Anonymous
Post 02/04/2016 15:47     Subject: Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Anonymous wrote:I had a vasectomy back in 2003, solely to relieve my wife of the burden of birth control and associated female side effects. We both are in good physical condition as we enter our fifties. Sex is okay, but rather infrequent (once a month), with age related female libido loss to blame.

My wife has cheated on me a few times over the past 5 years. Not sure if she will ever stop?

Guilt would wreck me if I were to cheat on her.

I regret thinking that a vasectomy would increase her respect level for me and our marriage.



I would never feel guilt if someone cheated on me, lol. I would pretty much despise them, of course I'd be out of there emotionally and move on even if I couldn't financially or because of kids. I've known friends that stayed because of the above but were long done with their spouse.
Anonymous
Post 02/04/2016 15:45     Subject: Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Well dude if you stayed with her after she cheated on you, no wonder she doesn't respect you. That's pretty much the ultimate demonstration of Low Market Value.
Anonymous
Post 02/04/2016 15:43     Subject: Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
The pill is responsible for my non-existent libido, which impacts our marriage. However I NEED to take it for a serious chronic medical condition, not birth control.

Do you understand that invasiveness is not the only issue here, OP?

You sound irrational.



He has two hands. What if you got cancer, or some other disease? If a spouse values their sex needs over their partners health I'd rethink that one. Marriage is so much more then just sex. It's a balance with the kids, jobs, finances, communication, and of course health. Right now it sounds like your health should be #1. He should only cheat on his left hand with his right hand if times get tough. You know like for better or worse...


She has two hands as well. And is there something wrong with her mouth? She can make a fucking effort.

Are you guys talking about the Op? Cause it sounds like thre Op's wife has no problem making an effort... With other men. And OP is waiting for his medal for getting a vasectomy and is pretty pissed that it hasn't come in yet. They both sound dysfunctional.



The vasectomy is a non issue. CHEATING is big, and if he keeps staying with loosey goosey his next post is going to be about his Herpes Support Group.
Anonymous
Post 02/04/2016 15:42     Subject: Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
The pill is responsible for my non-existent libido, which impacts our marriage. However I NEED to take it for a serious chronic medical condition, not birth control.

Do you understand that invasiveness is not the only issue here, OP?

You sound irrational.



He has two hands. What if you got cancer, or some other disease? If a spouse values their sex needs over their partners health I'd rethink that one. Marriage is so much more then just sex. It's a balance with the kids, jobs, finances, communication, and of course health. Right now it sounds like your health should be #1. He should only cheat on his left hand with his right hand if times get tough. You know like for better or worse...


She has two hands as well. And is there something wrong with her mouth? She can make a fucking effort.



Yep not her cup of tea like many. I suspect she has other interests, back to mr. hand puppet.
Anonymous
Post 02/04/2016 15:40     Subject: Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
The pill is responsible for my non-existent libido, which impacts our marriage. However I NEED to take it for a serious chronic medical condition, not birth control.

Do you understand that invasiveness is not the only issue here, OP?

You sound irrational.



He has two hands. What if you got cancer, or some other disease? If a spouse values their sex needs over their partners health I'd rethink that one. Marriage is so much more then just sex. It's a balance with the kids, jobs, finances, communication, and of course health. Right now it sounds like your health should be #1. He should only cheat on his left hand with his right hand if times get tough. You know like for better or worse...


She has two hands as well. And is there something wrong with her mouth? She can make a fucking effort.

Are you guys talking about the Op? Cause it sounds like thre Op's wife has no problem making an effort... With other men. And OP is waiting for his medal for getting a vasectomy and is pretty pissed that it hasn't come in yet. They both sound dysfunctional.
Anonymous
Post 02/04/2016 15:40     Subject: Re:Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Starting to understand why so many women wait until post menopause to have an affair.


you gotta raid the retirement home communities for a man



A 98 year old with a trust fund who is ready to slip on a banana peel?
Anonymous
Post 02/04/2016 15:39     Subject: Re:Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Anonymous wrote:Starting to understand why so many women wait until post menopause to have an affair.


Only to find out the next middle aged guy isn't any better. It's simply another different set of problems, lol. Maybe not be dependent on a man, and find happiness elsewhere? Or get divorced and then date is how decent people do it, or stay married and don't cheat.
Anonymous
Post 02/04/2016 15:39     Subject: Re:Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Anonymous wrote:Starting to understand why so many women wait until post menopause to have an affair.


you gotta raid the retirement home communities for a man
Anonymous
Post 02/04/2016 15:33     Subject: Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Anonymous wrote:
The pill is responsible for my non-existent libido, which impacts our marriage. However I NEED to take it for a serious chronic medical condition, not birth control.

Do you understand that invasiveness is not the only issue here, OP?

You sound irrational.



He has two hands. What if you got cancer, or some other disease? If a spouse values their sex needs over their partners health I'd rethink that one. Marriage is so much more then just sex. It's a balance with the kids, jobs, finances, communication, and of course health. Right now it sounds like your health should be #1. He should only cheat on his left hand with his right hand if times get tough. You know like for better or worse...
Anonymous
Post 02/04/2016 15:18     Subject: Re:Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Starting to understand why so many women wait until post menopause to have an affair.
Anonymous
Post 02/04/2016 15:17     Subject: Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Anonymous wrote:I agree with PPs...

I don't think women cheat just because a man won't take of the birth control. I'm sorry she's cheating on you, but your vasectomy or not is probably not the reason for the cheating. She probably would've cheated on you regardless, all other things being the same.


He picked a cheater whose damaged. Wasting years and deflecting the problem sounds like a very dysfunctional relationship. Get rid of her, better to be alone then suffer that kind of abuse. You would probably find a better partner.
Anonymous
Post 02/04/2016 15:16     Subject: Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why would a vasectomy increase her respect for you? Did you respect her more when she was on birth control?


OP here. Um, the pill is not an invasive procedure. A vasectomy is likely permanent.


It may not be a "procedure" but it sure as hell is invasive. I'll never understand men who claim it's "just a pill."


Never said it was "just a pill". I fully understand the side effects.
Anonymous
Post 02/04/2016 15:13     Subject: Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage

The pill is responsible for my non-existent libido, which impacts our marriage. However I NEED to take it for a serious chronic medical condition, not birth control.

Do you understand that invasiveness is not the only issue here, OP?

You sound irrational.

Anonymous
Post 02/04/2016 15:13     Subject: Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Anonymous wrote:its a commitment but you dames don't get that


I knew it. It's the anti- V guy
Anonymous
Post 02/04/2016 15:13     Subject: Re:Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Your wife has cheated on you in the past 5 years. Don't know if she'll ever stop?? The vasectomy isn't the problem nor a issue. Get rid of her, and be happy with yourself and find a real partner. Why are you wasting time with this bimbo?