Anonymous wrote:You remind me of someone I know who has blamed every disappointment, failure. Negative aspect of her life on her mother. Every positive aspect of her life, however, was because of her own good choices. Her mother finally got sick of being blamed for the woman's drug and alcohol dependency as well as her failed marriages. Maybe your mother is fed up with you.

I agree somewhat with PPs bashing this poster and previously posted in support of OP, but can we all agree that sometimes people DO go a bit overboard on the mom-blaming. Your mom may have been horrible at times and she may have (nay, probably did) damaged you but she is also a whole person who existed and lived through her own pain before she had you and continues to live her own life after you've left home. I have a bad relationship with my own mother but reminding myself that she and I are our own individuals, responsible for and living our own lives, helps me from viewing her as 100% MOM as if her sole role in life was to raise me perfectly.

Anonymous wrote:You remind me of someone I know who has blamed every disappointment, failure. Negative aspect of her life on her mother. Every positive aspect of her life, however, was because of her own good choices. Her mother finally got sick of being blamed for the woman's drug and alcohol dependency as well as her failed marriages. Maybe your mother is fed up with you.

You remind me of every relative who gaslighted me because they wanted my abusive parents' money and favors more than they wanted me to be safe. It's so easy to pick out the enablers and participants in the abuse cycle; you jump on the injured party to shame her into silence.

I never thought I'd utter DCUM's most dramatic statement, but I really do feel bad for your kids.

No advice but just sympathy. My mom and I had a breakdown as well. I withdrew and she intentionally tried to hurt me (a lot of what you listed she did as well).
Honestly, we aren't even speaking anymore. It is sad and it's been a long journey for me to mostly be OK with where things are. It still sucks at times and it still makes me sad and angry at times but I know I am better off.
Hope things work out well for you.

Anonymous wrote:You remind me of someone I know who has blamed every disappointment, failure. Negative aspect of her life on her mother. Every positive aspect of her life, however, was because of her own good choices. Her mother finally got sick of being blamed for the woman's drug and alcohol dependency as well as her failed marriages. Maybe your mother is fed up with you.

Clearly not even read the thread. And is having a bad day. And a horrible person in general.

You remind me of someone I know who has blamed every disappointment, failure. Negative aspect of her life on her mother. Every positive aspect of her life, however, was because of her own good choices. Her mother finally got sick of being blamed for the woman's drug and alcohol dependency as well as her failed marriages. Maybe your mother is fed up with you.