Anonymous wrote:What are the consequences of this behavior? Does he have a cell phone, video games, or outside activities that get taken away? Do you make sure there are no electronics in his bedroom. Have you take the hinges off his door because he lost privacy?

Because I would never in a million years tolerate that mental/physical abuse you are allowing to take over your home. You need someone to come into the home, evaluate the entire situation and take over with advice/solutions. A home counselor. Similar to Super Nanny. I remember people posting recommendations here awhile back. Something went wrong somewhere and it needs to be fixed ASAP.

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Many mental health conditions present in late teen years through the 20s as different pressures kick in and in some cases major life transitions just naturally occur with their added pressures such as applying to college, going to college, find a job, moving out of family unit etc. etc. You are correct in the advice to get a full diagnosis by a PhD level psychologist and then work this person or another psychologist if a specialty might be appropriate as one who works with teen boys whatever. Also, get the full evaluation from a psychiatrist on the medication end. Then the key is that the psychologist and psychiatrist stay in regular touch with review of your DS's progress so adjustments in meds can be made or a different approach taken depending on progress. Occasionally you may find a psychiatrist who also does therapy, but not usually.

Family counseling to know how to handle things and also to give siblings an outlet if DS is really monopo lizing the household is also key to validate their thoughts. Try to make time for all the kids as you can. Best approach is a combined approach.

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Anonymous wrote:YES! Psychiatrist - stat. There is so much that might be able to help medication-wise. Also I would try a new therapist if the current one is not helping. Research DBT - which can be very effective with oppositional teens. Rathbone and Associates in Bethesda does DBT.

You have been mis-using this term, all over DCUM......

I've never used that word on DCUM before, but here is a definition:

STAT: A common medical abbreviation for urgent or rush. From the Latin word statum, meaning 'immediately.'
From here: http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/mobileart.asp?articlekey=5550

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Anonymous wrote:YES! Psychiatrist - stat. There is so much that might be able to help medication-wise. Also I would try a new therapist if the current one is not helping. Research DBT - which can be very effective with oppositional teens. Rathbone and Associates in Bethesda does DBT.

You have been mis-using this term, all over DCUM......

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Anonymous wrote:YES! Psychiatrist - stat. There is so much that might be able to help medication-wise. Also I would try a new therapist if the current one is not helping. Research DBT - which can be very effective with oppositional teens. Rathbone and Associates in Bethesda does DBT.

You have been mis-using this term, all over DCUM......

Anonymous wrote:I feel your pain, OP. We have a 12 yr old DS who is outwardly wonderful at school and has friends, but can be a nightmare at home. Rude, obstinate and saying the meanest things, sometimes being physical, towards siblings and us. We have started seeing a family therapist and even though he won't attend (has gone twice), we are taking the lessons learned to try and modify our parenting style. The focus is on more positive parenting, so praising even the smallest good things he does (it's frustrating because you feel like this shouldn't be required of older kids) and trying to ignore the rudeness because responding to it tends to escalate the issue. When you have a kid like this, the traditional parenting rules go out the window and you have to adapt. Other parents who don't deal with this may look down on your approach, but you do what works for your family. Medication can also help to an extent, although we've been experimenting for years and haven't found much success yet. Good luck and you aren't alone.

Anonymous wrote:YES! Psychiatrist - stat. There is so much that might be able to help medication-wise. Also I would try a new therapist if the current one is not helping. Research DBT - which can be very effective with oppositional teens. Rathbone and Associates in Bethesda does DBT.

Anonymous wrote:Look, if the child is only acting up at home, then the issue is within the parents. He isn't acting up at school because there is structure, authority and consequences