Anonymous wrote:This is so ridiculous. Your daughter likes the beading kit? Your sister was gracious when her kid received it a couple years ago?

So: Her kid wasn't into it, and she forgot who gave it but thought it looked like something your kid would like. Would you prefer she just threw it away?

Stop looking for reasons to be annoyed with her. You've clearly got a chip on your shoulder re her income.

Or maybe her kid got two, and she saved one and thought your daughter might like it since it is, as you say, lovely.

Anonymous wrote:I believe we are related, OP.

Please clarify - your sister's gifts arrived today? Are these late Christmas presents? Do you give her DCs drove gifts, too?

Why don't you cut your losses and stop ending this gift exchange? I'm about to do this with my own sister. She doesn't re-gift, she just gives crappy gifts, but every year reminds us that we need to send our wish lists/start shopping. She seems enthusiastic and then gives cheap gifts that are far, far below our set amount per kid of $100.

Write the thank you (have your DD do this) and then in about 10 months, let your sister know that you are not doing the cousin gift exchange ...

If you're going to regift, don't send it back to the person/family who gave it to you.

OP I would also suggest not exchanging gifts.

I am just impressed she found a gift from 2 years ago!

Her "super high paying job" is also probably super high stress. Is this your husband's sister or your brother's wife? If the latter, maybe you should be wondering why your brother isn't doing the buying for his own family and instead dumping the job on his wife (a common occurrence).

I understand- I have an extremely rich relative who offered my DD an old tv a few months ago. We never picked it up. Guess what my DD got for Christmas? The old tv that had been offered to her months ago.

This is why I hate gifting. I hate giving gifts, I hate getting them. People put so much stock and expectations on this stupid practice. I can buy what I want and need. I have no idea what you want and need. I see so little value in doing this and then needing to feel offended by it.

Time to stop exchanging gifts. Nobody needs more crap.

This is so ridiculous. Your daughter likes the beading kit? Your sister was gracious when her kid received it a couple years ago?

So: Her kid wasn't into it, and she forgot who gave it but thought it looked like something your kid would like. Would you prefer she just threw it away?

Stop looking for reasons to be annoyed with her. You've clearly got a chip on your shoulder re her income.

Anonymous wrote:
I really don't see what the problem is, if SIL thought it would be a gift your daughter would like, and the gift appeared new.

Who cares where it comes from?
Not everyone wants to spend hours shopping before the Holidays, if there are perfectly good gifts in the house already.
It's nothing to do with your SIL's HHI.

Hmm, it's insulting. Think beyond just the product itself.
I'd be annoyed too, OP. She sucks.

I really don't see what the problem is, if SIL thought it would be a gift your daughter would like, and the gift appeared new.

Who cares where it comes from?
Not everyone wants to spend hours shopping before the Holidays, if there are perfectly good gifts in the house already.
It's nothing to do with your SIL's HHI.

Anonymous wrote:She clearly forgot where it came from. It's an easy mistake.

I'm not sure why you consider it a "lame" gift. If it's lame now, it was lame when you gave it to her daughter as well.

Thank you! This totally made me laugh.

I believe we are related, OP.

Please clarify - your sister's gifts arrived today? Are these late Christmas presents? Do you give her DCs drove gifts, too?

Why don't you cut your losses and stop ending this gift exchange? I'm about to do this with my own sister. She doesn't re-gift, she just gives crappy gifts, but every year reminds us that we need to send our wish lists/start shopping. She seems enthusiastic and then gives cheap gifts that are far, far below our set amount per kid of $100.

Write the thank you (have your DD do this) and then in about 10 months, let your sister know that you are not doing the cousin gift exchange ...

Anonymous wrote:How did you know it was the actual one you gave and that she didn't just buy the same kit?

This

How did you know it was the actual one you gave and that she didn't just buy the same kit?