Anonymous wrote:I fantasize about boarding school for DD.

I went to a New England boarding school and could get my DD in pretty easily. She's a very good student and would be a legacy. The temptation is overwhelming some days.

They are assholes. At least mine is.

Sometimes because he is testing out behavior and I am the safest place to test.

Sometimes because his developing sense of self is so fragile that every single thing I say is interpreted as "you are a loser, kiddo." I try not to engage when this stuff is just about him, but it is hard not to take the bait when he's so damn aggressive in response.

But sometimes I glimpse the wonderful man he will be slowly emerging from the crap...

Anonymous wrote:There's a woman in my office with a two year old who can't talk enough about the precious things her DD does. I want to tell her to get ready to buckle up and hold on to her hat, but I bite my tongue. Let her enjoy the moment.

On behalf of her, thanks. I have a 2 year old and a 6 year old but teach high schoolers. I know it's coming, I just want to enjoy it now while they're little and sweet.

Their brains are literally incomplete. They cannot help but be assholes. They'll be back in a few years.

Anonymous wrote:Now I know why God invented boarding schools.

No. A thousand times NO!

Military Academy

Anonymous wrote:A friend once told me that if they were a pride of lions, her DH would have long since run off their teen DS, LOL.

Hmm, I think I might have eaten mine.

I fantasize about boarding school for DD.

Anonymous wrote:Now I know why God invented boarding schools.

I went to boarding school for high school. It definitely saved my relationship with my mother!

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Anonymous wrote:That doesn't seem like evolution (which implies an advancement). Seems like genetically ingrained stupidity.

Yea, you're probably right. Can we pack them full of birth control and just send them all to a commune together so we don't have to deal with them but they'll still be safe/cared for?

I thought that was called boarding school

I was born in another country and we have a saying "The stick came out of heaven." This is used in reference to kids and,yes, tanning their hides I was never tempted, not even remotely when my kids were younger, but these days I am so, so tempted! I don't, but it takes a lot of praying! And I am not really religious! Seriously, my kids would've been black and blue some 100 years ago, and my DD more so than my DS. Yet, other people think they are angels! Fallen angles from hell, the only saint in my house is me!

Now I know why God invented boarding schools.

And the screaming when talking to her friends! And even the ones that are polite to your face are a**holes about you to their "friends!" I have two of them, 17 and 14 year old, it is a war zone!

Word on the street is that DD13 and her mom got home one evening and her mom said "Why don't you go jump in the shower real quick?" and DD calmly replied "Why don't you go f**k a cactus real quick?"

Thank god her mother laughed because I think I'd have slapped her.

Anonymous wrote:Just venting. It's totally in the range of normal teen behavior over here this morning, but I completely get why in days of yore kids this age were booted out into the world. How this kid hasn't sprained his eyeballs from rolling them at me so hard is a mystery. Blargh. That is all.

I am laughing so much imagining sprained eye balls!! And eye rolling! Too funny OP.

I'm dealing with the same stuff, and it helps me to remember what my mom (an old school Freudian therapist) once told me about child development. Teenagers are reenacting the same power struggles and independence issues that toddlers go through. It's part of the process of growing up and disentangling from parents. Try to be understanding.