Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You want to have the conversation/confrontation though. I can tell from your post. You crave it, actually.

+1

You want to get in a fight with strangers on the Internet. I can tell from your post. You crave it.

Anonymous wrote:You want to have the conversation/confrontation though. I can tell from your post. You crave it, actually.

+1

We have put my mother, who is super close to my girls, as our primary in case anything happens soon (next 5-7 years). We put my SIL as the 'contingent' guardian if anything happens after my mom turn 70 (just because we are not sure an elder citizen should be caring for preteen girls). Then my SIL got married to someone we don't think we want raising our girls, at all. We completely removed SIL from the will, and did not tell her. Replaced her with my brother. No point in telling someone something upsetting if you have no iminent expectations to die! They'll have to deal if the situation arises.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks PP's for the recommendation to write a letter to him. I think that's what I will do.

I was going to suggest the same thing.

OP, what happened to make you change your mind?

OP here. We honestly figured he'd be the right person since they are the same age, good people, stable jobs, we are close, we know they will love our kids,etc. But I am realizing that he is slowly becoming our (asshole) father and I do not want this projected onto our kids. (in addition to other family crap)

I know my mother is young enough to care for our kids should something happen (and she is an awesome grandmother.. could not ask for anything more).