Anonymous
Post 02/08/2016 13:58     Subject: Choosing not to go to Beauvoir
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Some don't want a school with a religious affiliation. Some don't want to have to go through the application process again in just a few years. Some don't want to end up in a same-sex school. Some think it's too much of a display of privilege.



They give so much financial aid that there isn't as much of a display of wealth as you would think. Even the uber wealthy are low key and very understated. There is a lot of old money there, means people do not talk about money or display what they have that much. We were pleasantly surprised by this.


I'm not sure where all of that financial aid is going, but it isn't to middle class families like mine, who simply can't keep pace with tuition increases. We like the school a lot, but we're considering leaving, because it's hard to justify the (increasing) cost, and it feels odd to be a middle class family at a place that clearly doesn't have much of a middle class.


That's something to take up with the school and a good point. They do give a lot of financial aid which is partly why tuition is so expensive because the auction doesn't cover it all. I personally support financial aid but think they should not give so much because you are right the middle class does end up feeling it the most.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2016 13:55     Subject: Choosing not to go to Beauvoir
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Some don't want a school with a religious affiliation. Some don't want to have to go through the application process again in just a few years. Some don't want to end up in a same-sex school. Some think it's too much of a display of privilege.



They give so much financial aid that there isn't as much of a display of wealth as you would think. Even the uber wealthy are low key and very understated. There is a lot of old money there, means people do not talk about money or display what they have that much. We were pleasantly surprised by this.


I'm not sure where all of that financial aid is going, but it isn't to middle class families like mine, who simply can't keep pace with tuition increases. We like the school a lot, but we're considering leaving, because it's hard to justify the (increasing) cost, and it feels odd to be a middle class family at a place that clearly doesn't have much of a middle class.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2016 13:49     Subject: Re:Choosing not to go to Beauvoir
+1 Love it! Such a good point. I have to say--such ridiculous statements aren't just made by private school parents. Many of the pre-school parents, whose children went onto public, were may more fanatical down your thought and judgmental about everything from sleep to what your child should be eating. I don't think it's so much of a rich person or private school issue as it just a symptom of a city oversaturated by pseudo intellectual know it all's.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2016 13:12     Subject: Choosing not to go to Beauvoir
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Some don't want a school with a religious affiliation. Some don't want to have to go through the application process again in just a few years. Some don't want to end up in a same-sex school. Some think it's too much of a display of privilege.



They give so much financial aid that there isn't as much of a display of wealth as you would think. Even the uber wealthy are low key and very understated. There is a lot of old money there, means people do not talk about money or display what they have that much. We were pleasantly surprised by this.


Gosh this was not our experience there at all. After six years I'm not sure I would send my DC there again. Education fine. The parents are over the top. The self-impressed wealthy crew are hard to take. As an example, I remember one mom talking about how many $3-4 million homes there were for a new family to move into in her neighborhood in Spring Hill. This was in a small conversation of about eight parents, many of us clearly not of that wealth. It made me uncomfortable because it clearly was making others uncomfortable. And this was the first week of kindergarten. Another time a mother admonished my husband for bringing snacks to Stoddert that were from Giant and not from Whole Foods, where the kids would have had a healthier snack per her. I don't mind wealth but I do mind people who shove it in your face like that makes them better than the rest.

We are now at another Big 3 school to much relief.


I don't understand why it made anyone uncomfortable? Isn't is simple enough to walk away from a conversation you don't want to be a part of or don't care to participate in? Oh God, and I dare someone try and admonish me or my husband for bringing anything from anywhere that's not Whole Foods. That would be the last time they spoke to us. LOL. Seems to me a lot of people don't feel comfortable challenging these fools and you feed into their misplaced sense of superiority.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2016 13:12     Subject: Choosing not to go to Beauvoir
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Some don't want a school with a religious affiliation. Some don't want to have to go through the application process again in just a few years. Some don't want to end up in a same-sex school. Some think it's too much of a display of privilege.



They give so much financial aid that there isn't as much of a display of wealth as you would think. Even the uber wealthy are low key and very understated. There is a lot of old money there, means people do not talk about money or display what they have that much. We were pleasantly surprised by this.


