Anonymous
Post 03/18/2016 22:45     Subject: My child was admitted to the HGC

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Bright kids don't need a helicopter parent.


But all kids need involved parents.


Involved parents aren't "anxious" about HGC admittance or travel teams...those are competitive helicopter parents who are living vicariously through their children...typically because they weren't as accomplished during their own childhood. Trust me, we can pick you out of the crowd. You aren't doing any favors for your child.


So, if I am anxious about my kid's HGC or magnet acceptance, I am a bad parent? WTF?


Yep. You're likely creating a very stressful environment for your child, and that's not helpful. It can actually be quite harmful.

You need to strike the right balance: be nurturing and supportive, but realize that your child's accomplishments are their own.


I would love to see how your kids turn out.


Thanks for proving my point.

Why are you in competition with a stranger on dcum? How would you measure success between our kids? And why would you want to?

You ladies are truly nutty. I hope your kids don't end up in therapy. You remind me of a girl I went to school with who literally busted out a bottle of Advil every time a new project was assigned. Her mother did a number on her. They were in family therapy and individual therapy starting in middle school. Sure, she graduated from an Ivy...but she's single, childless, and essentially a broken person thanks to her mother's actions. Of course, there are other ways for children of controlling helicopter parents to rebel: eating disorders, drugs, sex, and suicide.


So, do you take total "hands-off" approach? How old is your kid and how is (s)he doing?
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2016 22:40     Subject: My child was admitted to the HGC

@22:36 - I think you are full of yourself. Do your job as a parent. No excuses.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2016 22:36     Subject: My child was admitted to the HGC

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Bright kids don't need a helicopter parent.


But all kids need involved parents.


Involved parents aren't "anxious" about HGC admittance or travel teams...those are competitive helicopter parents who are living vicariously through their children...typically because they weren't as accomplished during their own childhood. Trust me, we can pick you out of the crowd. You aren't doing any favors for your child.


So, if I am anxious about my kid's HGC or magnet acceptance, I am a bad parent? WTF?


Yep. You're likely creating a very stressful environment for your child, and that's not helpful. It can actually be quite harmful.

You need to strike the right balance: be nurturing and supportive, but realize that your child's accomplishments are their own.


I would love to see how your kids turn out.


Thanks for proving my point.

Why are you in competition with a stranger on dcum? How would you measure success between our kids? And why would you want to?

You ladies are truly nutty. I hope your kids don't end up in therapy. You remind me of a girl I went to school with who literally busted out a bottle of Advil every time a new project was assigned. Her mother did a number on her. They were in family therapy and individual therapy starting in middle school. Sure, she graduated from an Ivy...but she's single, childless, and essentially a broken person thanks to her mother's actions. Of course, there are other ways for children of controlling helicopter parents to rebel: eating disorders, drugs, sex, and suicide.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2016 22:29     Subject: My child was admitted to the HGC

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Bright kids don't need a helicopter parent.


But all kids need involved parents.


Involved parents aren't "anxious" about HGC admittance or travel teams...those are competitive helicopter parents who are living vicariously through their children...typically because they weren't as accomplished during their own childhood. Trust me, we can pick you out of the crowd. You aren't doing any favors for your child.


So, if I am anxious about my kid's HGC or magnet acceptance, I am a bad parent? WTF?


Yep. You're likely creating a very stressful environment for your child, and that's not helpful. It can actually be quite harmful.

You need to strike the right balance: be nurturing and supportive, but realize that your child's accomplishments are their own.


I would love to see how your kids turn out.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2016 22:28     Subject: My child was admitted to the HGC

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Bright kids don't need a helicopter parent.


But all kids need involved parents.


Involved parents aren't "anxious" about HGC admittance or travel teams...those are competitive helicopter parents who are living vicariously through their children...typically because they weren't as accomplished during their own childhood. Trust me, we can pick you out of the crowd. You aren't doing any favors for your child.


So, if I am anxious about my kid's HGC or magnet acceptance, I am a bad parent? WTF?


Yep. You're likely creating a very stressful environment for your child, and that's not helpful. It can actually be quite harmful.

You need to strike the right balance: be nurturing and supportive, but realize that your child's accomplishments are their own.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2016 22:23     Subject: My child was admitted to the HGC

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Bright kids don't need a helicopter parent.


But all kids need involved parents.


Involved parents aren't "anxious" about HGC admittance or travel teams...those are competitive helicopter parents who are living vicariously through their children...typically because they weren't as accomplished during their own childhood. Trust me, we can pick you out of the crowd. You aren't doing any favors for your child.


So, if I am anxious about my kid's HGC or magnet acceptance, I am a bad parent? WTF?
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2016 22:18     Subject: My child was admitted to the HGC

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Bright kids don't need a helicopter parent.


But all kids need involved parents.


Involved parents aren't "anxious" about HGC admittance or travel teams...those are competitive helicopter parents who are living vicariously through their children...typically because they weren't as accomplished during their own childhood. Trust me, we can pick you out of the crowd. You aren't doing any favors for your child.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2016 22:14     Subject: My child was admitted to the HGC

Anonymous wrote:
You are lucky.

Not because your child was accepted (congratulations!).

But because your child is such that you are NOT worried.

Please understand that not all of us have the luxury of feeling this way. Our children are twice exceptional (it's a real term: gifted with learning disabilities), or for some reason have brains that do not adapt well to conventional instruction.

My point is that many times parents' worries are LEGITIMATE.
Don't disrespect us by being condescending please.


Okay so maybe they're legitimate. Is HGC a magic bullet or even particularly good at LDs?
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2016 22:14     Subject: My child was admitted to the HGC

Anonymous wrote:Bright kids don't need a helicopter parent.


But all kids need involved parents.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2016 22:10     Subject: My child was admitted to the HGC

Bright kids don't need a helicopter parent.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2016 22:06     Subject: My child was admitted to the HGC

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nevertheless, Congrats, OP!!


?

Why are you congratulating OP? It's not her accomplishment---it's her child's accomplishment.


Because it's a team work - parents/kids go together.


Really? Do the parents have their own cubbies?


You are not really asking that are you? You really don't care about your kid's education?
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2016 22:04     Subject: My child was admitted to the HGC

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nevertheless, Congrats, OP!!


?

Why are you congratulating OP? It's not her accomplishment---it's her child's accomplishment.


Because it's a team work - parents/kids go together.


Really? Do the parents have their own cubbies?
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2016 22:03     Subject: My child was admitted to the HGC

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nevertheless, Congrats, OP!!


?

Why are you congratulating OP? It's not her accomplishment---it's her child's accomplishment.


Because it's a team work - parents/kids go together.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2016 22:02     Subject: My child was admitted to the HGC

Anonymous wrote:Nevertheless, Congrats, OP!!


?

Why are you congratulating OP? It's not her accomplishment---it's her child's accomplishment.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2016 22:00     Subject: My child was admitted to the HGC

Nevertheless, Congrats, OP!!