Anonymous wrote:Awful at memorizing anything. Honestly, she forgets the names of characters in books from one page to another.
We're not that religious so this would be A Big Deal for us. that's one reason why I would truly like her to become Bat Mitzvah'd.

THis is off-topic, but have you had her tested for short term memory issues? This could be a major reason why she is struggling to learn to read.

A neuropsych would test for that.

Op I hope this made you feel at ease. I can't think of any synagogue that would say your daughter's abilities are not good enough to have a bat mitzvah. As you must know a bat mitzvah party and ceremony are not requirements and just by turning 13 and being Jewish you are considered a bat mitzvah Jewishly speaking. Meaning, there are no hard and fast requirements to have the ceremony and party.
Best wishes on a meaningful experience for your family!

Anonymous wrote:You don't have to read from the Torah to become a Bat Mitzvah, OP. Speak with your rabbi and he/she should be able to help.

Yes, I went to a conservative bat mitzvah for a young boy who had many LDs and difficulty speaking. The rabbi had made everything work and we had a joyous celebration after.

If your synagogue isn't receptive find another. Come back and I can post some names. The most meaningful bar mitzvah I ever attended was 30 years ago for a nonverbal boy who put his hands on the Torah while a sibling read the portion. So beautiful. There are so many ways to do this.

I wish I could get you my private email and talk to you about this. I know many parents in your situation that I could connect you with. If you are interested, reply to this post and I will check back.

Anonymous wrote:Looking at the page for Rodef Shalom, they definitely work with the families/kids: http://www.templerodefshalom.org/accessibilityaccommodations/

+1

The synagogue has tutors that work with special needs kids.

OP: This is all very encouraging, thanks! Have opened discussions with the cantor, head of religious school, etc. We'll see what happens. We cannot be the only ones in this boat.