Anonymous
Post 03/14/2016 09:46     Subject: Re:I suddenly feel weird about my brother-in-l aw.
My SIL has told me on several occasions after a couple of drinks that she always got compliments for the quality of her blow jobs.
Was she hitting on me? She hasn't done this since she more-or-less quit drinking but I always wonder what were her real if somewhat piddled intentions!
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2016 01:27     Subject: I suddenly feel weird about my brother-in-l aw.
Oh just blame it on the (al...al...)alcohol.

But that does not give your Brother-in-Law the right to flirt w/you like he did.

He was completely out of bounds with you and you NEED to let him know in no uncertain terms is this to ever act this way around you again!

If he does, you will be letting your sister know.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2016 23:37     Subject: I suddenly feel weird about my brother-in-l aw.
Anonymous wrote:I have an uncle (my father's brother) who hit on me once many years ago when he was drunk. He was never my favorite person but I really lost all respect for him after that-he is married and almost 30 years older than me in addition to the total ick factor of being my biological uncle. Disgusting. I have kept it a secret because my family is very dysfunctional and they (including my Dad) would all probably think I was lying. Fortunately my uncle lives out of state so I rarely see him-when I do i'm polite but keep my distance. He was loaded that night and I highly doubt he even remembers it happened. For me, it wasn't worth the drama and stress of confronting him or sharing it with other family members but the OP's situation is different. My advice to the OP is to distance herself from the BIL and leave it alone at this point. If it happens again, she really needs to tell her sister and cut off contact with the BIL.


How old were you?
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2016 23:35     Subject: I suddenly feel weird about my brother-in-l aw.

I don't understand the gross factor. He's not your blood relation.

I would say: "BIL, yesterday you hit on me when you were drunk. Clearly you don't hold your drink well, eh? Better not do that again!" And laugh.

Anonymous
Post 03/13/2016 23:32     Subject: I suddenly feel weird about my brother-in-l aw.
I have an uncle (my father's brother) who hit on me once many years ago when he was drunk. He was never my favorite person but I really lost all respect for him after that-he is married and almost 30 years older than me in addition to the total ick factor of being my biological uncle. Disgusting. I have kept it a secret because my family is very dysfunctional and they (including my Dad) would all probably think I was lying. Fortunately my uncle lives out of state so I rarely see him-when I do i'm polite but keep my distance. He was loaded that night and I highly doubt he even remembers it happened. For me, it wasn't worth the drama and stress of confronting him or sharing it with other family members but the OP's situation is different. My advice to the OP is to distance herself from the BIL and leave it alone at this point. If it happens again, she really needs to tell her sister and cut off contact with the BIL.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2016 17:45     Subject: Re:I suddenly feel weird about my brother-in-l aw.
Anonymous wrote:My BIL asked me to shower with him. He wasn't drunk, high, any of that. He wasn't joking either. I told my sister, she called me a liar and she quit talking to me. They are now divorced because he hit on another family member. One she didn't dare call a liar.

I consider all sibling spouses to be my siblings also. When one crosses the line I think it's incestuous. Creepy as hell.


Did your sister apologize to you?
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2016 15:55     Subject: Re:I suddenly feel weird about my brother-in-l aw.
My BIL asked me to shower with him. He wasn't drunk, high, any of that. He wasn't joking either. I told my sister, she called me a liar and she quit talking to me. They are now divorced because he hit on another family member. One she didn't dare call a liar.

I consider all sibling spouses to be my siblings also. When one crosses the line I think it's incestuous. Creepy as hell.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2016 15:50     Subject: I suddenly feel weird about my brother-in-l aw.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You're 25, not 15. When it gets down to the two of you, get out of there and go to bed. Not your "fault" (blah blah blah) but know enough to not put yourself in this position.


I have never seen this side of him at all. I was very surprised.


You are his SIL, not his sister. I am sure he would love to do you if he can.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2016 15:47     Subject: I suddenly feel weird about my brother-in-l aw.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You're 25, not 15. When it gets down to the two of you, get out of there and go to bed. Not your "fault" (blah blah blah) but know enough to not put yourself in this position.


I have never seen this side of him at all. I was very surprised.



It's not your fault. You did nothing wrong so please don't blame yourself. If you were my sister I'd want to know, but I don't know your family dynamic.

Please be safe. Never be alone with him again. So sorry you are dealing with this, OP. Hugs.