Anonymous
12/08/2015 16:57
Subject: When did you stop signing holiday cards from the whole family>
I do not plan to send out my own cards until I have children. I am an adult with my own household, but don't prioritize Christmas cards. Personally, I would appreciate being kept on the card, especially if my picture was on it.
Anonymous
12/08/2015 15:59
Subject: Re:When did you stop signing holiday cards from the whole family>
SHe is old enough to send out her own cards.
Anonymous
12/08/2015 15:13
Subject: When did you stop signing holiday cards from the whole family>
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would keep her on the card, especially because there are still other children in the house and the blended family issue. I would never want her to feel left out.
Yes, this. But I would be conscious of her independence and ask her.
OP, let us know what she says.
Yes, but don't ask her in a way that makes it seem like you thinks she should come off the card. That would have the same effect.
Thank you, everyone. I mailed them this week, including one to her so that she can see it. When we next talk to her I'll bring it up asking if it bugs her that she's still on it. "I know you're a grown-up, but we still feel like you're one of 'the kids' and put your name on our family Christmas card. Does it bother you that we put your name on the card still, or would you rather next year that we not?" Will report back after we talk!
I think that's a perfect way to handle it, OP!
Anonymous
12/08/2015 10:33
Subject: When did you stop signing holiday cards from the whole family>
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would keep her on the card, especially because there are still other children in the house and the blended family issue. I would never want her to feel left out.
Yes, this. But I would be conscious of her independence and ask her.
OP, let us know what she says.
Yes, but don't ask her in a way that makes it seem like you thinks she should come off the card. That would have the same effect.
Thank you, everyone. I mailed them this week, including one to her so that she can see it. When we next talk to her I'll bring it up asking if it bugs her that she's still on it. "I know you're a grown-up, but we still feel like you're one of 'the kids' and put your name on our family Christmas card. Does it bother you that we put your name on the card still, or would you rather next year that we not?" Will report back after we talk!
Anonymous
12/08/2015 10:21
Subject: When did you stop signing holiday cards from the whole family>
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would keep her on the card, especially because there are still other children in the house and the blended family issue. I would never want her to feel left out.
Yes, this. But I would be conscious of her independence and ask her.
OP, let us know what she says.
Yes, but don't ask her in a way that makes it seem like you thinks she should come off the card. That would have the same effect.
Anonymous
12/08/2015 09:58
Subject: When did you stop signing holiday cards from the whole family>
Anonymous wrote:Our daughter is now in her mid20s, working professional, lives with her long-term boyfriend. We have two younger kids in their early teens. Our holiday cards have always read "Love, the Smiths. Dick, Jane, Larla, Larlo, and Aidan". I have always listed everyone since I don't like just saying "The Smiths", but it felt odd this year including her as a signatory. Of course the card has pictures of all of us, but she's now an adult with her own life. On the other hand, it would feel weird to simply drop her.
I could just ask her, but wanted anonymous feedback first.
Also, would your answer differ if I said we were a blended family, and the adult daughter is the biological daughter of only one of the parents?
You should ask her.
And no, because I'm not an asshole.
Anonymous
12/07/2015 20:51
Subject: When did you stop signing holiday cards from the whole family>
I would think its weird if my parents or inlaws signed a card from me. I'm 29.
Anonymous
12/07/2015 20:38
Subject: Re:When did you stop signing holiday cards from the whole family>
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here, in case it wasn't clear. Her photo would still remain on the card, in the same way that photos of me and my family are on my parents' holiday card each year, it's just that the card isn't really from her since she no longer lives in the household.
You are an adult, why are your parents sending your picture to others on a holiday card? Cut the cord.
I know tons of people who include their children, grandchildren etc on cards. Sorry you can't fathom a close family.
The cut the cord remark was weird.
Anonymous
12/07/2015 20:38
Subject: When did you stop signing holiday cards from the whole family>
Anonymous wrote:I would keep her on the card, especially because there are still other children in the house and the blended family issue. I would never want her to feel left out.
Yes, this. But I would be conscious of her independence and ask her.
OP, let us know what she says.
Anonymous
12/07/2015 20:25
Subject: Re:When did you stop signing holiday cards from the whole family>
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here, in case it wasn't clear. Her photo would still remain on the card, in the same way that photos of me and my family are on my parents' holiday card each year, it's just that the card isn't really from her since she no longer lives in the household.
You are an adult, why are your parents sending your picture to others on a holiday card? Cut the cord.
I know tons of people who include their children, grandchildren etc on cards. Sorry you can't fathom a close family.
Anonymous
12/07/2015 20:24
Subject: When did you stop signing holiday cards from the whole family>
I would keep her on the card, especially because there are still other children in the house and the blended family issue. I would never want her to feel left out.
Anonymous
12/07/2015 19:04
Subject: Re:When did you stop signing holiday cards from the whole family>
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here, in case it wasn't clear. Her photo would still remain on the card, in the same way that photos of me and my family are on my parents' holiday card each year, it's just that the card isn't really from her since she no longer lives in the household.
You are an adult, why are your parents sending your picture to others on a holiday card? Cut the cord.
We get together at the beach and we get pictures of the whole family. The year my brother got married, my parents' holiday card was a photo of our extended family from his wedding. For them, they love to send pics of them with their kids and grandkids as part of their Christmas card. You've never gotten cards from couples over the age of 60 apparently!
Anonymous
12/07/2015 18:35
Subject: Re:When did you stop signing holiday cards from the whole family>
Anonymous wrote:OP here, in case it wasn't clear. Her photo would still remain on the card, in the same way that photos of me and my family are on my parents' holiday card each year, it's just that the card isn't really from her since she no longer lives in the household.
You are an adult, why are your parents sending your picture to others on a holiday card? Cut the cord.