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Anonymous wrote:Mine are sitting in a safe deposit box at the bank to be given to kid 2 when she is old enough. My engagement ring, wedding band and anniversary band all match and have baguettes in addition to the center stone in the engagement ring, so I figure she can make a pretty kicking necklace.

Legally, the engagement ring is a pre-marital gift to the wife so it is hers outright. It does not belong to the husband and does not have to be split with him-not something I would know unless my in-laws had not tried to take the position that everything they ever gave me and the children during the course of our marriage, including birthday presents, were really gifts to my husband.

Mine, too. Pretty common strategy I think.

Wow.

I'm still married but cannot imagine giving the rings back. I'd probably have the diamonds made into something else eventually.

Mine are sitting in a safe deposit box at the bank to be given to kid 2 when she is old enough. My engagement ring, wedding band and anniversary band all match and have baguettes in addition to the center stone in the engagement ring, so I figure she can make a pretty kicking necklace.

Legally, the engagement ring is a pre-marital gift to the wife so it is hers outright. It does not belong to the husband and does not have to be split with him-not something I would know unless my in-laws had not tried to take the position that everything they ever gave me and the children during the course of our marriage, including birthday presents, were really gifts to my husband.

Anonymous wrote:when you divorce - what do you do with it? pawn it? let it sit in a drawer?

The ring value is included as part of the joint marital assets, which are then split 50/50.
Doesn't matter who keeps it, or if it gets sold.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine are sitting in a safe deposit box at the bank to be given to kid 2 when she is old enough. My engagement ring, wedding band and anniversary band all match and have baguettes in addition to the center stone in the engagement ring, so I figure she can make a pretty kicking necklace.

Legally, the engagement ring is a pre-marital gift to the wife so it is hers outright. It does not belong to the husband and does not have to be split with him-not something I would know unless my in-laws had not tried to take the position that everything they ever gave me and the children during the course of our marriage, including birthday presents, were really gifts to my husband.

Mine, too. Pretty common strategy I think.

So sorry this happened to you both! ILs suck even more during divorce.

Anonymous wrote:I gave engagement ring back and threw wedding ring into a river in the city we lived in.

You do realize you threw away metal right? One of the world's most precious resources, usually gold.

Not only did you throw away something valuable that you could have sold, you contaminated water.

Next time (in the U.S. second divorces are far more common than not), pawn it at least.

Give a hoot, don't pollute.

Sold it and didn't get much on the diamond, they don't hold their value, but I took the money from the sale and spent it while I was in Hawaii. Didn't finance the trip but I had some fun shopping!

Anonymous wrote:Mine are sitting in a safe deposit box at the bank to be given to kid 2 when she is old enough. My engagement ring, wedding band and anniversary band all match and have baguettes in addition to the center stone in the engagement ring, so I figure she can make a pretty kicking necklace.

Legally, the engagement ring is a pre-marital gift to the wife so it is hers outright. It does not belong to the husband and does not have to be split with him-not something I would know unless my in-laws had not tried to take the position that everything they ever gave me and the children during the course of our marriage, including birthday presents, were really gifts to my husband.

Mine, too. Pretty common strategy I think.

Pawned the band. Engagement ring was an heirloom from his family. Keeping that for DD.

If the divorce is very bitter and no love has been lost, I would sell it or pawn it. It would be a bad reminder of the mistake I made and would only offer negative energy around my home.

If the divorce was amicable and you feel that you had a good marriage, then I would keep it in a safe place not on my hand.

Or you could offer it to your daughter if you have one when she gets married.

Mine are sitting in a safe deposit box at the bank to be given to kid 2 when she is old enough. My engagement ring, wedding band and anniversary band all match and have baguettes in addition to the center stone in the engagement ring, so I figure she can make a pretty kicking necklace.

Legally, the engagement ring is a pre-marital gift to the wife so it is hers outright. It does not belong to the husband and does not have to be split with him-not something I would know unless my in-laws had not tried to take the position that everything they ever gave me and the children during the course of our marriage, including birthday presents, were really gifts to my husband.

Mine is sitting in a lockbox collecting dust. I had thought I would reset it, but now I'm not sure I want to wear it ever again. And it was an amicable divorce, as divorces go.

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Anonymous wrote:Sold it - didn't want to see it again, didn't want to wear it in another setting, didn't want it in the house and didn't want to pass it down. And I'm really not bitter about the divorce - but it did remind me of the big fat empty promises made by my ex and my bad decision to marry him.

what did you do with the money?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You give it back. That is the only correct answer.

Yeah, if you break up before the wedding.

And only if it was your decision, not his.

10 years, I will at least keep ring. Maybe I'll get the stone reset

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Anonymous wrote:You give it back. That is the only correct answer.

Yeah, if you break up before the wedding.

And only if it was your decision, not his.

I sold mine. The diamond wasn't high quality so I didn't want to save it and the wedding band wasn't anything special. Put the money in my savings account. I've spent the money by now on home/car repairs. Oh, I offered the rings to my ex but he didn't want them back.