Honestly, if it hasn't gone in a more serious direction after six months, it doesn't sound like either of you are all that into the other person.
He might be one of those guys who gets bored after about six months. Unfortunately I know a few guys who fit that description. They're up-front about it with the women they date, but often the women try to change their minds. And occasionally they do fall hard, but more often, they move on after six months.
Anonymous wrote:OP here-neither one of us wants a classic relationship since we are both coming out fresh from divorces. In my case, my divorce isn't stamped yet. But, as one pp pointed out, it doesn't meant I need to feel bad about things. Right?
Look it sounds like you still want to throw the cat around but want exclusivity from him. Why would you expect him to be compliant on only your terms?
You asked for consistency and you didn't get what you wanted. You have every right to have wanted it and asked for it. He has the right not to want the same thing and not to give it.
There's too much of a disconnect in your intentions (even if you wanted to keep things relatively casual) to keep going. You'll get hurt or lose self respect. Walk away and I think in six months you can only be proud and glad you did.
I've been there (OK with casual during and right after divorce). I had some "fun" and it was what I needed at the time. But I did demand exclusivity and attentiveness for the time we were together.