Anonymous wrote:I am so tired of doing the Santa thing. I can't wait for my now 8 year old to figure it out. I've made several mistakes; she still totally believes. I remember by now (2nd grade) with my other child, the kids all discussed that Santa wasn't real. I was sad to lose it then. Now, I cannot wait until I don't have to make myself crazy about Xmas anymore.... and she's completely oblivious, and honestly so.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think it's kind of sad that so many people want their kid to outgrow the Santa thing (2nd grade?!) or think that a 10 year of who still believes is "not that smart." Why do you want your kids to lose all innocence at such a young age?
here we go with that innocence crap again. There comes a point where believing in these things or extreme innocence can be problematic or detrimental for a kid. Santa and the tooth fairy are fun, but there comes a time when it's time for those things to be put away it usually happens around 7 or 8. 10 is really pushing it.
Maturation is an important step in development. Your kid can still enjoy fantasy and imagination, but being able to differentiate between real and pretend is an important milestone.
Being forced or pressured to remain "innocent" so mom and dad can keep their baby can cause problems for kids as they age.
This is why I'm against elaborate schemes and stories for Santa and the Tooth Fairy- do it let it be fun, but don't squash all room for doubt and growth.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think it's kind of sad that so many people want their kid to outgrow the Santa thing (2nd grade?!) or think that a 10 year of who still believes is "not that smart." Why do you want your kids to lose all innocence at such a young age?
here we go with that innocence crap again. There comes a point where believing in these things or extreme innocence can be problematic or detrimental for a kid. Santa and the tooth fairy are fun, but there comes a time when it's time for those things to be put away it usually happens around 7 or 8. 10 is really pushing it.
Maturation is an important step in development. Your kid can still enjoy fantasy and imagination, but being able to differentiate between real and pretend is an important milestone.
Being forced or pressured to remain "innocent" so mom and dad can keep their baby can cause problems for kids as they age.
This is why I'm against elaborate schemes and stories for Santa and the Tooth Fairy- do it let it be fun, but don't squash all room for doubt and growth.
Anonymous wrote:I think it's kind of sad that so many people want their kid to outgrow the Santa thing (2nd grade?!) or think that a 10 year of who still believes is "not that smart." Why do you want your kids to lose all innocence at such a young age?
here we go with that innocence crap again. There comes a point where believing in these things or extreme innocence can be problematic or detrimental for a kid. Santa and the tooth fairy are fun, but there comes a time when it's time for those things to be put away it usually happens around 7 or 8. 10 is really pushing it.
Anonymous wrote:She cried because she lost a tooth this week and wanted to keep it but didn't think the tooth fairy would leave her money if she kept it.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes!! If they "do" I bet most are pretending to believe
It's my DD and she totally still believes it. 100%
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes!! If they "do" I bet most are pretending to believe
It's my DD and she totally still believes it. 100%
She's not alone. Mine is a true believer, too and it is driving me nuts.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes!! If they "do" I bet most are pretending to believe
It's my DD and she totally still believes it. 100%
She's not alone. Mine is a true believer, too and it is driving me nuts.
Are you encouraging her critical thinking skills on this subject? Or playing along? Sometimes you need to manually make the wheels turn.