Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ yes. H feels that parent has a real mental illness (some personality disorder) and because of that the behavior should be overlooked. I would be ok with that if the parent agreed to at least try getting treatment. Or, if spouse spoke with a therapist about how to handle it.

Parent will send is really nasty emails/leave nasty voicemails. I have let a few people close to me read/listen to them just to make sure I wasn't overreacting because of my dislike of parent. Every person has been appalled.

Ah, the nasty-grams. I am familiar with those. My relationship with my mil is essentially over because of her bad behaviour, but dh wants to maintain one and I don't interfere. We usually vacation somewhat near her during the summer (she lives an hour outside of a resort area), and dh will take the kids to have lunch with her while I do my own thing. I've washed my hands of it at this point. For me, I wouldn't host her at my house, but you have to do what makes sense to you. It's easier to think of her as simply a broken person when I don't have to interact with her anymore.

Ha! Yes- nastygrams! What possesses someone to send something like that? A verbal assault would be better. At least I wouldn't be able to save a copy and reread it again and again.