Anonymous
Post 02/17/2016 00:03     Subject: Teen afraid to come out to me and her father
OP, you're awesome! I agree with PP who suggests letting her "write her own" coming out story. But if I were you I would talk to my daughter about my dating history. If you've told her about boyfriends previously, now you can tell her about girlfriends.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2016 10:29     Subject: Teen afraid to come out to me and her father
OP, I agree that I think you sit tight and wait for her to come to you. Just keep loving her and being supportive.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2016 06:50     Subject: Teen afraid to come out to me and her father
Anonymous wrote:She might not be certain. I never involved my parents in my romantic life until it was very very serious.

Also kids lie to their friends. I had a friend who used to tell me about her ocd but it turned out to be a lie. She was just really interested in it.


OP here. Sexuality is fluid, IMO. I honestly have no preference for her sexuality, but I do know that what she thinks now may not be what she thinks later. I'm not saying that it's a phase. I believe sexuality exists on a spectrum. Where she falls on that spectrum may look different to her as she gets older and more aware.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2016 06:34     Subject: Teen afraid to come out to me and her father
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Isn't the lesbian thing a "thing" right now?


It seems to be. 75% of the teen girls in NW DC describe themselves as "bisexual".


You pulled that number out of your ass, but even if you hadn't, it's probably because they are. Kinsey. Learn something. Also, bisexual and lesbian are different things.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2016 00:28     Subject: Teen afraid to come out to me and her father
Anonymous wrote:I think you should give her time to come to you on her own. Maybe make a comment like "I heard that (x celebrity name) came out recently. Isn't that amazing? I'm so happy for them. It must be such a relief to get that off your chest and start anew, beautiful life" or something. I think she will get the hint, people who are waiting to come out are usually hanging on every word, waiting for some indication.

If you let her know you read her texts, I think she could feel her privacy was invaded, and it would also kind of rob her of the opportunity to process this very important event in a gay person's life

And btw, I speak from experience! Good luck!


I agree. Sounds like a plan OP
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2016 00:02     Subject: Teen afraid to come out to me and her father
Anonymous wrote:Isn't the lesbian thing a "thing" right now?


It seems to be. 75% of the teen girls in NW DC describe themselves as "bisexual".
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2016 23:47     Subject: Teen afraid to come out to me and her father
She might not be certain. I never involved my parents in my romantic life until it was very very serious.

Also kids lie to their friends. I had a friend who used to tell me about her ocd but it turned out to be a lie. She was just really interested in it.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2016 21:56     Subject: Teen afraid to come out to me and her father
Anonymous wrote:Isn't the lesbian thing a "thing" right now?[/quote
Yes, it's a brand new thing!! All the kids are doing it.