Anonymous
Post 05/04/2016 16:45     Subject: My husband is Captain Obvious
Anonymous wrote:My mom is like this. I am also sort of like this. It just makes me feel better to know that I've said out loud something that I need to make sure is done. It's not a trust issue. It's not really a nag issue. It just makes me feel better about it. I try to never say it in a patronizing way. If your husband is demeaning when he says it, or talks to you like you're stupid, I'd be mad. But I don't think this is an abnormal or worrisome behavior.


It is worrisome because YOU ARE ANNOYING. You probably annoy your entire family. My mom is like this and she has untreated anxiety
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2016 14:21     Subject: My husband is Captain Obvious
My DH asked me every night if I set the alarm for the AM - which I had already taken care of without fail every night.. I finally got tired of doing it and told him to do it. Stupid question stopped.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2016 14:10     Subject: My husband is Captain Obvious
It sounds like a case of common anxiety slash OCD.

I would talk to him directly & let him know that you are going to lose it if he doesn't quit soon.

Point out how responsible you have been thus far.

Did someone close to him recently lose a pet??
Much of his concern at the moment consists of Fido.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2016 14:04     Subject: My husband is Captain Obvious
Anonymous wrote:I call this "wear pants advice" as in "don't forget to wear pants when you leave the house." Duh.


I'm one of the PPs. My mother advised me (over the phone) to adjust the straps on the carseat when I put my 3yo DD in. Anxious much?
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2016 14:00     Subject: My husband is Captain Obvious
I call this "wear pants advice" as in "don't forget to wear pants when you leave the house." Duh.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2016 13:37     Subject: My husband is Captain Obvious
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It sounds like he has untreated anxiety.
+1 It's not you, OP, it's him. He is anxious. I know this because I struggle with the same thing.


Yep. Husband also has anxiety. Really improved with medication and therapy.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2016 13:33     Subject: My husband is Captain Obvious
Anonymous wrote:I get confused when people post things like this on here. Have you spoken to your HUSBAND about it, rather than a group of people that can't do anything to really help you? Not sure if you're just venting or if you want solutions.

My advice (if that's what you're looking for) is to say: Husband - why are you reminding me to give Fido water? And see what he responds.

There may be a deeper issue, as others alluded to. Otherwise, he may just be annoying - in which case, I'd remind him that you give Fido water every single morning, so you don't need a reminder. Or, use the sarcasm technique above - like OMG THANK YOU for the reminder that we have a dog, or tell him that he can now take that job on since he seems to want to control it, or whatever it takes.

Just talk to him!


People like to vent on here, instead of their real life friends, that is why the OP is posting.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2016 12:11     Subject: My husband is Captain Obvious
I lost all patience and started calling out DH each and every time he annoyed me like this. It helped somewhat. At least he doesn't think I imagine things now LOL
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2016 12:06     Subject: My husband is Captain Obvious
Could you describe what you did here to him? Something along the lines of "honey, I've noticed an increased frequency in these kinds of reminders. Many of these things are items I've already taken care of. Is there a reason you're concerned? I find it overwhelming."