Anonymous wrote:I find I'm losing attraction to him because he is so meek and shy and unmotivated.

Then why did you marry him?

Anonymous wrote:Am I a golddigger if I want my dh to earn more money and be more ambitious so we have a more secure and comfortable life for ourselves and our children?

No, but you're lazy. Get off your ass and help him earn that money.

I'm not sure "am i a gold-digger?" is the right question.

I think "Is it even possible to get my DH onboard with more ambition?" is a better question.

And, do you think it is? Is he resistant? If so, why? Is he content with things now? Is his confidence in the dumps? Is he distracted by other stuff?

No, not at all.

Some women prefer to be more domestic and care for the house and children vs. having a career and that is perfectly fine.

Have you ever seen the film, "How To Marry a Millionaire" starring Marilyn Monroe, Betty Grable and Lauren Bacall.

It makes you really think....