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Anonymous wrote:OP, so glad you found something to complain about...no ILs to complain about.

Ha ha! Exactly.

Life is not complete without whining about something.

Time to grow up, OP.

I don't think it's OP who needs to grow up. The ones laking maturity are the posters who turned a heartfelt post into a pissing match.

OP took the first piss! That's the point of the backlash!

It's kind of funny you are calling someone out as immature, but your defense for your behavior is "but, but she did it first." Are you 5 years old?

I wasn't the "time to grow up" poster, so I'm not calling anyone out as immature. I do find it funny that you (or someone) called this a "pissing match" when that is exactly how the thread started. She's comparing her life to others', essentially saying "you could have it worse." Well, yes! But we can all join in that construct, now can't we?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, so glad you found something to complain about...no ILs to complain about.

Ha ha! Exactly.

Life is not complete without whining about something.

Time to grow up, OP.

I don't think it's OP who needs to grow up. The ones laking maturity are the posters who turned a heartfelt post into a pissing match.

OP took the first piss! That's the point of the backlash!

It's kind of funny you are calling someone out as immature, but your defense for your behavior is "but, but she did it first." Are you 5 years old?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, so glad you found something to complain about...no ILs to complain about.

Ha ha! Exactly.

Life is not complete without whining about something.

Time to grow up, OP.

I don't think it's OP who needs to grow up. The ones laking maturity are the posters who turned a heartfelt post into a pissing match.

OP took the first piss! That's the point of the backlash!

No she didn't . You and other posters just decided to put your own projections and issues into it. It's pretty common on DCUM, but the family boards are the absolute worst for it so many people are just eager to be nasty and pile on. Total mean girl clique mentality, and it's sad.

OK, OP!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, so glad you found something to complain about...no ILs to complain about.

Ha ha! Exactly.

Life is not complete without whining about something.

Time to grow up, OP.

I don't think it's OP who needs to grow up. The ones laking maturity are the posters who turned a heartfelt post into a pissing match.

OP took the first piss! That's the point of the backlash!

No she didn't . You and other posters just decided to put your own projections and issues into it. It's pretty common on DCUM, but the family boards are the absolute worst for it so many people are just eager to be nasty and pile on. Total mean girl clique mentality, and it's sad.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, so glad you found something to complain about...no ILs to complain about.

Ha ha! Exactly.

Life is not complete without whining about something.

Time to grow up, OP.

I don't think it's OP who needs to grow up. The ones laking maturity are the posters who turned a heartfelt post into a pissing match.

OP took the first piss! That's the point of the backlash!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, so glad you found something to complain about...no ILs to complain about.

Ha ha! Exactly.

Life is not complete without whining about something.

Time to grow up, OP.

I don't think it's OP who needs to grow up. The ones laking maturity are the posters who turned a heartfelt post into a pissing match.

Anonymous wrote:OP, so glad you found something to complain about...no ILs to complain about.

Ha ha! Exactly.

Life is not complete without whining about something.

Time to grow up, OP.

OP - I'm sorry that your DH is sad during this time of year missing his parents. That must be really difficult.

I would never wish a poor relationship with a MIL on anyone. Trust me, it's difficult. But as much as my MIL drives me crazy, I have to admit it would be much worse to see my DH missing her when she's someday gone.

Hugs to you.

OP, so glad you found something to complain about...no ILs to complain about.

Anonymous wrote:I'm not writing this to chastise anyone, I know through friends and siblings that in-law relationships vary greatly.
I just wish I had the opportunity to have one, one way or the other.
I wish this time of year wasn't so sad for DH.
I wish my kids had the experience of two sets of grandparents doting over them.
I wish I had a MIL to tell me stories of DH as a kid, teach me his favorite recipes or even complain about my cooking, which actually does suck.
Thanks for letting me share my heart.

I wish that my children had one set.

You know what's worse than your husband being sad that his mom isn't alive, and you being sad that you can't live out a fantasy with a fantasy MIL?

It's having your husband be sad because his mother is alive, and she's a personality-disordered nightmare who makes all of your lives HELL.

So no in-laws, but your parents are still alive? Lucky! Wish I had your problems.

See why you shouldn't go down this rabbit hole, OP?

Anonymous wrote:I think you have a fantasy about what in-laws should be but there are very few people who have found the unicorn. My in-laws have never told me anything about my DH when he was little. All they do is tell us about where they ate and what they ate and where they are planning on eating.

LOL This is DH's cousin and her family!!! All they ever do (and then talk about) is freaking food. Then they wonder why yet another weight-reduction surgery didn't work.

OP, this thread reminded me that people often go out of their way to find reasons to be sad. I want your life, OP! I don't have in-laws either, but I have other problems that make yours pale in comparison. Or so I think. Because I suspect I fall pray to the same thing: I look for ways to feel sad about what I don't have rather than happy and thankful for everything I do have. It is not easy to choose joy, even though your mind knows joy is the correct choice

I think you have a fantasy about what in-laws should be but there are very few people who have found the unicorn. My in-laws have never told me anything about my DH when he was little. All they do is tell us about where they ate and what they ate and where they are planning on eating.

Just be glad you still have your own parents. My mom died 14 years ago, and never got a chance to see any of her kids get married much less meet a single grandkid. She loved children. I'm sorry that my kids will never have decent grandparents.

You can take my MIL. She's cold and selfish. She invited 14 extra guests for a gathering at my house without clearing it with me first. When they arrived, she didn't even ask if we needed a hand serving all of these uninvited guests.

Upon meeting my daughter at 6 weeks old, the first thing she said is that she doesn't change diapers. I was stunned, particularly when I hadn't asked her to change one. She refused to watch my daughter for 15 minutes so I could pump when my daughter was 3 months old. My husband and FIL were outside tending to a gutter issue with an extremely high ladder. When I told my husband that he would have to put off the gutters for a bit so I could pump, she angrily said, "Just hand me the baby." Later she would chastise me for pumping beyond 6 months telling me to just feed her formula (I guess since she had breastfed each kid for 6 months, that's the only acceptable approach).

When we visited her one holiday, she refused to turn up the heat (keeps house below 60) even for a 2 year old. Found my DD the next morning as cold as an icicle (my husband had forgotten to put the fleece sleep suit that I had brought for the tr