Gosh this was not our experience there at all. After six years I'm not sure I would send my DC there again. Education fine. The parents are over the top. The self-impressed wealthy crew are hard to take. As an example, I remember one mom talking about how many $3-4 million homes there were for a new family to move into in her neighborhood in Spring Hill. This was in a small conversation of about eight parents, many of us clearly not of that wealth. It made me uncomfortable because it clearly was making others uncomfortable. And this was the first week of kindergarten. Another time a mother admonished my husband for bringing snacks to Stoddert that were from Giant and not from Whole Foods, where the kids would have had a healthier snack per her. I don't mind wealth but I do mind people who shove it in your face like that makes them better than the rest.

We are now at another Big 3 school to much relief.


Wow this sounds farcical. Again, must vary by class. As a current Beauvoir parent of two students, we have never witnessed anything like the above. In fact, quite the opposite we all roll our eyes at the very few with instances of conspicuous wealth and I have to say that even the uber wealthy don't seem to take themselves too seriously. Maybe things have changed for the better since you all were there? Seems like it.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2016 12:51     Subject: Choosing not to go to Beauvoir
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Some don't want a school with a religious affiliation. Some don't want to have to go through the application process again in just a few years. Some don't want to end up in a same-sex school. Some think it's too much of a display of privilege.



They give so much financial aid that there isn't as much of a display of wealth as you would think. Even the uber wealthy are low key and very understated. There is a lot of old money there, means people do not talk about money or display what they have that much. We were pleasantly surprised by this.


Gosh this was not our experience there at all. After six years I'm not sure I would send my DC there again. Education fine. The parents are over the top. The self-impressed wealthy crew are hard to take. As an example, I remember one mom talking about how many $3-4 million homes there were for a new family to move into in her neighborhood in Spring Hill. This was in a small conversation of about eight parents, many of us clearly not of that wealth. It made me uncomfortable because it clearly was making others uncomfortable. And this was the first week of kindergarten. Another time a mother admonished my husband for bringing snacks to Stoddert that were from Giant and not from Whole Foods, where the kids would have had a healthier snack per her. I don't mind wealth but I do mind people who shove it in your face like that makes them better than the rest.

We are now at another Big 3 school to much relief.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2016 11:59     Subject: Choosing not to go to Beauvoir
Anonymous wrote:The moms appeared to bring all their old squabbles to STA. I remained neutral and listened to a lot of gossip over the years. Other than that (lol) I think the kids received a great education. If you plan on using the parents from your child's school as your social circle I suggest you don't send your son their. These mom's hold petty grudges for years.


Is this lower school or are you saying your son is in high school and this is still going on?
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2016 11:31     Subject: Choosing not to go to Beauvoir
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, girls, I am the mom certain Beauvoir moms tried to convert. Best friends talked about each other to me. Not the other way around. These moms were still discussing how poor little Johnny was excluded from a sleepover. This was four years later. Now Johnny's mom is still seeking revenge.

My reality is that not choosing Beauvoir is a smart decision. The moms don't do the school any favors by being toxic.


Yikes - you sound kind of nutty! We love Beauvoir and have many families we care about from there. Every school has parents that may have issues over certain things. Overall Beauvoir has a warm and friendly community.


+1 It sounds like you may have gotten a bad class, it happens. I echo the above pp. The parents are extremely friendly and INCLUSIVE. We have been at the school for four years now and have definitely not experienced any mean moms or gossiping. I'm not going to call out any specific school, although there is one in particular I'm thinking about, but from what I have heard there is toxic mean mom culture at other schools that makes Beauvoir look straight up pollyanaish. Like the school or don't, I get that it's not going to appeal to everybody but don't base your perception of the schools parent body based on hearsay--either good or bad.


Yes, I agree. I would ignore that poster. She sounds angry at life and like there's a much much deeper issue going on there with herself that has nothing to do with Beauvoir or STA.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2016 11:19     Subject: Choosing not to go to Beauvoir
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, girls, I am the mom certain Beauvoir moms tried to convert. Best friends talked about each other to me. Not the other way around. These moms were still discussing how poor little Johnny was excluded from a sleepover. This was four years later. Now Johnny's mom is still seeking revenge.

