Anonymous wrote:I'm a hugger.
I recently got so excited at an airport pickup involving 2 cars picking up 5 people that not only did I hug all those people twice, but I hugged the driver of the other car (my friends husband who followed me there to help with pickup) and the guy helping us load our baggage.

I have done this before. Over excitement and it spilling into crossing boundaries by accident! thankfully most people don't get too upset when they sense genuine intent. Most hugging is motivated by happiness and good things. Reminds me of a Vince Vaughn scene!

It also refers to people and how they learned to express affection in their homes. We all have composite differences that impact how we were raised and what we view as ok. Yes, even something as simple as hugging.

I'm a hugger and my mom's side we are huggers, not rude and bullish but genuine warm love. Dad and his side have never been huggers and it used to make me feel uncomfortable even hugging him or my paternal grandparents. No matter how much they loved me it always felt strange to see their discomfort in expressing it physically.

It was also like this on my mom's dad side: no hugging, or kisses, lots of love and kindness. They still aren't huggers.

Affection is like water to the soul sometimes. Hugs rock!

I'm a hugger.
I recently got so excited at an airport pickup involving 2 cars picking up 5 people that not only did I hug all those people twice, but I hugged the driver of the other car (my friends husband who followed me there to help with pickup) and the guy helping us load our baggage.

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Anonymous wrote:God, the title of this thread is so DC.

Policy= I'm not much of a hugger.

Practice=I'll do it when it seems inevitable.

NB: After getting divorced, I was really missing touch, and my first hug afterwards felt AMAZING! I've been more open to hugs since then.

This is not a DC thing.

It depends on the time period of when you last saw the person, or how close you are to them to begin with.

I was referring to the "policy / practice" bit.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:God, the title of this thread is so DC.

Policy= I'm not much of a hugger.

Practice=I'll do it when it seems inevitable.

NB: After getting divorced, I was really missing touch, and my first hug afterwards felt AMAZING! I've been more open to hugs since then.

This is not a DC thing.

It depends on the time period of when you last saw the person, or how close you are to them to begin with.

I think PP is referring to the wording of the post title.

Anonymous wrote:God, the title of this thread is so DC.

Policy= I'm not much of a hugger.

Practice=I'll do it when it seems inevitable.

NB: After getting divorced, I was really missing touch, and my first hug afterwards felt AMAZING! I've been more open to hugs since then.

This is not a DC thing.

It depends on the time period of when you last saw the person, or how close you are to them to begin with.

God, the title of this thread is so DC.

Policy= I'm not much of a hugger.

Practice=I'll do it when it seems inevitable.

NB: After getting divorced, I was really missing touch, and my first hug afterwards felt AMAZING! I've been more open to hugs since then.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a total hugger, I love hugging everyone I know, and I'm sad that so many people don't like hugging.

+1

I've been told by people that I'm also a great hugger. I don't hug EVERYONE or all the time, but among friends it feels really good to hug.

I'm a great hugger too! But the thing with hugs is this: you have to go all in, else what's the point? I *hate* stiff, limp, or otherwise unenthusiastic hugs. Airplane arms and heart to heart, otherwise just shake my hand or wave.

I hug my family. Anyone else, and it's like this gross invasion of my personal space and I truly hate it. Was not a huggy child growing up

Anonymous wrote:I'm a total hugger, I love hugging everyone I know, and I'm sad that so many people don't like hugging.

+1

I've been told by people that I'm also a great hugger. I don't hug EVERYONE or all the time, but among friends it feels really good to hug.

I'm a total hugger, I love hugging everyone I know, and I'm sad that so many people don't like hugging.

Anonymous wrote:I'm not a big hugger (except with my very young kids, who I snuggle all the time), but I know which friends in my life ARE huggers, so I hug them back and pretend it's natural, because why not? It's a good thing.

I just wasn't raised as a hugger - I have reserved European parents who hugged us kids and their own parents, but no one else.

I do not encourage DD to hug anyone she doesn't want to hug - she's 3 and can decide that for herself. She's big on hugs from very close friends and family, but not at all with new people. Perfect!

This. I am not a big hugger except to my child and husband. If someone initiates it, I will respond but I will never initiate. I don't encourage my child to hug anyone but family (and the old ladies at the nursing home a relative is at). My parents were not huggers.

I'm not a big hugger (except with my very young kids, who I snuggle all the time), but I know which friends in my life ARE huggers, so I hug them back and pretend it's natural, because why not? It's a good thing.

I just wasn't raised as a hugger - I have reserved European parents who hugged us kids and their own parents, but no one else.

I do not encourage DD to hug anyone she doesn't want to hug - she's 3 and can decide that for herself. She's big on hugs from very close friends and family, but not at all with new people. Perfect!

Anonymous wrote:I once hugged someone when I meant to shake their hand. I cannot for the life of me figure out what was going on in my head, but I have been haunted by it ever since. The person involved was polite but must have thought I was a lunatic.

Oh my gosh this made me LOL. Sorry PO but that is really so funny to imagine.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you know what ambivalent means?

Yes, seems like you need a hug, but not sure I want to be the one to do it.

So what are your strongly conflicting emotions about hugging?

Yes. Now go away.

NP. What kind of answer is this?

The poster isn't interested in an answer related to the actual post. It is a passive-aggressive attempt to "prove" whatever his/her issue is with the use of the word ambivalent.

Even the DCUM Grammar Police cant turn down a hug. BTW I like you Officer Grumpy Gills.