"You know I love your fancy meals, but this (insert illness) is kicking my butt and we need to pick between you going solo or us ordering in. Which would you rather?"

Anonymous wrote:Just tell her no. This shouldn't be hard in a loving mother-daughter relationship. If she is going to bitch, pout, whine, moan, then don't invite her again for awhile until she learns how not to be a pain in the ass.

exactly! THIS is hwat you do, OP> You are under no obligation to help your visiting mother make an elaborate dinner if you are sick and just want to go to bed.

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Anonymous wrote:Wine, wine, wine. Poor, poor you. Shut up and help your mother, who is being nice and cooking dinner. This is her gift to you and you are being an ungrateful and ungracious host.

Fixed that for you.

I know the difference and I meant WHINE, WHINE, WHINE.

PP was trying, and succeeding, at being funny. You, on the other hand, are insufferable.

+100000000000000000

Lord, just use disposable plates/spoons etc. Soak the pans/pots till the next morning. Tell her you are too tired to prep and she needs to do that part during the day when you are at work.

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Anonymous wrote:Wine, wine, wine. Pour, pour you.

Fixed that for you.

One last fix!

Compromise and help with chopping, etc. while you sip your wine, but leave the pots and pans until the morning or next night. I get where you're coming from. Sometimes the food is just not worth the mess, and an easy meal with little clean-up is just the ticket.

Just tell her no. This shouldn't be hard in a loving mother-daughter relationship. If she is going to bitch, pout, whine, moan, then don't invite her again for awhile until she learns how not to be a pain in the ass.

The great thing about dishes is they can wait in the sink.

Can't you say "mom, I don't feel well and can't help with dinner. Do you want to go with what you had planned or should I get carry out?"