Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 21:52     Subject: Private Investigator
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:16:21 here: Be warned that private investigators cost a lot. You have already wasted time with this asshole, do you also want to waste money?


Trustify ftw. Totally worth it. Not expensive at all.


Don't use Trustify, it is a sleezy company- just google how they acted in the wake of the Ashley Madison breach. I would not trust them with any personal info.

Honestly, given his comments to you I would not waste any money on him whatsoever. Save the PI fee and dump the guy, it doesn't sound like a relationship worth salvaging based on what you have said about him.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 21:43     Subject: Re:Private Investigator
Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Not at all. My home was kind of perfect growing up and my dad had always been my biggest reference ( and friend) until he passed away.

I think people put you down so many times that you do start to believe?

I think I just want to understand? And maybe that would provide a reason for his behaviour ....I think until now I had been spilled in my relations and my ex boyfriends are still close friends. I come from a background where respect is crucial so this is way all is so odd.

( for the one that suggested his services in exchange for Chipotle meals, we have a deal )



the only thing to understand is that he's an asshole. Dump him and find a man who will respect you.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 21:43     Subject: Private Investigator
OP, read your post and write a response here as if you were giving advice to one of your girlfriends. You know the answer. Break up before the weekend and change your locks if he has a key.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 21:36     Subject: Private Investigator
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do you need to have proof? He's your boyfriend, not your husband. You don't need anyone's permission to break up with him and you don't have to file any legal paperwork or have any justification. If you don't like the way he is behaving walk away.

Not judging. Just encouraging you to empower yourself. You can leave without looking for a justification.


Agreed. You aren't married. Get rid of him.


Agreed again - you don't need any other reason to break up with him, other than you feel like it! You are dating, you have absolutely no responsibility to stay in a relationship with someone you don't want to. Which is beside the fact this guy has given you a reason but treating you poorly with his rude comments about checking out other women. I know it is a cliche, but look into therapy for yourself and why you are with a jerk like this - you deserve better.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 21:09     Subject: Re:Private Investigator
* spoiled...
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 21:08     Subject: Re:Private Investigator
OP here.

Not at all. My home was kind of perfect growing up and my dad had always been my biggest reference ( and friend) until he passed away.

I think people put you down so many times that you do start to believe?

I think I just want to understand? And maybe that would provide a reason for his behaviour ....I think until now I had been spilled in my relations and my ex boyfriends are still close friends. I come from a background where respect is crucial so this is way all is so odd.

( for the one that suggested his services in exchange for Chipotle meals, we have a deal )

Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 20:12     Subject: Private Investigator
What a jerk...dump him!! Did you grow up in an abusive home, OP? Just wondering why you're still with this abusive guy.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 18:09     Subject: Private Investigator
Anonymous wrote:Why do you need to have proof? He's your boyfriend, not your husband. You don't need anyone's permission to break up with him and you don't have to file any legal paperwork or have any justification. If you don't like the way he is behaving walk away.

Not judging. Just encouraging you to empower yourself. You can leave without looking for a justification.


Agreed. You aren't married. Get rid of him.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 18:01     Subject: Re:Private Investigator
Anonymous wrote:You know what...I think you are right....

I'm just trying to find a justification where there are tons of justifications out there already....Thank you.

Last Thursday I spent one hour getting ready to meet him. On the way to the restaurant several persons told me I look nice including my cab driver ...

His reaction : " the things that you wear. You look like my mother. And you wonder why I look to other women"...Classy.

Either way, you're relationship is over. I can only guess that you want to shove the proof in his face and scream, "I knew it!" before marching out the door. It's fine to use his disrespectful behavior as your excuse to leave.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 17:51     Subject: Private Investigator
I'm semi-retired an nosey. You wouldn't need to do much more than cover my expenses. Mostly Chipotle and Starbucks.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 17:42     Subject: Private Investigator
Anonymous wrote:16:21 here: Be warned that private investigators cost a lot. You have already wasted time with this asshole, do you also want to waste money?


Trustify ftw. Totally worth it. Not expensive at all.
MikeL
Post 09/28/2015 16:25     Subject: Re:Private Investigator
Anonymous wrote:You know what...I think you are right....

I'm just trying to find a justification where there are tons of justifications out there already....Thank you.

Last Thursday I spent one hour getting ready to meet him. On the way to the restaurant several persons told me I look nice including my cab driver ...

His reaction : " the things that you wear. You look like my mother. And you wonder why I look to other women"...Classy.

Sweet Jesus, DTMFA!
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 16:23     Subject: Private Investigator
Anonymous wrote:Your relationship features, "lack of contact, lack of sex, anger moods and denial." In addition, your bf has a bad temper.

You don't need a PI. You really just need to break up. You have all the reasons right there.


+1! Even if he's not cheating, DTMFA! It's so bad that he's making you paranoid.

There are other fish in the sea.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 16:22     Subject: Private Investigator
16:21 here: Be warned that private investigators cost a lot. You have already wasted time with this asshole, do you also want to waste money?
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 16:21     Subject: Private Investigator
Why can't people on DCUM read? The woman asked for private investigator leads, not your assessments of her situation. OP, Believe it or not, but your local police department is actually a great resource on this. Many PIs are former law enforcement officers or hang out with them. Call or go in person and ask for a recommendation.