While he is looking over your shoulder text:

OMFG he's doing it again. Reading over my shoulder.
Right.
Now.
I can smell what he ate for lunch
....mmm...Chipotles...

Anonymous wrote:My husband went through my texts and complimented me on tapping my vast network for kid info, product recs and activity ideas.

Just kidding.

He complained that I mentioned texted my BFF how pissed I was to discover that DH he rushes out the door at 7am to go to STARBUCKS on the way to work, while I deal with 2 little kids and myself in order to get to nursery school (8am) and my work (8:30am).

Such fragile egos.

you are talking about your own ego, correct? because god forbid if woman discovered that a man complained about her, there would be hell to pay. but in this case, since you are the one complaining about your DH, that makes everything just fine I guess.

My husband went through my texts and complimented me on tapping my vast network for kid info, product recs and activity ideas.

Just kidding.

He complained that I mentioned texted my BFF how pissed I was to discover that DH he rushes out the door at 7am to go to STARBUCKS on the way to work, while I deal with 2 little kids and myself in order to get to nursery school (8am) and my work (8:30am).

Such fragile egos.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH does this, too. So annoying. I look up at him and say coolly, "May I help you?" He then remembers it's annoying and backs off.

Wow. So pleasant. How about, "babe, please don't read over my shoulder, I've mentioned this before."

The way the women here talk to their husbands is appalling.

"May I help you"

"Now you know to never do this again."

Yikes.

What is wrong with "May I help you?" What is the difference between that and what you suggest? If I was peeking over my husband's shoulder reading HIS texts and he said, "May I help you?" I would say, sorry my bad!

how about just 'hey, its kind of annoying when you read over my shoulder." before yelling.

What are you hiding? Bet you are having an affair. Typical behavior. This is really common is same sex marriage. Males are just the worst!

According to people in the "snooping" thread, you have no expectation of privacy after you are married.

Dh did this to me. I showed him a text that was funny, he then proceeded to scroll through all my texts and I said, please don't do that. He got very suspicious and asked what I was being so jumpy about. So I calmly explained that he had no reason to read my texts to my friends and he calmly explained that he thinks that I bad mouth him to my friends and that's why he was suspicious. Bizarre. He's generally paranoid. Anyway he then proceeded to criticize me for something inane re: football that I said to my mother! I was like, what fool? Anyway, he's stopped trying to read my text so I can understand how mad you got since yours didn't. Anyway, men!

you were wrong. he was wrong to read over your shoulder.

but think about what was his reason? women seem to have no problem being nosy or snooping on their DHs but when the tables are turned, it's unacceptable. why is that?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Easy for you to say. When you're on the 25th incidence, you lose patience. It's a boundaries issue. When a spouse doesn't respect your boundaries--REPEATEDLY--it tends to escalate.

You choose to escalate, others do not control your actions.

Two wrongs don't make a right. Control yourself.

I'm sure your comportment is just perfect when a spouse or child disregards reasonable requests many, many times. Usually the people who are this judgey on DCUM are actually the biggest @ssholes in real life.

No. But a bit later, I calm down, admit I am wrong and apologize. Being perfect is not being a good partner, admitting when you are wrong is being a good partner. It's also called being a good role model to my children.

Usually when I say sorry I yelled, my H says sorry too. I will do it in front of the kids if I was rude in front of them.

My teen is rude to me often (like all teens) but later he apologizes, see how that works.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Easy for you to say. When you're on the 25th incidence, you lose patience. It's a boundaries issue. When a spouse doesn't respect your boundaries--REPEATEDLY--it tends to escalate.

You choose to escalate, others do not control your actions.

Two wrongs don't make a right. Control yourself.

I'm sure your comportment is just perfect when a spouse or child disregards reasonable requests many, many times. Usually the people who are this judgey on DCUM are actually the biggest @ssholes in real life.

Anonymous wrote:Easy for you to say. When you're on the 25th incidence, you lose patience. It's a boundaries issue. When a spouse doesn't respect your boundaries--REPEATEDLY--it tends to escalate.

You choose to escalate, others do not control your actions.

Two wrongs don't make a right. Control yourself.

Easy for you to say. When you're on the 25th incidence, you lose patience. It's a boundaries issue. When a spouse doesn't respect your boundaries--REPEATEDLY--it tends to escalate.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH does this, too. So annoying. I look up at him and say coolly, "May I help you?" He then remembers it's annoying and backs off.

Wow. So pleasant. How about, "babe, please don't read over my shoulder, I've mentioned this before."

The way the women here talk to their husbands is appalling.

"May I help you"

"Now you know to never do this again."

Yikes.

And they yell. It is pathetic. What went wrong in their upbringing, spoiled princesses..... get me my cake!

Then quit texting in front of him fool!!!