Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree, the nationality of the child does not matter. Is there any way for this one girl to be on a different team? It seems that the constraints the parents would like to place on the rest of the team members will make it difficult for the team to work in the way it is meant to. Or, in the alternative, is there another team for your son?

If this is a team effort, it doesn't seem appropriate for one set of parents to set out different rules than the Olympiad rules.

I agree with this poster. This family's rules, regardless of their ethnicity, seem like an undue imposition on the rest of the team.

+2. This family's rules are not amenable to their DD participating. It's on them. BTW, I'm Indian-American growing up in the 1970s-80s, and I've never heard of anyone among our ethnic cohort with similar rules. I did see something similar but not so extreme with some very religious families of various religions, and sadly, families with domineering fathers.

Anonymous wrote:OP, the fact that you refer to the girl in question as "Indian Girl" shows us that her ethnicity is the only aspect of her character that you see.

Anonymous wrote:

OP,

I don't understand why PPs are accusing you of racism and not actually acknowledging that there is a significant logistical and possibly safety issue here (not allowing parent coaches inside the house). The parents trying to change the rules of these teams are being extremely rude, in my opinion. And I'm a foreigner myself - I'm not racist towards a particular group.

I haven't experienced this with my kids, so hopefully other PPs will chime in with helpful advice. My children are younger and so far we've only had supervised playdates with DD's friends who have Indian heritage.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree, the nationality of the child does not matter. Is there any way for this one girl to be on a different team? It seems that the constraints the parents would like to place on the rest of the team members will make it difficult for the team to work in the way it is meant to. Or, in the alternative, is there another team for your son?

If this is a team effort, it doesn't seem appropriate for one set of parents to set out different rules than the Olympiad rules.

I agree with this poster. This family's rules, regardless of their ethnicity, seem like an undue imposition on the rest of the team.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Come on, you guys are being ridiculous. OP is posting about this issue because within the span of more than a decade, she has experienced this only with Indian parents. So it definitely makes sense to mention it in her description, because she is asking herself whether there is a cultural thing here - I would too, in her shoes. The only reason you find this unbelievable is that you haven't experienced it yourself. However, this does not make her post racist!

Or perhaps there is one angry poster sock-puppetting this thread.

She is asking whether there is a cultural thing here, and about 10 different posts have said that there is not. You and OP (if you're not OP sock puppeting support for herself) have a comprehension problem.

OP here: this makes the solution very easy. This is no SO, but a different, highly competitive team where over 200 kids tried out for about 20 slots. There is a significant wait list. There are strict practice attendance requirements, or the child is replaced on the team. I had thought perhaps there were cultural issues I was unaware of that we're making setting up practices difficult. And wondering whether there was something I could do to make it easier to set up a rotation of practices possible. But, since I am apparently dealing with a difficult parent instead, we will just go with a standard rotation of meeting sites (like all the other subteams), with the parent-coaches present, rather than trying to accommodate IG. If she does not attend practice, we can just refer her to be replaced. Thanks!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Come on, you guys are being ridiculous. OP is posting about this issue because within the span of more than a decade, she has experienced this only with Indian parents. So it definitely makes sense to mention it in her description, because she is asking herself whether there is a cultural thing here - I would too, in her shoes. The only reason you find this unbelievable is that you haven't experienced it yourself. However, this does not make her post racist!

Or perhaps there is one angry poster sock-puppetting this thread.

She is asking whether there is a cultural thing here, and about 10 different posts have said that there is not. You and OP (if you're not OP sock puppeting support for herself) have a comprehension problem.

OP here: this makes the solution very easy. This is no SO, but a different, highly competitive team where over 200 kids tried out for about 20 slots. There is a significant wait list. There are strict practice attendance requirements, or the child is replaced on the team. I had thought perhaps there were cultural issues I was unaware of that we're making setting up practices difficult. And wondering whether there was something I could do to make it easier to set up a rotation of practices possible. But, since I am apparently dealing with a difficult parent instead, we will just go with a standard rotation of meeting sites (like all the other subteams), with the parent-coaches present, rather than trying to accommodate IG. If she does not attend practice, we can just refer her to be replaced. Thanks!!

Anonymous wrote:I agree, the nationality of the child does not matter. Is there any way for this one girl to be on a different team? It seems that the constraints the parents would like to place on the rest of the team members will make it difficult for the team to work in the way it is meant to. Or, in the alternative, is there another team for your son?

If this is a team effort, it doesn't seem appropriate for one set of parents to set out different rules than the Olympiad rules.

Anonymous wrote:

Come on, you guys are being ridiculous. OP is posting about this issue because within the span of more than a decade, she has experienced this only with Indian parents. So it definitely makes sense to mention it in her description, because she is asking herself whether there is a cultural thing here - I would too, in her shoes. The only reason you find this unbelievable is that you haven't experienced it yourself. However, this does not make her post racist!

Or perhaps there is one angry poster sock-puppetting this thread.

She is asking whether there is a cultural thing here, and about 10 different posts have said that there is not. You and OP (if you're not OP sock puppeting support for herself) have a comprehension problem.

Come on, you guys are being ridiculous. OP is posting about this issue because within the span of more than a decade, she has experienced this only with Indian parents. So it definitely makes sense to mention it in her description, because she is asking herself whether there is a cultural thing here - I would too, in her shoes. The only reason you find this unbelievable is that you haven't experienced it yourself. However, this does not make her post racist!

Or perhaps there is one angry poster sock-puppetting this thread.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

OP,

I don't understand why PPs are accusing you of racism and not actually acknowledging that there is a significant logistical and possibly safety issue here (not allowing parent coaches inside the house). The parents trying to change the rules of these teams are being extremely rude, in my opinion. And I'm a foreigner myself - I'm not racist towards a particular group.

I haven't experienced this with my kids, so hopefully other PPs will chime in with helpful advice. My children are younger and so far we've only had supervised playdates with DD's friends who have Indian heritage.

Because the "significant logistical and possibly safety issue" should not be attributed to the ethnic group but to this family. And OP is racist for attempting to do this. And ridiculous because she posts here instead if raising it with the family or teacher.

I know a white girl who has the same restrictions. Some parents are very strict and have extremely strict rules.

Anonymous wrote:

OP,

I don't understand why PPs are accusing you of racism and not actually acknowledging that there is a significant logistical and possibly safety issue here (not allowing parent coaches inside the house). The parents trying to change the rules of these teams are being extremely rude, in my opinion. And I'm a foreigner myself - I'm not racist towards a particular group.

I haven't experienced this with my kids, so hopefully other PPs will chime in with helpful advice. My children are younger and so far we've only had supervised playdates with DD's friends who have Indian heritage.