Anonymous
12/09/2015 06:51
Subject: Misplaced anger
Anonymous wrote:I'm going to turn the table a bit, having responded above, and ask you if you think -- perhaps -- misplaced anger is a bit of a convenient defense. Yes, it's sexist to expect "the wife" to do all the reaching out/family management. But is it really just misplaced anger when a relationship with a SIL fails? Isn't it equally sexist to blame one's own brother when a relationship with another individual entirely -- a grown woman -- is so sterile? Wouldn't that be misplaced anger?
Yes, the anger is valid *if it has to do with her personal behavior, and not frequency of contact/visit/communication issues that the brother/son should be handling.*
I never said anger toward the wife is misplaced if she's a gossip or rude or ignores you. I just said it is misplaced if you're mad at her for not managing the brother/son's family relationships.
Anonymous
12/09/2015 06:28
Subject: Misplaced anger
I'm going to turn the table a bit, having responded above, and ask you if you think -- perhaps -- misplaced anger is a bit of a convenient defense. Yes, it's sexist to expect "the wife" to do all the reaching out/family management. But is it really just misplaced anger when a relationship with a SIL fails? Isn't it equally sexist to blame one's own brother when a relationship with another individual entirely -- a grown woman -- is so sterile? Wouldn't that be misplaced anger?