That now that we've had kids for a few years, I still wish we didn't. He thought once we had them, I'd realize how much I wanted them and never realized it before. Nope.

Anonymous wrote:I have a history of depression and, as a teenager, self harm. I still deal with moments of profound despair and suicidal thoughts on occasion. He has no sympathy for this sort of "weakness" and would probably consider divorcing me and trying to have the kids taken away from me if he knew.

Even people without depression have thought seriously about suicide. There is nothing weak about it at all. Cowardice is not doing it , most everybody is terrified to follow through. I've always thought people who attempted suicide had a serious issue , but lack of bravery is not one of them.

When he asks, I tell the truth. I can't answer to questions he hasn't asked.

I have a history of depression and, as a teenager, self harm. I still deal with moments of profound despair and suicidal thoughts on occasion. He has no sympathy for this sort of "weakness" and would probably consider divorcing me and trying to have the kids taken away from me if he knew.

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Anonymous wrote:Guy here. She would freak if she knew I had sex with other men before I met her. Consider myself bisexual. Monogamous with no desire to get back together with men. Admittedly, if the marriage ended, I would probably do it again.

This is pretty much my biggest fear. It would be instant separation.

Same here...

This?!?! Is your biggest fear? I don't know. I have many things I'd be more worried about. DH cheating with anyone first. I don't care what happened in the past. I care about now and how I am being treated. I'd also fear about DH doing something shady with money or illegal in the white collar sense or worse.

I couldn't care whether he is bisexual or not. Monogamy is the most important to me. That said, I actually believe bisexuals exist and am not a homophobe so there's that.

Probably tons of stuff, but nothing I'm keeping secret on purpose.

Anonymous wrote:How many men I've slept with.

I have it pretty much figured out, not that I have spent a lot of time thinking about it. In all honestly, I love you and it doesn't concern me in the least.

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Anonymous wrote:Guy here. She would freak if she knew I had sex with other men before I met her. Consider myself bisexual. Monogamous with no desire to get back together with men. Admittedly, if the marriage ended, I would probably do it again.

This is pretty much my biggest fear. It would be instant separation.

Same here...

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. She would freak if she knew I had sex with other men before I met her. Consider myself bisexual. Monogamous with no desire to get back together with men. Admittedly, if the marriage ended, I would probably do it again.

This is pretty much my biggest fear. It would be instant separation.

How often my ex crosses my mind. We have no contact, not even on social media and yet I still think of him more often than I should.

Anonymous wrote:That I'm profoundly unhappy, have realized nothing is going to change and have stopped trying because I've given up hope. He doesn't know all that. He thinks I've stopped "nagging" because I'm finally fine with how things are. I'm not.

+1, same situation here

Anonymous wrote:That I voted for John Kerry. (DH is a die hard republican)

I would keep that hidden too, especially recalling it was Kerry/Edwards. Then again, I voted for Palin for VP, so I have something to answer for as well!

Guy here. She would freak if she knew I had sex with other men before I met her. Consider myself bisexual. Monogamous with no desire to get back together with men. Admittedly, if the marriage ended, I would probably do it again.

That I'm profoundly unhappy, have realized nothing is going to change and have stopped trying because I've given up hope. He doesn't know all that. He thinks I've stopped "nagging" because I'm finally fine with how things are. I'm not.

Sometimes I wish I had a simple mind and lived my life clueless about the world.