Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 21:31     Subject: Hey visitors: Put your kids to bed
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Well, I'm not hosting, but I did just get done "co-guesting" at my parents with my sister's family. My kids were in bed and stayed in bed by 8. She let hers stay up until 11, when she went to he'd, every night. They woke up my dad every night. No adult time with my parents, brother...or sister and BIL. Sister and BIL just can't be bothered to parent on vacation. So this isn't just about hosts; it's about other guests, too!


You have different parenting styles, get over it. Yours is no better than theirs, just different.


Yes, it is better that my 2 yo was in bed at 8 rather than hers being up until 11 four nights in a row, and cranky and tired every day. We can pretend like everything is all fine and just different and equal, but it's not. It is not better for the kids OR the other adults I. The house.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 21:29     Subject: Hey visitors: Put your kids to bed
Anonymous wrote:Well, I'm not hosting, but I did just get done "co-guesting" at my parents with my sister's family. My kids were in bed and stayed in bed by 8. She let hers stay up until 11, when she went to he'd, every night. They woke up my dad every night. No adult time with my parents, brother...or sister and BIL. Sister and BIL just can't be bothered to parent on vacation. So this isn't just about hosts; it's about other guests, too!


You have different parenting styles, get over it. Yours is no better than theirs, just different.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 21:27     Subject: Hey visitors: Put your kids to bed
Oh the horrors, children creating memories that will last a life time!
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 21:26     Subject: Hey visitors: Put your kids to bed
Well, I'm not hosting, but I did just get done "co-guesting" at my parents with my sister's family. My kids were in bed and stayed in bed by 8. She let hers stay up until 11, when she went to he'd, every night. They woke up my dad every night. No adult time with my parents, brother...or sister and BIL. Sister and BIL just can't be bothered to parent on vacation. So this isn't just about hosts; it's about other guests, too!
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 21:23     Subject: Hey visitors: Put your kids to bed
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You're assuming people have early bedtimes for their kids year round. Many don't.


Then they need to tell their host that. If the host objects and the guest doesn't like it, they are free to stay in a hotel. Host's house= host's rules.


I host a lot through out the year and our kids happen to have early bedtimes, but I think if you've got this kind of attitude, then hosting families with little kids is just not for you. Time differences, naps that were missed due to travel - it's all a crapshoot and it's fine if that bothers you, but don't offer to host & house these people if it's going to have you all bent out of shape.

+100


+ a million

OP, you sound so tightly wound. Unclench.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 21:22     Subject: Hey visitors: Put your kids to bed
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You're assuming people have early bedtimes for their kids year round. Many don't.


Then they need to tell their host that. If the host objects and the guest doesn't like it, they are free to stay in a hotel. Host's house= host's rules.


I host a lot through out the year and our kids happen to have early bedtimes, but I think if you've got this kind of attitude, then hosting families with little kids is just not for you. Time differences, naps that were missed due to travel - it's all a crapshoot and it's fine if that bothers you, but don't offer to host & house these people if it's going to have you all bent out of shape.


+1. You are obviously not cut out for hosting.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 21:19     Subject: Hey visitors: Put your kids to bed
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You're assuming people have early bedtimes for their kids year round. Many don't.


Then they need to tell their host that. If the host objects and the guest doesn't like it, they are free to stay in a hotel. Host's house= host's rules.


I host a lot through out the year and our kids happen to have early bedtimes, but I think if you've got this kind of attitude, then hosting families with little kids is just not for you. Time differences, naps that were missed due to travel - it's all a crapshoot and it's fine if that bothers you, but don't offer to host & house these people if it's going to have you all bent out of shape.


I'm PP, and I agree, this is why I personally would never do it. But it's not unreasonable for hosts to want adult conversation with their friends/ family they have offered to host without kid stuff in the background. Kids do what adults say, not the other way around.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 21:18     Subject: Hey visitors: Put your kids to bed
This is why I don't travel with our toddler to extended family. Too many people don't understand jet lag and travel crabbiness in kids, and I really just don't want to deal with it. They can come here, or we'll just skip a few years.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 21:17     Subject: Hey visitors: Put your kids to bed
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You're assuming people have early bedtimes for their kids year round. Many don't.


Then they need to tell their host that. If the host objects and the guest doesn't like it, they are free to stay in a hotel. Host's house= host's rules.


I host a lot through out the year and our kids happen to have early bedtimes, but I think if you've got this kind of attitude, then hosting families with little kids is just not for you. Time differences, naps that were missed due to travel - it's all a crapshoot and it's fine if that bothers you, but don't offer to host & house these people if it's going to have you all bent out of shape.

+100
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 21:15     Subject: Hey visitors: Put your kids to bed
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You're assuming people have early bedtimes for their kids year round. Many don't.


Then they need to tell their host that. If the host objects and the guest doesn't like it, they are free to stay in a hotel. Host's house= host's rules.


I host a lot through out the year and our kids happen to have early bedtimes, but I think if you've got this kind of attitude, then hosting families with little kids is just not for you. Time differences, naps that were missed due to travel - it's all a crapshoot and it's fine if that bothers you, but don't offer to host & house these people if it's going to have you all bent out of shape.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 21:13     Subject: Hey visitors: Put your kids to bed
Any considerate parent will realize that adults want to have a bit of time to fully relax together in the evenings.

And if you co-sleep and the kids can't sleep without you? Guess what? Goodnight! Enjoy the 8pm bedtime.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 21:10     Subject: Hey visitors: Put your kids to bed
Anonymous wrote:You're assuming people have early bedtimes for their kids year round. Many don't.


Then they need to tell their host that. If the host objects and the guest doesn't like it, they are free to stay in a hotel. Host's house= host's rules.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 21:08     Subject: Hey visitors: Put your kids to bed
You're assuming people have early bedtimes for their kids year round. Many don't.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 21:07     Subject: Hey visitors: Put your kids to bed
Anonymous wrote:If this kind of thing bothers you then don't invite people w/ small children and flexible parenting to stay at your house.



"flexible" parenting?



Get off the freaking iPad and put your kids to bed.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 21:02     Subject: Hey visitors: Put your kids to bed
Anonymous wrote:If this kind of thing bothers you then don't invite people w/ small children and flexible parenting to stay at your house.



No, it is the guest's responsibility to clear their lax parenting with the host beforehand. If they don't, they must adhere to the host's rules.