Anonymous
12/02/2015 20:34
Subject: Re:MIL advices a lot
I disagree do NOT thank her in anyway. It will only encourage her. My mother does this and I completely ignore her. Other than a "hmm" sometimes. That's it.
Anonymous
12/02/2015 17:31
Subject: Re:MIL advices a lot
I never got advice from my mother or MIL unless I asked. I guess they thought I was smart enough to figure things out on my own.
Anonymous
12/02/2015 17:22
Subject: MIL advices a lot
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Can you just gently tell her, "You know, I know you want the best for us and have wisdom to share, but sometimes it can feel a little overwhelming when you give so much advice. Even if the advice is good, as adults we like to try to figure things out and make our own decisions. We are happy we can turn to you and ask you for your input, but maybe not so much of the time."
What is your and your MIL's ethnic background?
Indian. I moved to US when I was 12 years old but she moved here 2 years back. Before that, My FIL and MIL used to visit us for 6 months which was another nightmare. Eventually they moved here
Indian MIL's. I will never marry Indian as I have heard many terrifying stories abt Indian parents influencing their son's marriage and life. Feel pity for all Indian wives who have to deal with this
That's rude. I am Indian and feel offended by this
It's often the truth. I am Indian as well and I have seen several examples like this. Unless the son takes a strong stand in support of his wife, which is also not very common.
Anonymous
12/02/2015 16:43
Subject: MIL advices a lot
My mother does that. It drives me CRAZY!
By the time she leaves, I'm all on edge.
Sorry, I'm no help at all, OP!
Anonymous
12/02/2015 16:41
Subject: MIL advices a lot
Are always this immature?Anonymous wrote:My MIL advices us a lot. You should do this, you should do that...
It makes me so mad that @ times even though I was planning to do the same thing (even without telling me), I end up not doing it. Just because she advised....
I want her to stop advising me all the time. DUNNO want to do.
Please note that she lives 20 mins from us and is @ our house at least 3 times a week. I think that maybe one of the reasons that makes me mad at her and her advices.
Anonymous
12/02/2015 16:13
Subject: MIL advices a lot
Another indian here. Yeah, you need to just not respond much, or just respond in a very non committal vague way. My MIL is exactly like yours, and has an opinion on everything. Things got much better after I stopped reacting.