I think it's a bad idea to have a baby now.

OP doesn't have solid proof otherwise she wouldn't use the term "red flag". What the hell is that? A red flag could be anything from a change in the brand of boxers that he wears to him switching from wheat to rye toast in the morning to some of these delusional hyperparanoid women.

Unless you have solid proof that he cheated otherwise you are one of those crazy women. My wife once accused me of chatting with my old female classmate in another state with some "cheating" stuffs going on. We had a big fight for nothing and I was really upset for those idiot shit.

Until he admits to his cheating, the relationship will remain at a standstill.

He must be completely open and honest with his mistake(s) if you both are to move forward. With him denying it ever occurred will get you both nowhere fast.

If he won't admit his faults, then the best thing you can do is move on yourself. You shouldn't stay stuck in a miserable marriage nor should you live your life in limbo because your husband is a no good liar.

You deserve so much better than him. And you know it.

Anonymous wrote:Can you drop the cheating accusations? It sounds like there are real and legit issues to work on but a accusing him is stalling it. He lied about what he was doing. Use that as your reference, not the suspected cheating.

Yes there is a possibility your marriage could be saved. but you have to let this go. Your cousin seeing him out late when he said he had to work doesn't= cheating.

That's assuming your cousin told you the truth. Some family members lie.

Anonymous wrote:basicslly my cousin saw him out one night when he was supposed to be working late. I confronted him and he made up some crazy story.

Why would you immediately jump to cheating? Good Lord, woman, if this is the only "evidence" you have, you're a monster.

There could be a million stupid reasons why someone would go out at night and feel all confused at explaining why.

Can you drop the cheating accusations? It sounds like there are real and legit issues to work on but a accusing him is stalling it. He lied about what he was doing. Use that as your reference, not the suspected cheating.

Anonymous wrote:I think the past few years- he had lost his job, depression and then us having fertility issues really did a number on us.

Dh and I went through a very bad patch when we were going through ivf. It's very stressful on a marriage and takes a hit on the sex life too

Anonymous wrote:basicslly my cousin saw him out one night when he was supposed to be working late. I confronted him and he made up some crazy story.

Out doing what?

I think the past few years- he had lost his job, depression and then us having fertility issues really did a number on us.

Anonymous wrote:Why do you need him to come clean? Can't you just figure out what led to the supposed infidelity and both improve? He probably thinks admitting infidelity will end everything

Don't try to place blame on her for his infidelity. If you have marital problems, you work on them together or in counseling. You don't put your dick in a side piece. End of story.