I was going to say I held the power b/c dh loves me more than I love him. But, know what? He cries, I try to fix it, so I think he holds the power. I'm a fucking captive here.

We were equally attractive until my DH gained a bunch of weight. I earn more and hold the power.

Anonymous wrote:The craziest one holds the power. Attractiveness has nothing to do with it.

+1

No fear, baby!

Anonymous wrote:Why do people ask these questions? Unbelievably dumb.

They have no life.

More attractive? Me. We share power in the relationship equally. In terms of conventional stats, I also am the "more" if you measure it by money, career status, and exposure to certain social circles and things. Yet we share the power because none of that crap matters as to what makes for a happy relationship (other than he does admit he likes having me on his arm). We both know better than to fall into that power trap - we're both divorced after long marriages that went to crap, so we try very hard to be respectful and kind at all times. He brings plenty to the table that you can't measure using that conventional thinking. BF/GF.

We are totally equal. I am more physically attractive but he is super sweet and makes a ton of money.

DH and I are equally good looking, which is really to his credit because he is much older than I. He has great bone structure but has put on a little weight since we married. I'm in better shape physically but I don't have his natural good bone structure or great looks, I'm kind of plain jane. I pick my battles and don't sweat the small stuff, so he makes more of the day-to-day decisions, and I weild more authority when it comes to the big decisions. It works.

GF here. I'm better looking, objectively. I probably have more power, in that I broke up with him once, and he actually was the one who came looking to get me back. It's whoever wants the relationship less that has more power. I don't know if this is tied to looks in ours, all, or any cases.

Anonymous wrote:The craziest one holds the power. Attractiveness has nothing to do with it.

I disagree. I'm definitely the crazier one but DH has the power. I think it's the less emotional partner who has the power.

I'm also more attractive than him.

I would say we're equal in attractiveness and fitness level, BUT DH is short so there's that.

We're a pretty handsome couple, if I do say so myself!

Used to be a 10, now I go to 11. DH was a 5, now he's an 8. We're more closely matched.

Really? DW started as a 10. Add plenty of wine, cheese, ice cream, and chocolate -- and unending complaints about work -- and she is now a 7. DH started as a 7. He is still trim, plus a couple of greys, plus an ever increasing salary -- and so has become a 9!

When we got married, my husband for sure. He's more refined in the way he dresses and takers pretty good care of himself, he definitely hasn't "let himself go". But 15 years later, he's still attractive in the face, but losing his hair at a rapid rate and I think I have come into my own more, so in all honestly I have probably surpassed him. I weight less than I did when we got married, spend more time on taking care of myself (probably because we have way more money than we did 15 years ago). He tells me often he is so glad he married me, so I feel very lucky. As for who holds the power, probably me, but only by a little.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife was when we got married. We're probably about the same now. Maybe I'm a little better looking - who cares?

The power has always been tilted in her direction because she has an extremely strong Type A personaity. I'm more of a peacemaker and only Type A at the office.

Are you my DH? jk, he doesn't read DCUM. But I am the DW and this is us exactly.

Yes, I'm your husband!

Anonymous wrote:My wife was when we got married. We're probably about the same now. Maybe I'm a little better looking - who cares?

The power has always been tilted in her direction because she has an extremely strong Type A personaity. I'm more of a peacemaker and only Type A at the office.

Are you my DH? jk, he doesn't read DCUM. But I am the DW and this is us exactly.