Anonymous
03/10/2016 08:31
Subject: Marry a poor guy or risk single-hood?
I have money marry me...NOT!!!
Anonymous
03/10/2016 08:26
Subject: Marry a poor guy or risk single-hood?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is this a troll post? It's either an extremely clueless person or a troll post, I can't decide. It has a lot of marks of a troll post:
guy is "poor" but is making 80k
worries about fertility
no mention of feelings
+1! Only marry for love. Otherwise, you're inviting misery.
+1000 And if high income is important to you, put on your big-girl panties and work toward that yourself!
Anonymous
03/10/2016 08:23
Subject: Marry a poor guy or risk single-hood?
If you really, truly love him, then it should be a non issue. Love should never come with a price tag.
Anonymous
03/10/2016 08:21
Subject: Marry a poor guy or risk single-hood?
So what truly disabled people without family to fall back on really do in D.C? Shelter, I presume? Just curious.
Anonymous
03/10/2016 08:18
Subject: Marry a poor guy or risk single-hood?
Troll.
I will say I really TRIED to date a man who was TRULY poor- as in living off Social Security Disability Poor.
After seeing that his check (which was ~$1200 a MONTH) was being garnished for back child support, which brought it down to $800 a month....
....and him living with his parents in his 40's because obviously he couldn't get an apartment in the DC metro area making only $800 a month....
...and he was too "scared" to work a PT job even because he was afraid to lose the benefits it took him 2 years to get....
...I bailed.
I'm sorry but a grown man making $200 a week off disability will in NO WAY be able to help me out (his cell phone bill alone was $100 as he had to have unlimited internet because his parents were churchgoing people who thought internet was "the devil").
I mean it was nice he was a God-fearing man and treated me like a queen....
....but this queen would like her man to at least be able to pay even 1/3 of the mortgage ($2200) to help out if he would be living there.
...I guess he thought I would allow him to live with me rent free like all the other women he has dated him his life.
I asked the ex (yes he introduced me as they lived in the same area) why they broke up- she said the same thing- He refused to work anything past a simple temp job, would get laid off, then sit around awhile until his little money ran out...
....although he COULD handle a simple office job like file clerk (his disability was physical, not mental! He was not in a wheelchair or anything, just walked a bit slow but was otherwise ok! He could still have sex though!) and help her out with bills.
Sorry, not going to be a "mother" to a grown ass man!
Flame away if you wish!
I will say I really TRIED to date a man who was TRULY poor- as in living off Social Security Disability Poor.
After seeing that his check (which was ~$1200 a MONTH) was being garnished for back child support, which brought it down to $800 a month....
....and him living with his parents in his 40's because obviously he couldn't get an apartment in the DC metro area making only $800 a month....
...and he was too "scared" to work a PT job even because he was afraid to lose the benefits it took him 2 years to get....
...I bailed.
I'm sorry but a grown man making $200 a week off disability will in NO WAY be able to help me out (his cell phone bill alone was $100 as he had to have unlimited internet because his parents were churchgoing people who thought internet was "the devil").
I mean it was nice he was a God-fearing man and treated me like a queen....
....but this queen would like her man to at least be able to pay even 1/3 of the mortgage ($2200) to help out if he would be living there.
...I guess he thought I would allow him to live with me rent free like all the other women he has dated him his life.
I asked the ex (yes he introduced me as they lived in the same area) why they broke up- she said the same thing- He refused to work anything past a simple temp job, would get laid off, then sit around awhile until his little money ran out...
....although he COULD handle a simple office job like file clerk (his disability was physical, not mental! He was not in a wheelchair or anything, just walked a bit slow but was otherwise ok! He could still have sex though!) and help her out with bills.
Sorry, not going to be a "mother" to a grown ass man!
Flame away if you wish!
Anonymous
03/08/2016 12:07
Subject: Marry a poor guy or risk single-hood?
I don't think OP is interested in a nicer partner. She wants money and not being single. Nothing wrong with that.
OP, how pretty are you?
OP, how pretty are you?
Anonymous
03/08/2016 11:58
Subject: Re:Marry a poor guy or risk single-hood?
Dh was making 80k when we met , mid 30s. I was making 60k. We now make 270k, but more than that, we share the same values about money, family, etc.
I say that you should probably end the relationship because you are looking for something else. However, note that just because someone has money doesn't make them a nicer partner.
I say that you should probably end the relationship because you are looking for something else. However, note that just because someone has money doesn't make them a nicer partner.
Anonymous
03/08/2016 11:56
Subject: Re:Marry a poor guy or risk single-hood?
The more women i read complain on here the more grateful i become being a single man, spare the poor guy with your materialism and let him find a real lady that will treat him like a king.
Anonymous
03/08/2016 11:01
Subject: Marry a poor guy or risk single-hood?
At 29, I would have said something similar. Now at 40 and unmarried, I can't believe how silly I was back then.
Anonymous
03/08/2016 10:59
Subject: Marry a poor guy or risk single-hood?
Troll
Anonymous
03/08/2016 10:20
Subject: Marry a poor guy or risk single-hood?
How much student debt OP? Does he spend/live responsibly?
Do you love him? Marriage means two people not one. You have to make money too...don't put that burden on him just because he's a man. Some people have potential. Since you're still young...does he have the promise/potential to make more? My DH and I had no debt when we married but only $17k. I knew and he knew we were both winners and would do just fine. Neither came from a rich family. We are now multi-millionaires.
Do you love him? Marriage means two people not one. You have to make money too...don't put that burden on him just because he's a man. Some people have potential. Since you're still young...does he have the promise/potential to make more? My DH and I had no debt when we married but only $17k. I knew and he knew we were both winners and would do just fine. Neither came from a rich family. We are now multi-millionaires.
Anonymous
03/08/2016 10:18
Subject: Re:Marry a poor guy or risk single-hood?
Troll post.
Anonymous
03/08/2016 10:13
Subject: Marry a poor guy or risk single-hood?
Please break up with him. For his sake. You are awful.
Anonymous
03/08/2016 10:11
Subject: Marry a poor guy or risk single-hood?
If you love him, marry him, and if you live some place less expensive than the DC metro area, you will be fine.
I would talk to him about the possibility of leaving the area, so you can live an middle class life on the salaries you could make instead of having to have a large amount of family or investment wealth to make it here (or someplace more expensive.)
Otherwise, the bride's family pays for the wedding, so you sound good to go.
I would talk to him about the possibility of leaving the area, so you can live an middle class life on the salaries you could make instead of having to have a large amount of family or investment wealth to make it here (or someplace more expensive.)
Otherwise, the bride's family pays for the wedding, so you sound good to go.
Anonymous
03/08/2016 10:11
Subject: Marry a poor guy or risk single-hood?
80k isn't poor. Trust me. Not even for a college grad at 29. He's doing fine. You have time to build your 401k during your 30s. You just cannot be house poor. You have to live in a home below your means. It's what you spend not what you make