Anonymous
Post 05/08/2016 08:59     Subject: I hate Mother's Day
It sucks for me because I am not demanding, and DH is a good spouse, but he's not an occasion guy - he's bad at birthdays and holidays. Normally, whatever. But for some reason my expectations that something really special "should" happen go up for Mother's Day, and then we have a nice normal day but I find myself easily pissed about how I am not appreciated. But I have arranged something nice for myself today.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2016 08:49     Subject: I hate Mother's Day
Glad to see this post. Was having a little pity party for myself this morning. First Mother's Day with baby number two and husband did not do anything special.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2016 08:14     Subject: I hate Mother's Day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I just asked to be able to sleep in and him get up with the kids, and then me take the kids to my mom's for the day, him included only if he wanted. I was told no to all. I had to tell my mom I wasn't allowed to see her on mother's day.


Can you please start a new thread about this? I would like to hear what you are allowed to do on Mother's Day.


Ok, so, I served breakfast, and was told to get the kids ready to go ASAP on a hike (something he likes to do), no mention of mother's day. Maybe a surprise? But, I really doubt it.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2016 07:58     Subject: I hate Mother's Day
I usually end up with an unhappy wife.

I will make a nice breakfast -- something like lox onions and eggs. Then, I will start on dinner. Tonight will be chicken Marsala (would do veal, but DD is horrified of veal). side of "adult" mac and cheese: use gryere and brie with white wine...

Not sure what veggie.


Wife will be upset because DD (14) will put minimal effort.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2016 07:30     Subject: I hate Mother's Day
Do you still greet HMD if she is not even worth it to be a mother?
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2016 06:33     Subject: I hate Mother's Day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I just asked to be able to sleep in and him get up with the kids, and then me take the kids to my mom's for the day, him included only if he wanted. I was told no to all. I had to tell my mom I wasn't allowed to see her on mother's day.


Are you the poster who is her husband's slave and can't do anything without his approval?



I don't think I'm the slave poster you are talking about, because I've not posted about this before, but I'm also not allowed to do anything or buy anything without my husband's approval. It did not start out this way, it evolved.


Define buy anything. Did you do something to get him to have this method of buying anything? I can't imagine this came out of the blue.

Yes, it is not right that he won't let you out of the house to see your own mother. That is controlling and possessive.


No, I'm really low maintenance, I've never spent much money on myself, he just has gradually become very different than he used to be, and freaked out one day accusing me of cheating, attacked me, and took over our finances. It's been downhill from there and I don't know what to do, I feel like I can't leave because of many reasons.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2016 06:28     Subject: I hate Mother's Day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I just asked to be able to sleep in and him get up with the kids, and then me take the kids to my mom's for the day, him included only if he wanted. I was told no to all. I had to tell my mom I wasn't allowed to see her on mother's day.


Can you please start a new thread about this? I would like to hear what you are allowed to do on Mother's Day.


Um, why would I need to start a new post? I'm up making breakfast, I can just post here what we do today, but I highly doubt there will be anything special for me. The kids brought home sweet happy mothers day projects from daycare though, so that was nice.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2016 04:28     Subject: I hate Mother's Day
Wow I forgot about mothers day!
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2016 00:39     Subject: I hate Mother's Day
Anonymous wrote:I just asked to be able to sleep in and him get up with the kids, and then me take the kids to my mom's for the day, him included only if he wanted. I was told no to all. I had to tell my mom I wasn't allowed to see her on mother's day.


Can you please start a new thread about this? I would like to hear what you are allowed to do on Mother's Day.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2016 00:36     Subject: I hate Mother's Day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, I am not DH's mother. However our DC is not yet old enough to make reservations or go shopping.

DH asked what I wanted for Mother Day's. I asked for one thing for tomorrow--to not be the person making the reservations. I gave him a list of ideas more than a month ago. He took notes.

On Tuesday he texted me to ask what I want to do for Mother's Day.

Um...not spend the evening seeing if any of the places I had suggested a month ago still had openings. Which they did not. Or come up with an alternate plan.

I'm in charge of everything 24/7/365 (this is at his request--he simply let inertia take over given the chance.) I wanted one day where I wasn't in charge.

Next year, I'm not even going to try.


Did you respond and tell him that, "For Mother's Day, I want you to plan something and not have me do it for you." Use your words! Tell him what you need.


I did exactly that. He didn't do anything.


How's your marriage otherwise?
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2016 23:23     Subject: I hate Mother's Day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, I am not DH's mother. However our DC is not yet old enough to make reservations or go shopping.

DH asked what I wanted for Mother Day's. I asked for one thing for tomorrow--to not be the person making the reservations. I gave him a list of ideas more than a month ago. He took notes.

On Tuesday he texted me to ask what I want to do for Mother's Day.

Um...not spend the evening seeing if any of the places I had suggested a month ago still had openings. Which they did not. Or come up with an alternate plan.

I'm in charge of everything 24/7/365 (this is at his request--he simply let inertia take over given the chance.) I wanted one day where I wasn't in charge.

Next year, I'm not even going to try.


Did you respond and tell him that, "For Mother's Day, I want you to plan something and not have me do it for you." Use your words! Tell him what you need.


I did exactly that. He didn't do anything.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2016 23:22     Subject: Re:I hate Mother's Day
It sounds like Mothers Day is disappointing for many of you because of your douchebag husbands. But what's more sad is that every day must also suck because of your douchebag husbands.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2016 23:21     Subject: I hate Mother's Day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I just asked to be able to sleep in and him get up with the kids, and then me take the kids to my mom's for the day, him included only if he wanted. I was told no to all. I had to tell my mom I wasn't allowed to see her on mother's day.


Are you the poster who is her husband's slave and can't do anything without his approval?



I don't think I'm the slave poster you are talking about, because I've not posted about this before, but I'm also not allowed to do anything or buy anything without my husband's approval. It did not start out this way, it evolved.


This is really sad. My DH is nothing like this so it's hard for me to understand this dynamic. I agree with the other poster, just go to your mom's with your kids if you want to. What would happen if you went anyway?
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2016 22:30     Subject: I hate Mother's Day
Anonymous wrote:No, I am not DH's mother. However our DC is not yet old enough to make reservations or go shopping.

DH asked what I wanted for Mother Day's. I asked for one thing for tomorrow--to not be the person making the reservations. I gave him a list of ideas more than a month ago. He took notes.

On Tuesday he texted me to ask what I want to do for Mother's Day.

Um...not spend the evening seeing if any of the places I had suggested a month ago still had openings. Which they did not. Or come up with an alternate plan.

I'm in charge of everything 24/7/365 (this is at his request--he simply let inertia take over given the chance.) I wanted one day where I wasn't in charge.

Next year, I'm not even going to try.


Did you respond and tell him that, "For Mother's Day, I want you to plan something and not have me do it for you." Use your words! Tell him what you need.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2016 22:30     Subject: I hate Mother's Day
Don't go out to eat on mother's day. Restaurants are madhouses -- makes everyone cranky. Why do that to yourself?