Anonymous wrote:10 k on a ring? 500$ wasn't enough?
I don't understand some of you women. These expectations for rings are egotistical.

Signed, a woman, who would never pressure or even ask for any jewelry that expensive.

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Anonymous wrote:10 k on a ring? 500$ wasn't enough?
I don't understand some of you women. These expectations for rings are egotistical.

Signed, a woman, who would never pressure or even ask for any jewelry that expensive.

Sorry you have never dated wealthy. It didn't take any pressure, I just found a successful, sweet, generous guy.

I guess so. I'm just not interested. I wouldn't wear something so extravagant, it's just not me.
But the fact that men have to save all this money up, like OP wanted, for a ring, is silly. To me. What's she bringing to the table?

I have no idea what OP brings to the table, but my husband got a great deal from me. I work hard, have a $200k income, and have carried his children. $10k was a great investment in a happy life.

So is an Ashley Madison account.

Right up until he loses his high income spouse for the kind of woman you can pick up at AM.

I'd miss the high-income too, not the shitty attitude who brings it in.

Well that's a matter of perspective. The kind of guy who takes it upon himself to spend $10k on a ring with no pressure doesn't mind a certain amount of spoiledness in a wife. Also, makes enough money that a $10k purchase doesn't ruin his quarter. And with that comes the benefits.

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Anonymous wrote:10 k on a ring? 500$ wasn't enough?
I don't understand some of you women. These expectations for rings are egotistical.

Signed, a woman, who would never pressure or even ask for any jewelry that expensive.

Sorry you have never dated wealthy. It didn't take any pressure, I just found a successful, sweet, generous guy.

I guess so. I'm just not interested. I wouldn't wear something so extravagant, it's just not me.
But the fact that men have to save all this money up, like OP wanted, for a ring, is silly. To me. What's she bringing to the table?

I have no idea what OP brings to the table, but my husband got a great deal from me. I work hard, have a $200k income, and have carried his children. $10k was a great investment in a happy life.

That makes no sense. A grown woman who describes herself as "spoiled" is no prize.

So is an Ashley Madison account.

Right up until he loses his high income spouse for the kind of woman you can pick up at AM.

I'd miss the high-income too, not the shitty attitude who brings it in.

Well that's a matter of perspective. The kind of guy who takes it upon himself to spend $10k on a ring with no pressure doesn't mind a certain amount of spoiledness in a wife. Also, makes enough money that a $10k purchase doesn't ruin his quarter. And with that comes the benefits.

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Anonymous wrote:10 k on a ring? 500$ wasn't enough?
I don't understand some of you women. These expectations for rings are egotistical.

Signed, a woman, who would never pressure or even ask for any jewelry that expensive.

Sorry you have never dated wealthy. It didn't take any pressure, I just found a successful, sweet, generous guy.

I guess so. I'm just not interested. I wouldn't wear something so extravagant, it's just not me.
But the fact that men have to save all this money up, like OP wanted, for a ring, is silly. To me. What's she bringing to the table?

I have no idea what OP brings to the table, but my husband got a great deal from me. I work hard, have a $200k income, and have carried his children. $10k was a great investment in a happy life.

So is an Ashley Madison account.

Right up until he loses his high income spouse for the kind of woman you can pick up at AM.

I'd miss the high-income too, not the shitty attitude who brings it in.

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Anonymous wrote:10 k on a ring? 500$ wasn't enough?
I don't understand some of you women. These expectations for rings are egotistical.

Signed, a woman, who would never pressure or even ask for any jewelry that expensive.

Sorry you have never dated wealthy. It didn't take any pressure, I just found a successful, sweet, generous guy.

I guess so. I'm just not interested. I wouldn't wear something so extravagant, it's just not me.
But the fact that men have to save all this money up, like OP wanted, for a ring, is silly. To me. What's she bringing to the table?

I have no idea what OP brings to the table, but my husband got a great deal from me. I work hard, have a $200k income, and have carried his children. $10k was a great investment in a happy life.

So is an Ashley Madison account.

Right up until he loses his high income spouse for the kind of woman you can pick up at AM.

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Anonymous wrote:10 k on a ring? 500$ wasn't enough?
I don't understand some of you women. These expectations for rings are egotistical.

Signed, a woman, who would never pressure or even ask for any jewelry that expensive.

Sorry you have never dated wealthy. It didn't take any pressure, I just found a successful, sweet, generous guy.

I guess so. I'm just not interested. I wouldn't wear something so extravagant, it's just not me.
But the fact that men have to save all this money up, like OP wanted, for a ring, is silly. To me. What's she bringing to the table?

I have no idea what OP brings to the table, but my husband got a great deal from me. I work hard, have a $200k income, and have carried his children. $10k was a great investment in a happy life.

