Anonymous wrote:People should be valued and respected more than dogs.

Only if they earn that respect. OP's MIL clearly did not.

If anyone hurt my dog I would be completely done with them. What a horrible thing to do.

Why did the MIL push the dog off the couch? I'd go over and push her off and then put the dog in her spot. I'd rather keep the furry bitch.

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Anonymous wrote:If you dog is in so much pain you're doing plasma injections trying to hold on till the fall for surgery... you really need to put the dog down. For the sake of the dog.

Especially if the dog is only 4 years old. The dog is in for a lifetime of pain that you are only prolonging.

You tie with OP's MIL for the bitch prize.

No the PP does not. PP is right. Why let the dog continue to be in such agonizing pain. I find it inhumane to do that.

Also, sounds like you just don't like her and were looking for any opportunity to blow up at her.

I too wonder why you let a dog lick the child but you ask your MIL to wash her hands. I think you shouldn't have overreacted.

This is someone you have to deal with so long as you are married to your DH and now things will just be awkward. Things will be awkward not just for you and her, but for DH and anyone in the family who knows you don't get along. Hopefully you two can patch things and make up. Personally I would have brushed it off.

Your MIL sounds like a real piece of work, but you really need to reevaluate your priorities. You have invested a lot of emotional energy in a sick, suffering animal. You are treating it like a lovey that needs to be sewn back together because you need it so badly.

This is a 4 pound animal. I hope you are a vegetarian, because pigs and cows are just as worthy of your emotional energy (which is to say, not at all worthy). Instead of giving them acupuncture you are paying slaughterhouses to kill them with bolt guns and cut them up.

Anonymous wrote:You both are so mental, I think your DH is the real loser in this story.

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I cosign this

Anonymous wrote:If you dog is in so much pain you're doing plasma injections trying to hold on till the fall for surgery... you really need to put the dog down. For the sake of the dog.

Especially if the dog is only 4 years old. The dog is in for a lifetime of pain that you are only prolonging.

You tie with OP's MIL for the bitch prize.

If you dog is in so much pain you're doing plasma injections trying to hold on till the fall for surgery... you really need to put the dog down. For the sake of the dog.

Especially if the dog is only 4 years old. The dog is in for a lifetime of pain that you are only prolonging.

Jeez everyone, OP isn't the mental one here. OP's dog lives in that house, not the MIL. MIL gets no say in whether the dog gets on the furniture. If she doesn't like the rules, she's free to leave. It's as simple as that.

personally, I would humanely euthanize a pet that was in pain and needed more painful surgeries to have a good life. Millions of animals are euthanized every year for no other reason than they're homeless. They're not sick, they're not misbehaved, they don't need expensive surgeries and they don't live their lives in pain. But except for that issue, I'm with OP. Her house, her rules.

People should be valued and respected more than dogs.

You were right to be angry, and I would be too. In terms of next steps, as with most in-law problems, I would say let DH take the lead. If he says just to leave it alone and let it blow over, defer to him. If it eventually blows over and she comes back for another visit, keep the dog away from her to be safe (if the dog is still fragile), and otherwise be civil. If she screams at you again, tell DH that he needs to make sure she is respectful towards you, or you won't be participating in any more of her visits. If DH can't or won't do that, I would probably tell DH that she is welcome to come to visit him and the baby, but you will not be spending any significant time with her going forward.

Dogs should be outside

I hope your baby is a son and one day you will have a DIL like you who will "disown" you for whatever reason she has and cut you off from your son and grandchildren.