thanks for the replies.
since i wrote, we met again with the school psychologist who again declined to do testing because she is on grade level. she more or less said they won't do it unless she drops below. of course, i think her performance could be a lot better and grade level is where she is landing in spite of the ADHD. also, signs of anxiety have been ticking up as well.
she is scheduled for a well child in June and i suppose i could just wait and get the ped's perspective. i haven't been thrilled with ped's response to behavioral issues i have raised before, so i am not feeling optimistic. that is why i was asking here about general pediatricians because maybe it is time for a new ped. current ped practice seems very focused on babies and toddlers, too.
the georgetown lead sounds good. i wonder if they will schedule me just from cold calling? does anyone know if they will ask for a referral?
and one last question (thanks for your kindness). i see the price quoted on these boards for a private evaluation is 3K. is this really true?