So is an Ashley Madison account.

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Anonymous wrote:10 k on a ring? 500$ wasn't enough?
I don't understand some of you women. These expectations for rings are egotistical.

Signed, a woman, who would never pressure or even ask for any jewelry that expensive.

Sorry you have never dated wealthy. It didn't take any pressure, I just found a successful, sweet, generous guy.

I guess so. I'm just not interested. I wouldn't wear something so extravagant, it's just not me.
But the fact that men have to save all this money up, like OP wanted, for a ring, is silly. To me. What's she bringing to the table?

I have no idea what OP brings to the table, but my husband got a great deal from me. I work hard, have a $200k income, and have carried his children. $10k was a great investment in a happy life.

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Anonymous wrote:10 k on a ring? 500$ wasn't enough?
I don't understand some of you women. These expectations for rings are egotistical.

Signed, a woman, who would never pressure or even ask for any jewelry that expensive.

Sorry you have never dated wealthy. It didn't take any pressure, I just found a successful, sweet, generous guy.

I guess so. I'm just not interested. I wouldn't wear something so extravagant, it's just not me.
But the fact that men have to save all this money up, like OP wanted, for a ring, is silly. To me. What's she bringing to the table?

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1. Diamonds are and will always be, grossly overpriced, because of the very successful wedding industry. Jewelry in general is not a good investment, financially speaking.

2. Many diamonds are blood diamonds, obtained through conflict and exploitation. You can get a certified clean diamond.

3. Why not try for something original? A different stone perhaps? Not saying it would be cheaper, some sapphires are WAY more expensive, and legitimately so. But you could get a beautiful ring set with quality precious stones that doesn't scream: "I wanted the biggest damn rock and twisted my fiance's arm to get it!". You could design it yourself with your fiance, work with a jeweler, make it special...

When someone comments about buying clothes made in Bengladesh, other non-diamond conflict minerals, or electronics made in exploitative factories, do you comment on the ethics of that? Do you think sapphires don't come from ethically questionable sources? What a weird perspective, too, spend more on a sapphire but seem like you didn't pressure your fiancé into a high cost item (even though you did)?

OP he knew what you wanted, but didn't care enough to meet your expectations. This does not get better over the course of a marriage. Only agree to marry a man who blows you away with how thoughtful and considerate he is. In the end you'll get a guy who is acceptably thoughtful and considerate. If you yourself aren't thoughtful and considerate, you now know what to work on in your next relationship.

You intentionally misread my post. No, I didn't pressure DH to buy me anything, and no, I don't have a sapphire ring. I am pointing out two things: one, that diamonds are overpriced. Two, that they are pretty boring. The upshot of this is that it's not worth getting upset. There's nothing wrong with spending on an engagement ring, but if you make it more meaningful for the both of you, perhaps you stand a better chance getting what you want. Find the angles.

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Anonymous wrote:10 k on a ring? 500$ wasn't enough?
I don't understand some of you women. These expectations for rings are egotistical.

Signed, a woman, who would never pressure or even ask for any jewelry that expensive.

Sorry you have never dated wealthy. It didn't take any pressure, I just found a successful, sweet, generous guy.

Anonymous wrote:You're a greedy bitch, and I hope he escapes your evil clutches.

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1. Diamonds are and will always be, grossly overpriced, because of the very successful wedding industry. Jewelry in general is not a good investment, financially speaking.

2. Many diamonds are blood diamonds, obtained through conflict and exploitation. You can get a certified clean diamond.

3. Why not try for something original? A different stone perhaps? Not saying it would be cheaper, some sapphires are WAY more expensive, and legitimately so. But you could get a beautiful ring set with quality precious stones that doesn't scream: "I wanted the biggest damn rock and twisted my fiance's arm to get it!". You could design it yourself with your fiance, work with a jeweler, make it special...

When someone comments about buying clothes made in Bengladesh, other non-diamond conflict minerals, or electronics made in exploitative factories, do you comment on the ethics of that? Do you think sapphires don't come from ethically questionable sources? What a weird perspective, too, spend more on a sapphire but seem like you didn't pressure your fiancé into a high cost item (even though you did)?

OP he knew what you wanted, but didn't care enough to meet your expectations. This does not get better over the course of a marriage. Only agree to marry a man who blows you away with how thoughtful and considerate he is. In the end you'll get a guy who is acceptably thoughtful and considerate. If you yourself aren't thoughtful and considerate, you now know what to work on in your next relationship.

Anonymous wrote:10 k on a ring? 500$ wasn't enough?
I don't understand some of you women. These expectations for rings are egotistical.

Signed, a woman, who would never pressure or even ask for any jewelry that expensive.