If you marry him, be prepared for traditional gender roles. My southern husband has many sweet qualities but this has been a very, very difficult aspect of our relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:Very intelligent, more "open minded" than my secular liberal friends.

Riiiight...because none of us who grew up in the south are secular liberals. Really stinky troll bait. My family has been here in Virginia for over 350 years, and many of my ancestors fought in the civil war. I'm an atheist liberal. Have fun with your polite sounding redneck. Calvinism is a hoot.

Dismount from your high horse. I made No association with him being southern with being intelligent or not a secular liberal. I was associating very intelligent with being OPEN MINDED, which is actually rare.

The heck you didn't lady - you're the one who drew the contrast in the first place between "Southern Man" and "secular liberal friends" - claiming he is more "open minded" in a way that implied "Southern" is somehow exclusive of "secular liberal", which is a very very unusual thing for a German to comment on - I expect it from a Right Wing Troll, but not a German. I quoted the relevant words. I am actually related in my immediate family to a first generation German immigrant.

Anonymous wrote:Which you have demonstrated aptly, I think.

Hardly - nothing I said was close minded. If you can't take it, don't dish it. Maybe you should get a pass since English isn't your first language and you don't realize your insinuations.

You didn't specify -- I assume you mean a white southerner? Does he have an opinion of the white southerner's heritage of treason in defense of slavery? If he condemns that, the rest is negotiable and his open mind should serve you two well. If he tells himself pretty little lies about the heritage of his ancestors (assuming his family is native to the region), then he's part of the problem with our country.

Be sure you write "BLESSED!" in every facebook posting.

Embrace butter. And sugar. In large quantities.

Related: Embrace your soon-to-be fat butt. It's all good in the South.

Be prepared to be criticized if your make-up, clothing, and hair are not flawless. That said, it's OK to wear sweats or yoga pants out in public so long as they are really expensive ones.

Speaking of which, your car is an extension of your family's brand. Your car says everything about you.
Also, BRAND names for everything.

However, you can't be snobby. No one likes an uppity know-it-all.

In sum: the South is all about keeping up appearances. Probably more so than any other place in the U.S.

You may hear this phrase, "Uncle so-and-so, he just ain't right"

My fiancé is from Louisiana. The biggest tip I can give is that if he has crazy relatives, he's well aware they are crazy. Don't bother pointing it out. His loyalty to them is bone deep. You are blessed because he will be just as loyal to you.

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Anonymous wrote:Very intelligent, more "open minded" than my secular liberal friends.

Riiiight...because none of us who grew up in the south are secular liberals. Really stinky troll bait. My family has been here in Virginia for over 350 years, and many of my ancestors fought in the civil war. I'm an atheist liberal. Have fun with your polite sounding redneck. Calvinism is a hoot.

Dismount from your high horse. I made No association with him being southern with being intelligent or not a secular liberal. I was associating very intelligent with being OPEN MINDED, which is actually rare.

Which you have demonstrated aptly, I think.

Anonymous wrote:Well wait a minute on the putting on more makeup etc advice, because he sounds like he fell for YOU, Ms. 1/2 German, not a Southern Belle.

I'm from the west and the northeast, and fell for a southern man; we've been married 18 years. I'm still crazy about him. Loove when the accent comes back when he's tired or had a drink.

But to be fair, if I had found a wonderful man from any part of the country, I'd be crazy about him, too. I can imagine extolling the virtues of my Brooklyn man or Montanan.

OP here. Yes he loves me for many reasons, and minimal makeup is one of them. The way he says my name is exquisite... (((melt)))

Again I was just having fun with the post, but I should say that this love was made possible by the fact that we got to know each other without knowing anything about looks, age, religion/non religion, politics, geographic location. Noone would ever have matched us on a dating site, for example.

He opens my car door for me. Like, for real, every time. Who does this? It took me a while to get used to it, but he still catches me reaching for the door handle and will give me "the look". LOL. Its too cute.

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Anonymous wrote:Im 1/2 German and fallen madly in love with a kind, passionate Southern Man. Omg the best lover ever. Very intelligent, more "open minded" than my secular liberal friends. I could go on and on.

But I wont.

He has a few grammatical "southernisms". Such as "might could" as in "you might could program it this way".

Help me understand "Do what?" when he has not heard what I have said (such as over the cell phone).

Anything else I should know about the Southern Man?

A true conservative gentleman wouldn't be all balls deep in you without putting a ring on it. Just sayin.

Ha! OP here. We are engaged.

Its just a fun post, everyone, dont be so dreadful serious and snarky. Im in love, and part of why is because he is so different on paper, yet our souls are well matched.

Well wait a minute on the putting on more makeup etc advice, because he sounds like he fell for YOU, Ms. 1/2 German, not a Southern Belle.

I'm from the west and the northeast, and fell for a southern man; we've been married 18 years. I'm still crazy about him. Loove when the accent comes back when he's tired or had a drink.

But to be fair, if I had found a wonderful man from any part of the country, I'd be crazy about him, too. I can imagine extolling the virtues of my Brooklyn man or Montanan.

Anonymous wrote:Very intelligent, more "open minded" than my secular liberal friends.

Riiiight...because none of us who grew up in the south are secular liberals. Really stinky troll bait. My family has been here in Virginia for over 350 years, and many of my ancestors fought in the civil war. I'm an atheist liberal. Have fun with your polite sounding redneck. Calvinism is a hoot.