her to a salon that specializes in curly hair. They can help her find the right products and routine to make her curly hair look wonderful. Your attitude that her hair is unmanageable does not help the situation. If you can't teach her to properly manage it, take her to someone who can.

You could try Japanese straightening in Rockville by Jane ma!
I use her for my 13 year old. She works at hair design zone. The chemicals are differrnt than keratin.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it ok with you and with her if she has a future of deformed babies and miscarriages, due to the carcinogens' effect on her DNA? If so, knock yourself out.

Good hair and the admiration of others is critically important.

Huh????

which part is confusing to you -- the science or the sarcasm?

That you seem deranged and overly emotional.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it ok with you and with her if she has a future of deformed babies and miscarriages, due to the carcinogens' effect on her DNA? If so, knock yourself out.

Good hair and the admiration of others is critically important.

Huh????

which part is confusing to you -- the science or the sarcasm?

This is exactly why I'm asking. I had my hair permed when I was her age because it was the thing that people did. Kids are able to have beauty treatments at this age so I was on the fence more because the treatment is supposedly so bad for you. On the other hand, I think they have changed them a bit to be less toxic. She doesn't drink, smoke, etc and is healthy. Is it so different then me perming my hair back in the day?

I'm not worried about her not liking it. She has tight, unmanageable curly hair. I take her for blow outs on very special occasions and her hair is gorgeous. Otherwise, she wears it pulled back every day and really doesn't like it and is self conscious. (Not just about her hair.) I'm leaning towards it because it might make her feel prettier and give her more confidence about how she looks.