Anonymous wrote:When one spouse lies to the other, they give up some of their privacy rights.

This is actually true. When you catch a liar, time to check up and see who you are married to.

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Anonymous wrote:I do, and I totally trust my DH, so I think I'm just nosy. It's made me really hate one of his friends in particular.

Probably because you found out one of his friends isn't a good person. I pay the phone bills, so I see calls etc. I wouldn't be with anyone who was like that.

My phone died before so we shared for awhile, how it should be. I suspect some cheaters on here who got caught or are hiding something.

Ding ding ding! Believe me, I have a high threshold for dude behavior, and this guy's just a pig. I didn't even have to read the phone to know so, but the phone continually confirmed it.

Snooping through my husband's phone made me think less of all of his friends. Also my husband. All they do it make fun of people, typically those less fortunate, and discuss women and sex. It's lame and seems so superficial. It has been pathetic to read my husband's messages. He tries really hard to be cool and it's the same old same old all the time.

Interesting.... I have the same problem with my 16 year old and have had to explain not to do this on text/social media/etc. He also can't write LOL to shit that isn't LOL.

You sound controlling.

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Anonymous wrote:I do, and I totally trust my DH, so I think I'm just nosy. It's made me really hate one of his friends in particular.

Probably because you found out one of his friends isn't a good person. I pay the phone bills, so I see calls etc. I wouldn't be with anyone who was like that.

My phone died before so we shared for awhile, how it should be. I suspect some cheaters on here who got caught or are hiding something.

Ding ding ding! Believe me, I have a high threshold for dude behavior, and this guy's just a pig. I didn't even have to read the phone to know so, but the phone continually confirmed it.

Snooping through my husband's phone made me think less of all of his friends. Also my husband. All they do it make fun of people, typically those less fortunate, and discuss women and sex. It's lame and seems so superficial. It has been pathetic to read my husband's messages. He tries really hard to be cool and it's the same old same old all the time.

Interesting.... I have the same problem with my 16 year old and have had to explain not to do this on text/social media/etc. He also can't write LOL to shit that isn't LOL.

What is mine is his and what is his is mine so there is nothing in our life I can't see/he can't see.

Those with nothing to hide hide nothing.

Yes I do. just want to keep informed.

When one spouse lies to the other, they give up some of their privacy rights.

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Anonymous wrote:I do, and I totally trust my DH, so I think I'm just nosy. It's made me really hate one of his friends in particular.

Probably because you found out one of his friends isn't a good person. I pay the phone bills, so I see calls etc. I wouldn't be with anyone who was like that.

My phone died before so we shared for awhile, how it should be. I suspect some cheaters on here who got caught or are hiding something.

Ding ding ding! Believe me, I have a high threshold for dude behavior, and this guy's just a pig. I didn't even have to read the phone to know so, but the phone continually confirmed it.

Snooping through my husband's phone made me think less of all of his friends. Also my husband. All they do it make fun of people, typically those less fortunate, and discuss women and sex. It's lame and seems so superficial. It has been pathetic to read my husband's messages. He tries really hard to be cool and it's the same old same old all the time.

Anonymous wrote:My spouse can use my phone, computer, etc. I have nothing to hide and assume the same with him. It's called being open books.

A secretive person means there are red flags.

I'm PP at 14:11 - the no snooping, no tolerance person.

DW and I both have no code on our phones and our computers are freely accessible to each other. It's not that either of us hides anything or is secretive; it's that we respect some private space for each other.

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Anonymous wrote:I do, and I totally trust my DH, so I think I'm just nosy. It's made me really hate one of his friends in particular.

Probably because you found out one of his friends isn't a good person. I pay the phone bills, so I see calls etc. I wouldn't be with anyone who was like that.

My phone died before so we shared for awhile, how it should be. I suspect some cheaters on here who got caught or are hiding something.

Ding ding ding! Believe me, I have a high threshold for dude behavior, and this guy's just a pig. I didn't even have to read the phone to know so, but the phone continually confirmed it.

No, I don't snoop on dh. I have his password, etc, but I'm just not interested in doing that. A have one time only in our 17-year marriage after her told me somebody had contacted him. He told me what she said and he said. About a year later I went and read it for myself, just to read it, since it was about me.

Uh, no

Trying to think what would possess me to pick up my husband's phone and read his texts or log his calls unless I had a deep suspicion I was simply trying to confirm before confronting. I have better things to do with my time than worry what my husband is texting his friends, lol.

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Anonymous wrote:My spouse can use my phone, computer, etc. I have nothing to hide and assume the same with him. It's called being open books.

A secretive person means there are red flags.

+1. I don't snoop, but I use his email, cell and computer occasionally. We have nothing to hide. I know all his passwords and he knows mine.

Exactly, how it should be. I wouldn't be with someone who wasn't a open book.

Nope. I wouldn't have married him if I felt the need to snoop. He doesn't snoop either (and he easily could). We have been together for 12 years. Old borings farts.

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Anonymous wrote:My spouse can use my phone, computer, etc. I have nothing to hide and assume the same with him. It's called being open books.

A secretive person means there are red flags.

+1. I don't snoop, but I use his email, cell and computer occasionally. We have nothing to hide. I know all his passwords and he knows mine.

+2. DH doesn't know the password to my computer because he can't remember it, I've told him a bunch of times. I've given up at this point and if he wants to use my computer, I just unlock it for him. He uses the same password for everything so technically, I guess I could go look at anything on his computer if I wanted to. We both give each other full access to our stuff but neither of us has the energy to bother with snooping.

We've both been cheated on in the past. It took me a couple years to get over it and the whole situation really made me doubt myself (both my judgement and my self worth) and I knew I never wanted to be with someone I had to worry about cheating like that ever again. Same for him. We wouldn't be together if we couldn't trust each other, that goes for trusting each other not to cheat and trusting each other with access to our stuff.

Never, ever. Snoop for what?