op here. I may not have made it clear, but there are no other kids at the stop.

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Anonymous wrote:Those of you talking about elementary schoolers are not making relevant comments. For many months of the school year it is pitch black when my middle schooler waits for the bus. I think it is up to your DD. If she feels comfortable standing alone in the dark, I'd let her. I have two kids waiting for the bus so they are out there together. If it was just one, I might think twice.

This is absurd - do you live in an area with no electricity and cars with no lights? Or are there no cars driving on the adjacent road? Do bad things only happen in the dark? Or do you have no idea what pitch black means?

I'm not sure what you are getting at. It is a quiet street. No streetlights, the houses don't have their lights on yet and there are almost no cars on the road at 7 when the bus comes. We are in the close-in burbs, not the city.

Anonymous wrote:Those of you talking about elementary schoolers are not making relevant comments. For many months of the school year it is pitch black when my middle schooler waits for the bus. I think it is up to your DD. If she feels comfortable standing alone in the dark, I'd let her. I have two kids waiting for the bus so they are out there together. If it was just one, I might think twice.

This is absurd - do you live in an area with no electricity and cars with no lights? Or are there no cars driving on the adjacent road? Do bad things only happen in the dark? Or do you have no idea what pitch black means?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No but I wouldn't let a 12th grader either. It's not safe .

Would you stand at a bus stop by yourself?

I would rather not. Being kidnapped is serious. I had a close call when I was about 18. Changed my perspective.

do you do anything alone?

I wouldn't let a girl stand in the dark alone at the bus stop. If she had a buddy it would be ok, but not by herself.

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Anonymous wrote:No but I wouldn't let a 12th grader either. It's not safe .

Would you stand at a bus stop by yourself?

I would rather not. Being kidnapped is serious. I had a close call when I was about 18. Changed my perspective.

Anonymous wrote:No but I wouldn't let a 12th grader either. It's not safe .

Holy moses.

Anonymous wrote:No but I wouldn't let a 12th grader either. It's not safe .

Would you stand at a bus stop by yourself?

No but I wouldn't let a 12th grader either. It's not safe .

Those of you talking about elementary schoolers are not making relevant comments. For many months of the school year it is pitch black when my middle schooler waits for the bus. I think it is up to your DD. If she feels comfortable standing alone in the dark, I'd let her. I have two kids waiting for the bus so they are out there together. If it was just one, I might think twice.

Anonymous wrote:Only if you trust her not to miss the bus.

+1000

Give her a phone and tell her to text you when the bus arrives and she gets on the bus.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I would do it. But also be aware the middle school aged girls are the group most commonly kidnapped by strangers[i][u]. Your daughter should be aware of the potential for danger so that she is relatively alert, and she should know what to do if she gets a creepy feeling about someone or something.
I would also think twice if there was a situation like a construction project going on -- anything where someone from outside the neighborhood would be aware that she is regularly there by herself at a particular time. Some of the general contractors pick up day workers without doing any sort of background or reference check.

Source for this info? And statistic about what number of middle school aged girls are actually kidnapped by strangers each year?

Anonymous wrote:Call me crazy, but I would wait with her. I enjoy the time at the bus stop in the morning with my 5th grader. It's just the two of us and we have great conversations because there are no distractions.

You're crazy.

My sixth grader would rather die than let me wait at the bus stop with her. In fact, on the first day of school I had to surreptitiously follow her!

Yes, I would do it. But also be aware the middle school aged girls are the group most commonly kidnapped by strangers. Your daughter should be aware of the potential for danger so that she is relatively alert, and she should know what to do if she gets a creepy feeling about someone or something.
I would also think twice if there was a situation like a construction project going on -- anything where someone from outside the neighborhood would be aware that she is regularly there by herself at a particular time. Some of the general contractors pick up day workers without doing any sort of background or reference check.