Remember: He is HER problem now.

Everything you had to deal with in your marriage with this rat is now all on her.

Be grateful that you are free of this douche bag for good.

How is answering posts here obsessing over him?

Yep, I feel damn lucky to have the balls to leave.

Anonymous wrote:I wasn't. My friend said it was what she was thinking she talked to him.

And then told me when she got to my place. That's kinda it.

So I found it to be interesting and posted it here.

I guess being real is a case for me to be judged.

You are obsessing over him. Leave it alone and forget it. What he does and with whom has zero to do with you, anymore. Count yourself lucky and move on.

Think about this. In his horn dog mind, he believes your friend would be a good sheet partner.

Instead of being disgusted by him, let your friend know that's what he thinks of her. An easy piece of ass.

That's disrespectful.

Nah I wasn't wondering where she was at all. Believe me a he wouldn't do anything to have to think about me. The situation was entirely about him. It always is.

Anonymous wrote:I think she felt weird about it but I'm glad she told be. No biggie. She has my back.

I think DH held her up etc to make you sweat. Nothing more.

I understand OP. It's kind of validating that the ex A hole is still an A hole, with our without you.

I don't know much about what goes on in my ex's relationship. He was a serial cheater with me. All I got wind of is an unidentified earring had been found in his house, and apparently it became a big thing. The implication was she found it, blamed him for having a girl over, and he was trying to find the owner of the earring. He even tried to say it was our child's. That's how I got asked about it.

She knows she's with a lying sack of sh*t. Where there is smoke...

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Anonymous wrote:I have to co parent with the asshole. I would love never have to deal with him again, but I have to. It's the only reason for me living where I do. To be a parent. Make sense?

So why are you wondering where the hell his girlfriend is when he's chatting another woman? Very weird.

It's always good to get validation of a major life decision, even if you're already sure you made the right choice.
If he appears to be in the process of cheating on his girlfriend, than the failure of the marriage is due to the EX and there was really nothing she could have done. Even if she knows that, it's nice to get additional proof, especially when a friend is witness to it.

Exactly! That's why I found it interesting. Proof is in the pudding - Makes me feel thankful that I don't have to deal with that anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:I have to co parent with the asshole. I would love never have to deal with him again, but I have to. It's the only reason for me living where I do. To be a parent. Make sense?

So why are you wondering where the hell his girlfriend is when he's chatting another woman? Very weird.

It's always good to get validation of a major life decision, even if you're already sure you made the right choice.
If he appears to be in the process of cheating on his girlfriend, than the failure of the marriage is due to the EX and there was really nothing she could have done. Even if she knows that, it's nice to get additional proof, especially when a friend is witness to it.

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Anonymous wrote:I have to co parent with the asshole. I would love never have to deal with him again, but I have to. It's the only reason for me living where I do. To be a parent. Make sense?

So why are you wondering where the hell his girlfriend is when he's chatting another woman? Very weird.

NP here. Really, if you divorced a man because he cheated on you, you would not think twice about that ex flirting with your friend while he has a gf - in other words, behaving unfaithfully again? If that really would not stick in your mind for at least a minute, I think THAT is abnormal. It is completely normal and human to hear or see things about an ex that echo problems in the marriage and reflect on it. IMO it's actually healthy. It's not about pining for him; it's about reflecting on the marriage and why it ended. Let's take the romantic aspect out of it. Let's say you divorced a man because he was a raging alcoholic and refused treatment. If your friend told you that she saw him out at a bar drunk and still pounding shots, wouldn't you reflect on that?

When you divorce, it really plays with your mind. No matter how much crap your ex threw at you, when you see how your kids are hurt by the divorce it makes you question whether things really were that bad. And then when you see new evidence that things really would still be that bad had you stayed, it confirms that you made the right decision and also helps you to understand what red flags to look for in future relationships. At least this is how it has been for me.

I wasn't. My friend said it was what she was thinking she talked to him.

And then told me when she got to my place. That's kinda it.

So I found it to be interesting and posted it here.

I guess being real is a case for me to be judged.

Anonymous wrote:I have to co parent with the asshole. I would love never have to deal with him again, but I have to. It's the only reason for me living where I do. To be a parent. Make sense?

So why are you wondering where the hell his girlfriend is when he's chatting another woman? Very weird.