Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boy Boy family barely 2 year apart.

2 grades apart.

I fear the competition as same sex so close in school and age.

I have one grade between my boys and it's still great. They are very supportive of each other. They play the same sport--different travel teams because 2.5 birth years apart so not on same team. They really are best friends still--and oldest one is headed to middle school. Luckily, they both are good athletes and great students so they don't have the dynamic my siblings and I did where one was the smart one--one the athlete--one the clown, etc. even so--siblings and I were very close with just 1 grade between.

That will change so quickly. They are still young

People that know them have been saying that to me for the past 11 years. Neighbors, friends and family that know them see their incredible bond. Their personalities are very compatible. My sisters two oldest boys with no grades between lived in the same group house for 3 years in college and they both were on track scholarships (different events). So--not necessarily.

Girl Girl - 2 year age different, 1 grade between them. They're not competitive at all. They see themselves very distinctly as older sister and younger sister. They both really like to play up their roles too. I love having them in the same school, so much so we kept oldest out of AAP center and put her in LLIV. Most people are our school flock to the center so I got a lot of "why's" but my girls are best friends and I didn't want to separate them. They play together at recess and SACC, and when allowed, eat together at lunch. If my youngest gets into AAP this year we might move them both to the center but we like LLIV.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boy Boy family barely 2 year apart.

2 grades apart.

I fear the competition as same sex so close in school and age.

I have one grade between my boys and it's still great. They are very supportive of each other. They play the same sport--different travel teams because 2.5 birth years apart so not on same team. They really are best friends still--and oldest one is headed to middle school. Luckily, they both are good athletes and great students so they don't have the dynamic my siblings and I did where one was the smart one--one the athlete--one the clown, etc. even so--siblings and I were very close with just 1 grade between.

That will change so quickly. They are still young

I have 9th, 2nd, and a 3yr old. We started early and wanted at least a 5yr gap between each kid. Very happy we did it this way. I could focus on one at home at a time, no sibling wars (they all get along very well.) No one really in the same school, time between each for high school sports, applying and paying for college.

My only negative is that I was 38 when I had my last and that is older than I wanted. I will be 56 when she graduates high school. If I had all of them in my late 20's/early 30's it would have left me more time to work, travel, retire, etc.... Otherwise we are very happy with the gap.

My sister and I were one grade apart and quite competitive because of it. Also, since we were both on the honors track in HS I pretty much had all the same teachers as she did so I felt like I was always being compared to her.

My kids are 2 grades apart and I like that -- close enough that they are at the same school for a long time and can share those experiences, but not too close. This also seems to be a very common spacing. Many of DS's friends have a sibling in DD's grade. I can think of only one with a sibling one grade behind and a couple with 3+ years.

Anonymous wrote:Boy Boy family barely 2 year apart.

2 grades apart.

I fear the competition as same sex so close in school and age.

I have one grade between my boys and it's still great. They are very supportive of each other. They play the same sport--different travel teams because 2.5 birth years apart so not on same team. They really are best friends still--and oldest one is headed to middle school. Luckily, they both are good athletes and great students so they don't have the dynamic my siblings and I did where one was the smart one--one the athlete--one the clown, etc. even so--siblings and I were very close with just 1 grade between.

I was just happy to have my second, I didn't get pregnant as quick as the first.

kids are a little less than 3 yrs apart and will be 3 grades apart. Which will be nice when it come to paying for college, but man I can't wait for them to be in the same place and with they were only 2 yrs apart.

Anonymous wrote:I hoped for kids 2 years apart... but they are only 1 year apart (1 boy, 1 girl)...oops. Great in terms of doing the same things at the same time, but really hard competition-wise, especially in the school environment. DC2 is always upstaging DC1, so it is very tough. I know one day they will be close as they really love each other, but right now in the tween years it is extraordinarily difficult.

I have the same situation and the same dynamic. Fortunately the DC1 doesn't mind the upstaging of DC2 and I'm hoping that lasts...

Boy Boy family barely 2 year apart.

2 grades apart.

I fear the competition as same sex so close in school and age.

I hoped for kids 2 years apart... but they are only 1 year apart (1 boy, 1 girl)...oops. Great in terms of doing the same things at the same time, but really hard competition-wise, especially in the school environment. DC2 is always upstaging DC1, so it is very tough. I know one day they will be close as they really love each other, but right now in the tween years it is extraordinarily difficult.

Our kids are a little under 2.5 years apart in age. They are 3 years apart grade wise. I think it would be easier for them to be only 2 years apart grade wise because they would attend the same school together for longer. As it is, I have been doing the 2 school shuffle for a while now.