Anonymous
11/19/2015 18:39
Subject: Telling in-laws about pregnancy plans foiled :P
Anonymous wrote:Just pick up the phone and call her.
PP you must be a man because your suggestion actually is logical, makes sense, and lacks any hint of drama.
Anonymous
11/19/2015 18:38
Subject: Telling in-laws about pregnancy plans foiled :P
You mean, you haven't told anyone YET?
Unfucking believable.
Grow up OP.
Unfucking believable.
Grow up OP.
Anonymous
11/19/2015 18:13
Subject: Telling in-laws about pregnancy plans foiled :P
Anonymous wrote:Why does she have to first?
Your DH needs to step it up.
The two of you are about to be responsible for another human being one who truly is dependent on other people and he needs to get used to pushing his mother's whims further down on his list of priorities.
People get told as you see them. You can ask them to hold off talking about it on social media, but the reality is once you tell one you have to be prepared for all to know.
Send her the ornament in the mail as planned.
+1! DH's mom = DH's issue/problem!
Anonymous
11/19/2015 18:11
Subject: Telling in-laws about pregnancy plans foiled :P
Anonymous wrote:Why does she have to first?
Your DH needs to step it up.
The two of you are about to be responsible for another human being one who truly is dependent on other people and he needs to get used to pushing his mother's whims further down on his list of priorities.
People get told as you see them. You can ask them to hold off talking about it on social media, but the reality is once you tell one you have to be prepared for all to know.
Send her the ornament in the mail as planned.
+1000
Anonymous
11/19/2015 17:55
Subject: Telling in-laws about pregnancy plans foiled :P
Just tell people as you see them. If she has an issue simply say "we were planning on seeing you on your birthday, but you canceled"
Anonymous
11/19/2015 17:33
Subject: Telling in-laws about pregnancy plans foiled :P
Just pick up the phone and call her.
Anonymous
11/19/2015 16:47
Subject: Re:Telling in-laws about pregnancy plans foiled :P
Tell your families when you see them.
Your MIL needs to grow up. The world doesn't revolve around her and people (you and your DH included) need to stop acting like it does. If she "flips" because she wasn't told first, all you need to say is, "We wanted to share the wonderful news with everyone in person, and this was the first time we saw you since we found out!"
Your MIL needs to grow up. The world doesn't revolve around her and people (you and your DH included) need to stop acting like it does. If she "flips" because she wasn't told first, all you need to say is, "We wanted to share the wonderful news with everyone in person, and this was the first time we saw you since we found out!"
Anonymous
11/19/2015 10:50
Subject: Telling in-laws about pregnancy plans foiled :P
Anonymous wrote:Just tell her over the phone and be done with it. It doesnt have to be a production with ornaments.
Don't be such a killjoy. For many of us, it is a big deal!! And especially if it's the first grandbaby on both sides. We're having the first, long awaited grandbaby on both sides and our parents are more excited than us. It's a huge deal.
Anonymous
11/19/2015 10:45
Subject: Telling in-laws about pregnancy plans foiled :P
Just tell her over the phone and be done with it. It doesnt have to be a production with ornaments.
Anonymous
11/19/2015 09:38
Subject: Telling in-laws about pregnancy plans foiled :P
Anonymous wrote:By "pregnancy plans" do you mean that you are planning to make an announcement that you are going to attempt to get pregnant?
Never mind! I think I got it. Duh.
Anonymous
11/19/2015 09:37
Subject: Telling in-laws about pregnancy plans foiled :P
I would mail her ornament to her right before you tell your family. I think everyone should know at the exact same time. I'm a FTM too and we plan on letting everyone know at once. I'm waiting because I'm high risk and that means I'll let my parents know at 12 weeks because we don't want to tell my MIL earlier than that (she was convinced a cousin's miscarriage was really an abortion). I'm sure that will upset my parents, but what can you do?
Anonymous
11/19/2015 09:37
Subject: Telling in-laws about pregnancy plans foiled :P
By "pregnancy plans" do you mean that you are planning to make an announcement that you are going to attempt to get pregnant?
Anonymous
11/19/2015 09:33
Subject: Telling in-laws about pregnancy plans foiled :P
Anonymous wrote:We have been planning on telling in laws at MILs birthday celebration. She will flip if she's not told first, so we had an ornament made for her and wanted to give it to her as we were leaving as a "last minute forgotten gift." This would then start the holiday travel train where we can tell all other extended family and friends in person.
MIL is completely codependent on SIL and just told us today over text not to bother coming for her birthday anymore because SIL can't make it. She said we will celebrate it over Christmas now instead. I said okay, and told DH we continue the original plans of telling everyone else when we see them. He can't believe that I would even dream of telling anyone else before her and wants to wait and announce it with a card after the holidays. Outside perspective needed.. I think it's ridiculous to hold off telling 50 other people because his mom can't celebrate an insignificant birthday anyway without his sister there holding her hand. I want to tell my family in person when I see them and this is getting taken away from me. Am I in the wrong? We continue as planned and tell MIL the next time she allows us to be in her presence? Or wait? Wwyd? This is my first pregnancy and the first grandchild on both of our sides.
Oh, Good Lord!
No, no, no. None of this "she will flip if she isn't told first" business. Nope. Let her flip. You need to live your lives as you and DH see fit, as what is best for your baby and your family, and kowtowing to ridiculous notions like that has no place on your priority list. Seriously.
Tell DH: "Well, Honey, we could call and tell her on her birthday or we could wait and tell her in person. It's your choice, as it's your mom, but I don't see any reason not to tell my family in person when we're there."
How he handles this will tell you whether or not you might want to consider some marriage counseling before the baby comes.
Anonymous
11/19/2015 08:26
Subject: Telling in-laws about pregnancy plans foiled :P
Anonymous wrote:Tell your family in person.
Call his mom before the family gathering #1, as in right before you get there. Tell everyone who is there.
Be prepared that she will likely have told everyone on your behalf by family gathering #2.
+1
Anonymous
11/19/2015 08:24
Subject: Telling in-laws about pregnancy plans foiled :P
Why does telling her in person trump telling your family in person? That makes no sense to me.
If she must know first, tell her over the phone. The tell your family as you see them.
If she must know first, tell her over the phone. The tell your family as you see them.