My reality is that not choosing Beauvoir is a smart decision. The moms don't do the school any favors by being toxic.


Yikes - you sound kind of nutty! We love Beauvoir and have many families we care about from there. Every school has parents that may have issues over certain things. Overall Beauvoir has a warm and friendly community.


+1 It sounds like you may have gotten a bad class, it happens. I echo the above pp. The parents are extremely friendly and INCLUSIVE. We have been at the school for four years now and have definitely not experienced any mean moms or gossiping. I'm not going to call out any specific school, although there is one in particular I'm thinking about, but from what I have heard there is toxic mean mom culture at other schools that makes Beauvoir look straight up pollyanaish. Like the school or don't, I get that it's not going to appeal to everybody but don't base your perception of the schools parent body based on hearsay--either good or bad.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2016 11:15     Subject: Choosing not to go to Beauvoir
Anonymous wrote:No, girls, I am the mom certain Beauvoir moms tried to convert. Best friends talked about each other to me. Not the other way around. These moms were still discussing how poor little Johnny was excluded from a sleepover. This was four years later. Now Johnny's mom is still seeking revenge.

My reality is that not choosing Beauvoir is a smart decision. The moms don't do the school any favors by being toxic.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2016 11:11     Subject: Choosing not to go to Beauvoir
Anonymous wrote:No, girls, I am the mom certain Beauvoir moms tried to convert. Best friends talked about each other to me. Not the other way around. These moms were still discussing how poor little Johnny was excluded from a sleepover. This was four years later. Now Johnny's mom is still seeking revenge.

My reality is that not choosing Beauvoir is a smart decision. The moms don't do the school any favors by being toxic.


Yikes - you sound kind of nutty! We love Beauvoir and have many families we care about from there. Every school has parents that may have issues over certain things. Overall Beauvoir has a warm and friendly community.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2016 11:00     Subject: Choosing not to go to Beauvoir
No, girls, I am the mom certain Beauvoir moms tried to convert. Best friends talked about each other to me. Not the other way around. These moms were still discussing how poor little Johnny was excluded from a sleepover. This was four years later. Now Johnny's mom is still seeking revenge.

My reality is that not choosing Beauvoir is a smart decision. The moms don't do the school any favors by being toxic.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2016 09:50     Subject: Re:Choosing not to go to Beauvoir
The state of the cathedral and grounds is really a shame, I agree. It seems like a week poor governing board issue. But yes, as the pp stated, the cathedral and the schools finances are completely separate.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2016 09:29     Subject: Choosing not to go to Beauvoir
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Well, like any other school, you can get a bad teacher. Or one that was not a "good fit" for our kid. Did not reapply. Teacher had "connections" so we didn't even want to bring it up to the administration. In a lot of ways,
It's a great school. But as I've said before, the six million dollar playground doesn't matter if you've got a dud teacher that you can't complain about.

It is interesting how the cathedral grounds are so run down and lacking in maintenance, but the schools seem to have endless amounts of money. I always wonder why the cathedral is not in control of the finances for operations of everything in it grounds.


While the schools and cathedral are all part of the same foundation, their finances are by and large separate from each other. There are some shared expenses, but only where there is shared use or shared needs, and it is very much the exception. And he schools in no way have endless amounts of money.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2016 09:17     Subject: Choosing not to go to Beauvoir
Anonymous wrote:Well, like any other school, you can get a bad teacher. Or one that was not a "good fit" for our kid. Did not reapply. Teacher had "connections" so we didn't even want to bring it up to the administration. In a lot of ways,
It's a great school. But as I've said before, the six million dollar playground doesn't matter if you've got a dud teacher that you can't complain about.

It is interesting how the cathedral grounds are so run down and lacking in maintenance, but the schools seem to have endless amounts of money. I always wonder why the cathedral is not in control of the finances for operations of everything in it grounds.