Anonymous wrote:So I posted one of these recently during a visit (admittedly I've lived in North Carolina for years now so I didn't know that it was frowned upon) and I'm not disagreeing because you have a LOT more experience with this, but frankly, what I saw was awful and I guess I would desperately want to know if my childcare provider was acting like this. And I just don't know what else to do when the behavior is not illegal but certainly verbally abusive, other than post here, so if you have suggestions, I'd love to know them. It's just that this is the hub for things like this.

Anyway, I'm wanting very much to be respectful, but if anyone HAS suggestions for where this stuff belongs, and would be seen, I'd love to know it. What I saw was bad enough to wear I spoke to the woman, but I'm just not sure what else there is to do.

You realize that there are hundreds, maybe even a few thousand readers on DCUM. While the majority are from the DC metro area, there are many from other states and even a few from other countries here. There are about 2 million households in the DC metro area. Less than 1% of the households in the region are represented here. What do you think the chances are that one individual family that you see has a parent that is on this web-site and also will catch the posting? Pretty miniscule.

If the issues is abusive, contact the police or social services. You can also go up and be nice to the child. Sometimes the nanny may just need a few moments to step back and take a look at herself or the situation and calm down to right the situation. But coming and posting on an anonymous message board is the worst case of making yourself feel better for having done something when you've really done virtually nothing and left a child in an abusive situation. Defuse the situation or call someone else to help. Don't just ignore it and post about it.

Anonymous wrote:So I posted one of these recently during a visit (admittedly I've lived in North Carolina for years now so I didn't know that it was frowned upon) and I'm not disagreeing because you have a LOT more experience with this, but frankly, what I saw was awful and I guess I would desperately want to know if my childcare provider was acting like this. And I just don't know what else to do when the behavior is not illegal but certainly verbally abusive, other than post here, so if you have suggestions, I'd love to know them. It's just that this is the hub for things like this.

Anyway, I'm wanting very much to be respectful, but if anyone HAS suggestions for where this stuff belongs, and would be seen, I'd love to know it. What I saw was bad enough to wear I spoke to the woman, but I'm just not sure what else there is to do.

As far as DCUM is concerned, you can post in our Nanny Forums section. But, you will get a lot of opposition from the nannies and I'm not sure how many parents will see it. I always try to answer questions such as this by asking "what would you do if DCUM didn't exist?" Whatever you would do then, is what you can do now.

Anonymous wrote:So I posted one of these recently during a visit (admittedly I've lived in North Carolina for years now so I didn't know that it was frowned upon) and I'm not disagreeing because you have a LOT more experience with this, but frankly, what I saw was awful and I guess I would desperately want to know if my childcare provider was acting like this. And I just don't know what else to do when the behavior is not illegal but certainly verbally abusive, other than post here, so if you have suggestions, I'd love to know them. It's just that this is the hub for things like this.

Anyway, I'm wanting very much to be respectful, but if anyone HAS suggestions for where this stuff belongs, and would be seen, I'd love to know it. What I saw was bad enough to wear I spoke to the woman, but I'm just not sure what else there is to do.

If you feel that a child's life is in danger, call the police. That is all you can ever do.

So I posted one of these recently during a visit (admittedly I've lived in North Carolina for years now so I didn't know that it was frowned upon) and I'm not disagreeing because you have a LOT more experience with this, but frankly, what I saw was awful and I guess I would desperately want to know if my childcare provider was acting like this. And I just don't know what else to do when the behavior is not illegal but certainly verbally abusive, other than post here, so if you have suggestions, I'd love to know them. It's just that this is the hub for things like this.

Anyway, I'm wanting very much to be respectful, but if anyone HAS suggestions for where this stuff belongs, and would be seen, I'd love to know it. What I saw was bad enough to wear I spoke to the woman, but I'm just not sure what else there is to do.

Anonymous wrote:The Nanny Forum is absolutely useless.

+1

Who are those people posting? That is not real life

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The Nanny Forum is absolutely useless.

I agree with this, and also with Jeff.

Jeff, any possibility of re-integrating the nanny forum into the DCUM forums? They'd get more mainstream traffic and be less taken over by the crazy trolls that seem to infest every thread there.

Please don't reintegrate the nanny forum here. The reason that forum is useless is because there are apparently a lot of bored nannies who hate their jobs and pose as MB just to start arguments. Leave them to their own playground. We don't need anymore of that kind of nonsense on the main board where they can infest every thread here, too. If concerned parents want to improve the discussions about nannies, go on over there and start better threads, report the trolls, and give reasonable advice to any real questions. I try, now and then, to go over there and post reasonably, and have been shot down so often that I rarely post there anymore because the users don't seem to care about anything but fighting.

I also agree with Jeff about the 'I saw your nanny' posts. No good ever seems to come from them.

Anonymous wrote:The Nanny Forum is absolutely useless.

I agree with this, and also with Jeff.

Jeff, any possibility of re-integrating the nanny forum into the DCUM forums? They'd get more mainstream traffic and be less taken over by the crazy trolls that seem to infest every thread there.